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- It's Sophia Franklin. You are listening to Sophia with an F and the F is for phenomenal. This podcast is rated F. - I love this sort of content in general 'cause I'm just like, I love having conversations about things that actually matter. - Me too. - Yeah. - I mean, usually I'm talking about sex, like how to give a great blow job.
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- Kind of my new best friend. - Yeah, honestly, this is dope. Your intro is amazing. - What do you mean my intro? - Like your presentation voice. I didn't know that that was gonna come out right there. - Did my voice change? - Yeah, you had a much different inflection. - Really? - Yeah, it was impressive. - This is Bradley Martin, by the way. - Yes, thank you. - He is very good looking, very in shape. I'm still trying to figure out if he's like a good guy.
Maybe a little shady. I don't know. We've had a few shots. How? How? How would I be shady at all? Actually, no. You are. I can tell you are very, very kind. Genuinely, you are. I appreciate it. So Bradley, introduce yourself, which I hate when people tell me to do that shit, but I feel like you have a whole like elevator pitch. I really don't, man. I mean, I don't.
So guys, my name is Bradley Martin. No, I don't have an elevator pitch. I really don't. Yeah, I film videos. I make podcasts. I've been doing it for a very long time. You're a big deal. I think so. I mean, I'm big. I'm big. I don't know about a big deal, but I'm like probably a bigger guy. Yeah. Yeah. So you are dating someone right now. Yes. Yeah. For the majority of dudes, like what do they look for? The dudes look for. Well, I personally, at the same time, like I don't think I can speak for every guy, but I can say for sure that...
I think it's really important for someone that you involve in your life to be someone that has something that is important for them, like as a human. Something that...
Beyond the physicality, beyond like the looks, beyond all the stuff, at least at this point in my life at 33 years old, when I was younger, I was a lot more superficial as far as what I looked for and why I even cared about being involved with women. Okay, Bradley, I have to cut you off because you were singing a very different tune when I was just on your show. What did I say differently? I need a girl that will, you know, do the laundry, have a sandwich ready for me when I get home.
I was also saying that someone having a purpose is the most important part. So I said, yeah, there are those things that I really do value in a relationship because for me, things that I don't want to do so much so for myself because I'd rather focus on other things. But at the same time, I still said, even on that pod, and like I'll say here now, is at this point in my life, I look for someone who has something that they're passionate about. And if that evolved into something where they didn't have the time to cook me a sandwich or to make dinner or to do these other things that I want to help with,
that I'd be able to understand that. Cause like I was talking about how love is like a learning and a growing experience. So I fully stand by that. Which I do want to touch on, but you don't care about the success or the financials when it comes to a girl. Not at all. No, no. I think it's more about having something that they're passionate about, whether they're making a ton of money on it or making no money or just having something that they can
because you know if you're in a relationship i feel like that is all dominantly just one person looking to the other for like their source of motivation or their source of like purpose yeah like if a girl's purpose is just me it's a big issue or vice versa if a guy's purpose is just his girl there's a big issue there's always going to be a power dynamic struggle that's not going to feel good it's a matter of understanding where someone's at in relationship to where i'm at and being able to be willing to grow with that person but i say all that to say i think it's i think those are the things i look at more now
And when I was younger, it was more just like, yeah, how hot was it? Straight up. Well, you're kind of still in that zone. Not really. A little bit. Which part do you think? I mean, men, I don't care what age, it always boils down to how hot the girl is. That's a main factor. Yeah.
Always. Yeah, I think though at some point, because this fades entirely for both people, men or women, that it does really matter someone's heart. Like, can you sit with someone and have a conversation with them about fucking nothing? Or can you sit in a room and have a conversation about nothing and it doesn't feel weird or it doesn't feel like something should or shouldn't be said? Right. Can you have that sort of energy exchange that feels very like...
calm or good without forcing something to be or like a conversation. So there's a lot more like, a lot more things that I think matter, especially as you age that you start to realize like didn't, like always mattered the most, but you weren't as aware of it. And then as you got older, you realize this is actually what really matters because physicality, all this shit's gonna fade and change. And it's like,
if you lived off just of what someone looked like, then it's, that's like almost like living in the sense of trying to make more and more money. It's just like, it's a never ending cycle of like, if you only like this person or love this person. Yeah. If you liked her, cause she looked like this,
Then eventually she doesn't look like this. And then you look at the other young girl who looks like this and now you love her. And it's like, you're in this constant state of searching for more. Right. Just like if I was trying to find money, it's like, there's never enough to make. Right. I love how you said young girl. That's what happens, right? You get married and then the dude ends up wanting like a hot 20 something year old. This is a funny thing. I think it's really interesting. Like, you know, there's a lot of young girls who date older guys and then...
