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Positive affirmations, write it in lipstick on your mirror and say it out loud every morning. So I am going to jump into SOS, Save Our Salutes questions that you guys write in. One of these questions was from today. So I just, I felt called.
You know, this is my calling and I grabbed that microphone and I sat my ass down in the studio. I'm actually on set, which as you guys know for the minis is just my bedroom. Let's jump into SOS, my favorite people, because it's cozy vibes and you guys wrote in some great shit and this...
Slu, we need to help her and we need to help her ASAP because her situation is dire. All right. Question number one. Do you think it's normal to be in a long-term relationship and at some point feel like you fell out of love with the person but still want the relationship to work?
Would I basically have to meet the person all over again and do things to reignite the spark? Or do you think the relationship is over? So great question, by the way. Great, great question. I think every single person that's married asks themselves this on a regular basis. So just like with everything in life, nothing is stagnant.
Everything ebbs and flows. And I've learned a lot about this in meditation. Your feelings are there now and they will be gone later. Everything in your life, and it can be a depressing thing or it can be an extremely empowering thing. This scary, horrible feeling will go. This incredible, amazing moment will also go. So I need to savor it.
But when it comes to love, this same rule applies. Okay. And I like to call what this slew is going through a love shift because you're not going to stay in the honeymoon phase forever. And I mean, damn, I will be obsessed in love with someone and two days later be like, I can't stand you. Like get out of my house.
So I feel you, baby girl, and you're in this long term, which is, I want to say, like the expected thing to happen. Your love. Let me clarify. You love this man.
Are you in lust? Do you have butterflies? Do you want to jump him and fuck his brains out? Maybe not so much, but you love him. You're just not feeling that like honeymoon. Oh my God, I want to be with you for the rest of my life. Like you're just not feeling that right now, but you want to stay in the relationship.
I think there's a really good chance that you didn't fall out of love with this person. You are just not feeling him right now. And the great news is that shit can switch and flip in any time. And you can find yourself reinvigorated and re-sparked and re-all the re's in
back head over heels in love with him. Now the same is true for homeboy. I think within a relationship, the love for one another, it kind of, it's like a seesaw. You might be super into him one second. He might be into you one second. And then the same is true for the opposite. You might be feeling obsessed with him and he's not feeling it as much or vice versa.
And so all I want to say, I'm going to wrap this up, is stick it out a couple to a few months and see if something changes. And if you find yourself after trying new things and going on dates again and having alone time again and maybe go on vacation somewhere or just doing something to reignite that spark and
giving him a Viagra and you make sure that you are horny as fuck. You had porn on for an hour and now you guys are going to have sex. Just do some things to reignite that spark. There's a million things. I could do an episode about it. And if months go by and nothing has changed, then...
maybe you really need to end the relationship. Your question about would I basically have to meet the person all over again? Okay, well, I don't know if there's some kind of breakthrough science that happened. I don't know how you're going to meet him again. I don't really know how that would work. But...
I don't think the relationship is necessarily over and just don't jump ship. Give it a little and then jump ship. Also, ask him about it. Ask him how he feels. I think that's always really important because usually if one person isn't happy, then maybe the other person isn't happy either. Just get a pulse on how he's feeling.
Because he might come at you with the same thing. He might be like, I am so bored of your ass. You never know. So that's my advice. All right, moving on. Question number two. I just moved to NYC. Congrats, girl. And I'm looking for a career change. How do you recommend I network myself to become a personal assistant? Hmm.
Interesting. Did I or did I not just post a looking to hire a personal assistant on my Instagram story the other day? Yeah, I think I did. You are slick, my friend. You are a slick sleut. I'm not hiring anymore.
I love how this girl's like, wait, I'm like, I'm talking about, I don't know, a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, not you, Sophia. But I think this was like her way of saying like, I'm trying to be your personal assistant for sure. No question about it. You could just be upfront next time and just say, I'm a huge fan. I would like to be your personal assistant. That was a joke. I got to add an LOL to things these days. Okay. Okay.
I have the best advice for this question. I've learned that when trying to land your dream job, it's the unconventional way that's going to get you there. I wish so badly that when I was fresh out of college, spending countless hours applying to random job postings, that...
