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But I think I'm in the mood for a quickie. I was over here thinking I was like, you know, had a little broken wing, like a little bird. But here I am and I'm a fucking eagle and I'm soaring through the air and I have no issues, no qualms and nothing to be therapized. Like I am fucking healed and I am 100% ready to go.
What's up? Welcome to Clubbed. I will be your host for the evening. I am not recording on the floor of my apartment today and I'm not recording in any of the regular suspects area. I'm recording from my bed and I'm really, really liking it. I'm like, why didn't I do... See, I just got even more comfortable. I'm like, why didn't I do...
If you're just listening to the audio of this, I do post this to TikTok. But if you guys haven't yet, if you could please share any episode that you found entertaining with your friends or your family. Maybe not the family. I can be a little bit raunchy, but I think your mom and your dad would love it, to be honest. And your little brother and sister. It's like a worse nightmare, but...
You heard my little brother? Potty mouth. Yeah, if you could share with people. I'm just trying to get the word out about the show because I don't really post to social media as much as I should. And it used to be the kind of thing where if you had a...
Big podcast. Not even a big podcast. But like... If you had a podcast with a substantial following... Then people would go check out your socials. Now...
If you have a big following on your socials, people will go check out your podcast. So for anyone actually entering into the podcast space, and I know a lot of you guys have thought about it because the market is so goddamn saturated. But honestly, if you are curious about starting your own podcast, go.
biggest piece of advice is to absolutely pursue it, but just know that you're not going to really get anywhere until you have people listening. And how are you going to have people listening? They're not going to find you on the podcast app, like very rarely. And the main way they're going to come across you is either by word of mouth, which I am...
humbly asking you guys to help me with or by you know being like the next Alex Earl and posting six TikToks a day which is gonna be my new MO I spend so much time and blood sweat and tears into the podcast itself and just really trying to do quality content and it's
I think that's great and I'm not gonna stop giving you guys quality content but I am gonna shift my energy a little bit towards social media because that is the fucking currency baby and you know what you can either hop on or get ran over and I'm gonna hop on
So with all of that said, I want to just give you guys like a teeny little update. Number one, my EMDR therapist broke up with me. Call that karma. And that's what I get for breaking up with my therapist.
ex-boyfriend of two years. I've never had a situation like this with a therapist ever. I've heard horror stories and she's not my main therapist, you know, like my main therapist. Her name is Megan. We talk every single week on Tuesday for 45 minutes or an hour, but it's, it's not Megan. This was a lady that Megan actually referred to me for
And said that she's heard really great things. And if you're going to do EMDR, like you really need to do it right. EMDR, for those of you who don't know, stands for rapid eye movement therapy, something in that realm. And
Basically, it says, well, it doesn't say. It's been clinically proven that you can process things, particularly trauma, much better if the left and the right brain are being activated.
So, yeah, I had, I think, three sessions with her. And then on the third session, we really got into the weeds. And that was the session where I had to recall said traumatic event or events and talk through them while I was like holding on to this machine. There's different ways you can do EMDR.
And she told me that she wanted me to recall the incident, but in a very matter of fact way. Don't tell me how you felt. Don't tell me like all of the little tiny details because I know it's kind of complex. Just explain to me from beginning to end what happened and
And think about it in terms of you need to tell me the entirety of the story in 20 minutes. And I was like, ma'am, have you heard of a fucking mini episode? Baby girl, I think I fucking know how to tell a story in 20 minutes. Okay. So I go through the whole thing and...
She asked me right after I finish how I felt. This is starting to sound sexual. Just kidding. I would never have sex for 20 minutes. Actually, I've heard that that is the ideal amount of time for a woman to be able to like really relax and get into it and have a successful orgasm.
I heard that 20 minutes is kind of the sweet spot. Well, 20 minutes minimum. Let's be real. Let's be real because girls can take their fucking time. So I recall this incident and she asked me how I feel. And I say, not much. There's not a lot of feelings coming out of me right now.
And she goes, okay, that's totally normal. You know, we'll get more into it next session. But this is like, this is an interesting reaction, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, okay, awesome. You know, it's, I've talked, I am an open book and I talk to everybody about, immediately about,
very vulnerable shit. I don't try to put a front on and act like I have it together. In fact, I do quite the fucking opposite, which is...
spill the tea and show all of your fucking colors and tell everyone even the most embarrassing issues you're dealing with. And that's, that's going to be your brand. So I've talked about this incident and I thought maybe that's why I didn't feel emotional when I was talking about it. Or maybe it's because I was treating it like a mini. I don't know, but I show up
of last week. But I show up to our fourth session and I sit down and she goes, so this is what I think we should do. I think that you should continue with Megan and continue the work that you've been doing there and get very, very clear on what the trauma is.
That would be really fucked up. She wasn't questioning like the trauma, but she just said for a lot of people, there is a horrifying incident, but that incident is just poking the bear and the bear actually lies somewhere in early childhood. And that's the, that's where you need to get. Like you need to get into those weeds and,
I'm like, I can't like what I'm supposed to remember shit from when I was four years old. I don't fully get that whole thing, but she explains those things to me. And mind you, I'm going in for a full session. And last week she told me,
"Okay, this is a normal response and we are going to continue on this path." And you know, sometimes it takes a few sessions. All of a sudden, I'm sitting in her office on the couch with a box of tissues and homegirl is just like, "Yeah, no. I want you to just like continue doing your talk therapy separately and maybe we can reconvene down the road."