because they got money and because they have all this stuff or whatever. I don't know if that's you specifically because I know you're doing well for yourself, but a lot of young girls date older guys because they're more established or they feel like this person has things that can provide for them. And if their only reason, if that guy's only reason to date the younger girl just because she's
look as old as like another woman then eventually it's like if there's nothing else built around that he's going for the next one right right the next one down the next one down so I think that's what I'm saying it's so important for for women beyond just like the physicality to try to develop within themselves and this is goes vice versa for men like you you can't just be a
Like you need to have something that is like valuable to you. Cause I think even the rich guy who's like just taking the girl, if he starts to see like, well, this girl really is passionate about this and she cares about that. Then like, he would be more likely to want to stay with that person than just to be like, Oh, all I care about is this. The thing that I'm hitting on is like, it's just a matter of,
men or women having something that they really care about outside of just having a relationship or having like a person in your life. Like if you have something like, I fully believe if you're able to genuinely love yourself, you could actually genuinely love someone else. And I don't think people can genuinely love themselves if they don't have something that they genuinely love themselves.
for themselves, right? - Wow, okay. - So if my love was based on I love you and I love you because you mean this to me and I don't have anything external that allows me to like have this own self-love with who I am and what I do and what I'm working on or what I'm working towards, then my love is always based on external forces and not what's actually happening within me. - Right. - So then I can never truly genuinely love another person and I can't truly genuinely be loved by another person because there's that discrepancy with myself.
So how do you genuinely love yourself?
That's something I'm battling with. I think we all battle with it. I battle with it. I'm definitely not figuring this out, but I think it's being able and willing to confront yourself on all the levels that you know you really need to in order to actually grow as a human so that you can love yourself, so that you can accept yourself for all your flaws and not be like down on yourself because these things happen to you. Being able to accept what you went through, being able to like try to look back and make the most out of it. And none of this is easy. All of this is extremely hard. And that's why I think a lot of people find themselves in these like
same cycles in relationships because they're unwilling to like go at that thing in themselves it's whether it's related to their ego why they can't let go of something because it's related to some other shit in their past or why they can't genuinely allow themselves to love like i've struggled really deeply with allowing myself to genuinely love because my fear of being being taken away from me because like i told you my part about losing my father when i was young when i was yeah yes so because my father took himself out of my life like he killed himself so i was like my
my relationship to all the love in my life is that, you know, if I get too close to someone, I felt like they're going to take themselves away from me and hurt me. And it's going to hurt because it's already hurt. And I know what it feels like. And I want to avoid that. So anytime I would get close to loving, I would like almost create issues that
oftentimes we're not even there or exacerbate issues that were small and make them very large to be able to create distance so that I can be okay. - Like a defense mechanism. - Yeah, and in reality, I was ending up in the situation that I didn't want to end up in, which was losing that person. - But it was something that you were in control of and knew would happen, right? So it felt safe almost.
Yeah, now I'm way more aware of it and more in control of it. But I still... It's like I still tend to create circumstances like that because...