I would have known this because you know what? None of those materialized. None. The college HR department or whatever help you find a career after you graduate shit. They didn't help. It's the unconventional shit. And let me explain, okay? The cold call is really where it's at. Step one.
Find someone you admire. Say you're into interior design and you're scrolling and you come across a page that really, really speaks to you. And this particular designer is like who you want to be when you grow up. Okay. Step two is to reach out to this person directly. And when I say directly...
You don't ask them if they're hiring. You don't go and look at the establishment they work at or the brand and see if there's any job postings. No, you absolutely don't do that. You let them know that whether they're hiring or not, you are ready to work because you admire what they do so much.
And if you can't work and get paid, then you are ready to just show up and learn from them. I know people are going to say, okay, well, I need to make fucking money. And I understand that totally. You can still do this and you will intern after your job. And next thing you know, you're working for them full time as their personal assistant. Step three is
How to reach out. How do you reach out to this person? You're not hitting them up on LinkedIn. That's where everyone's trying to do this shit, okay? I had a professor who wrote my thesis on the whiteboard for a class of 100 people to teach them what a thesis was. And I hit that bitch up after the fact.
And no response. So that was cool. Anyways, how to reach out. Unconventionally, you message them on all social platforms. You Google search the fuck out of them until you find a direct contact of some kind. You show up to their headquarters unannounced.
Like you do whatever it takes because you are there to show them how serious you are about working for them. And just a little side note, make sure you've done your research. You know what I'm saying? Like don't just show up and be like, I'm obsessed with you like a stalker. Show up and show that you have done extensive research on the person. You know what they're about.
You speak to what you know will resonate with them. And then you give them some ideas of your own. Maybe not so much how to like make the business better unless it is set in a very diplomatic, tied up, wrapped up in a bow kind of way. But you guys get what I'm saying. Make it known to them that it makes sense for them to have you around.
And that sounds like too crazy. Like if you think like, uh, I'm not fucking doing that. That sounds insane. That was my reaction when I was younger and my mom was telling me to like do these unconventional out of the box things to get a job. If you are feeling that way or if you are feeling like, okay, well, maybe I've done that already and it hasn't worked out for me. Let me tell you this.
The majority of people that I've had work for me. I have hired because they DM'd me not when I had a job posting up, just DM'd me out of the blue. Let me know how badly they want to work for me. Let me know how fucking incredible and talented I am.
And let me know that they were hungry for it. And that coming in when I'm not even looking for someone just makes it 10 times more likely that you do get hired. That's a crazy kind of concept right there. And, you know, sometimes several DMs is what it took. But that is how a lot of my team has...
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Question number three, is being a virgin in your late 20s really unattractive to men? I grew up kind of ugly and was ugly well into my adult life. So I never had the confidence to have sex. And now that I'm 26 and decent looking, is it too late? Okay, girly pop. It is never too late.
Unless you're trying to date Leonardo DiCaprio. But the fact that you are a virgin, no matter how old you are, is fortunately, unfortunately, a big green flag, boner alert thing.
this girl is marriage material for guys. That is how they interpret it. You're still living in your ugly girl phase. And even you saying like, now that I'm decent looking, you got to stop operating from that headspace. You are stunning. You are gorgeous. Say it. Positive affirmations. Write it in lipstick on your mirror and say it out loud every morning.
You ought to stop operating from that headspace and operate from the headspace of I am hot. I have way more to offer than my looks, which is my virgin ass pussy. That was a really funny joke. But excuse me. Guys love it.
And guys love it. And just to prove it to you, I called this guy who, you know, we have an interesting dynamic. Like I kind of have a crush on him, but like he's unavailable, but then whatever. And I asked him how he feels about a girl being a virgin. And he said, there's nothing more attractive than knowing that your girl is
Has been touched by no one. Let that sink in. So baby girl, your worries about being a virgin are just, they're not right. They're just wrong. And my only concern for you is that you may find yourself in a situation with guys that
that they like fetishize that and that's like, you know, their big reason as to why they are pursuing you. Don't let that be the reason why. I would actually hold that information back until you guys get to know each other a little bit. But yeah,
No, baby, you're a prize. And it's not just your pussy, your virgin pussy that's a prize. It's you, baby girl. Hopefully you hear this in time. And with that, Sleuths, I love you so much. And I will talk to you next week.