My first reaction was to cry. I was feeling very emotional that day. I'm not going to lie. But like then my second reaction, which was me telling her, which was less of a reaction. It was me straight up saying, I feel like my abandonment issues are getting very triggered right now. And I'm also confused. Like, can you explain this to me more? And yeah,
I don't have like a bunch of clarity as to why but she basically was like my response was not indicative of that being the pressure point in my life and that being the thing that has made me operate in whatever way I am now and that it was something much earlier and
And we went on to have like a very productive conversation. I looked at her and I was like, I guess I'm healed. I was over here thinking I was like, you know, had a little broken wing, like a little bird. But here I am and I'm a fucking eagle and I'm soaring through the air and I have no issues, no qualms and nothing to be therapized. Like I am fucking healed now.
And I am 100% ready to go and ready to move forth and operate in this fully healed, I have no fucking issues state of mind. I didn't say it in exactly those words. I wouldn't swear in front of her. I at least would try not to. But I genuinely made a joke. And I was like, oh, so that means like I've done the work. I'm good.
And she laughed and told me, listen, I don't want to...
Have you do a bunch more EMDR if I don't think it's working? And I actually really respect that she did that. And I respect that she did it so early on too. I really appreciate it. It was just like, it was like a very different vibe from how we left off the last session. So that's really interesting. Also, do we find it a little bit interesting that
These sessions are $390 per session. That is New York for you. And trust me, at first when I heard that number, I was like, um, I don't know.
I don't know about this. Like, that is fucking... That is a lot of money. 400 bucks on a weekly basis. Not to mention, I have Megan, who's a superstar and a psychiatrist who I see, like, every six months. But...
It was a little bit bizarre to me that she treated this session like it was going to be this full EMDR session, but within five minutes of sitting down, she's like, oh, we're actually not doing EMDR. Like, couldn't you have just kind of told me that at the end of last session? Because between the Uber and the 390 bucks and the time that I spend here and in the fucking Uber, like, I'm paying a pretty penny, right?
Why was I not told this earlier? Because I understand she probably didn't want to do it over the phone or fucking email. Then I would have been actually horrified. But...
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So yeah, that is my EMDR experience. Can't say it worked for me. Can't say I wouldn't recommend it because I just, I didn't, it wasn't happening. And I've heard it's really, really beneficial and helpful and life-changing for a lot of people. But I guess I am not one of those people. So to ayahuasca fucking land we go.
And it kind of felt a little bit nice to hear her say like, yeah, that's not the issue here. The issue is like dates way back. I don't know why that was like kind of comforting, but it fucking was. And that's it for today's mini, you guys. I just like have been kind of thinking about the whole thing in my head and like trying to figure it out.
And if something similar has ever happened to you or if you have any insight into EMDR, please DM me. Please, please, please DM me. Or better yet, write to my anonymous questions link. There's a link in the description of this episode. And there's also a link on the Sophia F podcast page as
Is it Sophia F. Podpage? I should fucking know that. Just type in Sophia Franklin and it will be there. And if you go to the highlight reels, there is one where you can select it and you can write it in there. But I'm so curious. And besides that, I mean, dating life, non-existent. I did have a little bit of a blunder and I...
I just I cannot keep secrets with you guys. Like I really fucking can't. I fucked up and I reached out to him. It was very impulsive. It was like I was going through a really not great day and I was like sleep deprived and like did it at all the things.
And I fucked up and I reached out and I opened the channel of communication and I never once said let's get back together. I made a mistake like I'm not no I'm not that wild but it was a mistake on my part and it's like now I have to put the jack in the box back in the fucking box.
So 10 out of 10 do not recommend doing that because it's like you break up with someone and then you have to just do it all over again. And no one wants to fucking do that. So that's me. However, I want to end this on a high note. I am leaving for the Hamptons tomorrow.
And I'm really genuinely excited, which is very different than how I've been in the past when I went to the Hamptons or thought about going to the Hamptons. It has like such a connotation to it. Like you just think Lana Del Rey and A$AP Rocky in the music video National Anthem. If you haven't seen that, go check it out right now. It's just very rich, right?
very snobby very exclusive just like it just or maybe it's just me but I highly doubt it I just made it to be this thing in my head and like every time I would go and stay at a friend's house or anybody's house I would make sure that I looked fucking perfect and I got the spray tan and I had the coolest cutest outfits you've ever fucking seen this time around I
I booked this house off Airbnb last night. Last night. And I leave tomorrow morning. Rented the car last night. I just want to go lay by the pool. I don't even know if I'm going to go to the club.
flash forward and you guys are definitely gonna see me at a fucking surf lodge or some shit i just want to lay by the pool day drink an aperol spritz and honestly i'll probably be working that is the real reality hey you know what i will let you guys know and with that sleuths i love you guys so fucking much and i will talk to you next week
Bye.