I don't know. It's like my fear of fully giving into something, fully allowing myself to love. I cannot fully be in a loving, like symbiotic relationship with someone else if I can't fully get past those things in my life because it's not going to allow me to. I know that. Like I've tried and I was talking to you on my pod about like the plant medicine and doing all this stuff and working on myself. And that stuff has really helped me get closer to
what I need to get through in my life, but it's still work no matter what, and it still takes time no matter what to like really pick it apart, see yourself for who you really are and continue to try to grow and
try to let down all those fucking defenses that we all set up. Which I mean, you'll be doing that your whole life, right? Yeah. Hopefully people think they'll like reach Nirvana or like an aha moment. I know everything, but I don't think that ever really happened. No, that never happens. I think like it's all a learning process. And it's, it's supposed to be, I mean, that's what life is. And we were talking earlier too about that's what love really is, is love is really understanding where someone's at at that time, understanding where you're at and being able to like,
communicate in a way that allows you guys to continue to grow together. And then when love falls out, it's because someone's not willing to either understand or hear or listen or get where someone else is. But it's hard because people to accept that someone else is just on a completely different perspective, which we all are, but also a different timeline in their life as far as what they've learned and what they know to that point is completely different than you and I and everyone independently, right? So we find ourselves in positions a lot of times where people get
really demoralized in their situations or relationships not working out, but it's really tough to accept the fact that
timing is so important and someone's time is just completely different than someone else's time in relationship to their ability to learn about themselves and how they love or how they're supposed to love or how they need love and being able to even willing to share that. Like if I, if I was in love with you and I wasn't able to tell you all the things that I needed to feel love for me with us. And then I have this like relationship with you that, Oh, you don't understand me. You don't appreciate me. And it's like, well, what if I was never able to fully explain to you what I needed? Because maybe I haven't fully come to that conclusion yet for myself. Right.
And coming to that conclusion is fucking, how do you get there? How do you get to that self-actualization to that degree? I mean, fuck, I'm not a fucking professional. Say it. I did ayahuasca. I mean, I'm not, I'm not obviously not a professional at this by any means because I'm still trying to figure this out in my life to make it, you know, as smooth as I want it to be. You sound pretty close. I'm close, I think. I think so. It really does come down to looking at yourself without...
all the filters that you place on it like we place so many filters on ourselves about like how we should be or how we need people to show up in our lives and we create all these like expectations based on our expectation of others right so i think it comes down to as much as you can being able to remove your ego in relationship to all these decisions that we make yeah for ourself and it's just it's hard it's the hardest thing because like we built up like
all this shit around who we are or how we want people to perceive us or how we want to be loved or how or what love is to us and also all these filters right we're not even aware of yeah that's a scary part like how are you gonna deal with it if you don't know that it's there exactly yeah so that's that's the thing i think comes down to like
really looking inwards and being introspective about yourself and your life and what you've been through and the traumas that you've been through in your childhood and your past relationships and looking at all those moments and trying to figure out how you got there. Cause a lot of times people get in relationships and it'll be like a repeat of the last one, just like a different version. And it's like, there's something there for you to learn. Otherwise it wouldn't just keep happening.
And it's not just about the other person because everyone goes, well, he hurt me or she hurt me and that's why I'm here. It's like, no, like, yeah, that maybe did happen and you are hurt, but you got there somehow by your accord as well. Yeah. I feel personally attacked. Yeah, it's tough. But not because I'm fully aware it's me every time. Yeah.
- Yeah, and that's the thing is being able to accept that and then looking back on those moments and really trying to discern the information say, okay, this is how I got here. This is why this happened. Like this was my foot in this. This was the steps that I allowed to get there and accepting it to be able to say, okay, this is where I'm at. Where do I wanna go? - Yeah. - And that's all you can do. And it is hard 'cause it's accepting self like flaws. It's accepting that I'm not good enough or I'm not this or that and then re-teaching yourself
Okay, I am and I can be, here's why and let me move forward and try and make that happen. - But also being comfortable and okay with, you're not perfect, you have flaws. - Yeah, no one's perfect. - And that's okay though. - Yeah. - I think a lot of people try to fight that. - Yeah, a lot of people fight that and they also like to blame everyone else.
- Do you? - There was times in my life when I would be like, they did this to me, this happened for sure. - So, okay, so tell me this, 'cause I'm the opposite. Anything that happens, I'm like, Sophia, how did you fuck up? - I'm trying to think, I think when I was in that space where I was like really self-deprecation, I'm like, this is because of me. Maybe the reason why I was that way more so when I was younger, not that everyone else is the problem now, but
I was really hurt. Like if I'm thinking about in relationship to my father, I was really hurt that my father took his life because I was like, oh, I'm not good enough. So I tend to have this like. Oh, you put it on yourself. Yeah. Can we talk about that? Sure. So you put the blame on yourself when that happened to some degree. Yeah, to some degree, for sure. Okay. And how did your family, like your mom, like everyone around it, how did they act?
I mean, it wasn't, no, no one was blaming, you know, I guess themselves. I, I think my mom had a little bit of a poor relationship with it. Cause she more so was like, I have to make sure my, my boys are okay. Me and my brother. And then she obviously had her own, you know, love relationship connection to it, losing that. And like,
having to kind of like be strong in the whole situation. I don't think anyone else really like blamed themselves for it. And I didn't necessarily just say like, this is my fault. I guess it was more so like my ego, myself was like, oh, I'm not good enough for you to stay around because as I would go through life and then I would experience other shit like graduation or like football and you see other people, kids interact with their parents and I'd be like, why don't I have that? It was more of a comparison that I didn't have these things that like other people had. Right.
Which I can kind of relate to, to a certain degree, because my dad was not there. Yeah.
And also you were so young when it happened, right? Yeah, I was six. Six. How is your mom really supposed to act in that situation? It's so hard. Yeah. To a six-year-old. I mean, she did the best she could. Of course. No blame on her. I mean, I can't... Looking back now at 33 years old, it's actually crazy when I look back and I'm like, damn, she lost the love of her life. And then she had to tell these two boys that, you know, your dad's not coming back. Yeah. And then trying to...
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when you were talking about you would see kids with their parents and you know yeah the fact that my dad and i've i've spoken about this like he met me twice right once in middle school once in high school and then was like i'm good don't want to talk to her i'm sure that
my self-worth and my self-esteem and like all of that shit was heavily affected by that. For sure. - Without a doubt, yeah. I mean, that's the thing when we're young, like I don't think, I mean, even younger than that, how much our brains and how much we develop like personality and personality traits like is so, so relevant to who we are for the rest of our lives. - I know. - I think a lot of people, I think a lot of people know that, but don't really realize that how important it is to go back
to those times, like as wherever you are now, based on your life, wherever you are now, going back to those younger times and like addressing that part of your life from a newer perspective is so powerful. And I think a lot of people don't do that because it's uncomfortable to go back to like
talk to in a sense that younger self and be like, hey, how did you create these assumptions about yourself then? And how do they, like, are they even serving you now? Because 10 times out of 10, they're not. I mean, I'm 30 and I just in the past year am like starting that journey of like talking to my inner or my younger self, which you talk about that a lot. Yeah. I've been dealing with that for a long time. Can you explain that? Because I haven't fully like
Dived into that shit. Yeah. Well, a good friend of mine, he came on the pod. He's a mentor of mine. He had me write a letter to my younger self. Okay. And that changed my life. Like it absolutely changed my life. Yeah. I wrote a letter to my six-year-old self in relationship to what had happened. Wow.
- Wow. - It just allowed me to put thought, you know, pen to paper, like the thoughts that I have now as a 30 year old, 33 year old man in relationship to myself as a six year old man, a six year old kid, right? - Yeah. - Where I'm able to say like, I know you felt this way, but here's your perspective now.
- Wow. - What happened to you then is not gonna dictate your life now. You don't have to allow it. So I wrote all these things to myself, literally a letter to myself. I'm not opening the mailbox as a six year old being like, "Oh shit, I'm reading this." I'm reading it as myself now, but it was to myself. And that really changed my perspective. It was crazy 'cause when he told me to write that letter to myself, I was like,
This is, I remember thinking like, what is that going to do? How the fuck is this going to benefit me? But I just started writing and then like, I'm like crying and like writing this shit. Wow. Yeah. And it's just, you don't, fuck you. No. I don't think you realize. I think it's amazing. I don't think you realize how much shit like,
you don't think of until you start like really putting it out. - Right, until you're older and you're writing it on paper. - Yeah, and you have perspective. So like, I've always talked about this too. My father took his life when he was, I think 38, 38 or 36 years old. And now I'm 33.
my perspective is completely entirely different on someone who did that right like i'll never say it's good you took your life but as i aged and as i went through shit and as i dealt with people and losses and got fucked over and taken advantage of and hurt i started to realize like not why someone would take them their life but like how he could get there based on his life and his circumstances because you never have that perspective as a six-year-old you're not like this guy just left me now i'm just i gotta figure out my life and that's your only perspective but
But looking back now, I'm like, damn, the amount of shit I've gone through now, I'm not saying it makes sense, but it definitely, it paints a much different picture for me to see it now. You understand it more. I understand him. Yeah, exactly. Like where he could have been and what he might've been doing. And based on the stories and things that I learned about him after the fact, obviously in my older age and the relationship to the things that I've been through in my older age, I'm able to say, wow, not that this was okay, but I can understand how someone can get there more.
Absolutely. So it's all about just being able to go back and pull those things and like look at them through like a real honest lens with yourself now. And that's really hard for a lot of people to do because it's fucking uncomfortable.
- See, I feel very comfortable and I'm very self-aware and I don't know how to even get there. Like get that deep. And like, how did you? - Yeah, I think, number one, I think I'm a really weird person. And then number two, like the gym for me was a thing that if I explain this to you, you ask like, how did I get there? When I did the gym, like, oh man. The reason why I'm talking about the gym
Was that I think I spent so much time thinking about what happened to me and the relationship to my father in the gym was I was so angry. I was so fucking mad. Oh, you were angry. So fucking mad. Because this is when I got older. I was so... Pissed.
So probably when you were younger, it was more sadness and you felt hurt. And then as you got older, it was anger. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. A lot of anger. And so the gym, I think the reason why I'm at this point now where I'm able to look back more clearly and like you said, like, how can you get there? Because I spent so many years thinking about it.
- Wow. - Like, every time I worked out, I was so mad. - You were thinking about it. - Yeah. - Every time you worked out. - Every time. - Wow. - Even before in the sadness when I was younger, I would constantly question like,
why me? I remember repeating this to myself all the time. How come I deserve this? What did I do to deserve this? I was very upset with the idea that it happened to me. - Right? Like you were wronged in life. - Yeah, in a sense. And so then this is the really important part for everyone listening.
All this shit that I dealt with that like built me up to this point in my life where I'm doing fitness shit, I'm filming fitness videos, I'm like meeting people and I would talk about this kind of stuff in my videos, like bits and pieces and workout videos and I would share about my life.
And then people would come up to me and say like, yo, when you talked about your dad, this meant a lot to me and you gave me this. Then I started to realize like, wait, all this shit finally makes sense. So it took me 20 years for this like loss to feel really good. Why? Because people were relating to it? Yeah, people were saying, yo, I really appreciate when you talked about your dad. I mean, I've literally had conversations with guys who like didn't kill themselves, who were in the process. Wow.
- Wow. - Of killing themselves who are friends to me to this day, shout out Martin, he's in Austin, a friend of mine. And people, there's a lot of people who have like sent me messages and they said, "Yo, when you talked about this, "you helped me with my situation in my life." - Right. - I thought about suicide then I was like, "Yo, if he can go through this, I can go through that." All those kinds of messages for years. - Mm-hmm. - It started happening 'cause I became more comfortable with sharing my story. - Yeah. - And so around 26, I was like, "Oh, this finally makes sense." So it took me 20 years for that hurt that like
that pain to be like, this is a positive. And I think it's just important for people to hear that 'cause a lot of people might be in a moment in their life where this is so down and they feel like there's no up, but there is, it's just a matter of continuing and just keep going through the bullshit. 'Cause like I spent years just like in this negative mindset that eventually turned into something completely different. - And also people feel like they need to heal from trauma
Like immediately. Yeah, it's not real. If you haven't healed within a year, there's something wrong. Right? Like there's like a time limit pressure that we put on it. Yeah. And it's like, no, that's not how it works. And we were talking even earlier, not just the trauma stuff, but like even love, all this stuff is not, there's no time on any of it. Like how you're supposed to figure out, how you're supposed to know, like what you need. We're all just fucking...
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I just find it so amazing that you reached a point of
self-actualization and i'm doing air quotes by the way because maybe you're not fully there right no i think we're always we're always kind of we're always yeah working towards that but you got to that point just after years of working towards it and opening up yourself to people yeah
- Yeah, that's it. - Is that how you would sum it up? - For sure. Talking to people, learning about people, trying to understand people, 'cause I was trying to understand myself. Like I was trying to figure out like why and how, and like the more you communicate, the more you understand. Like I was telling you on my pod, like the more you ask questions to people, the more you can like answer questions within yourself. And so I've just always been like so deeply interested in that, which is why like I love this sort of content in general, 'cause I'm just like, I love having conversations about things that actually matter.
- Me too. - Yeah. - I mean, usually I'm talking about sex, like how to give a great blow job. - Oh, you talk about that? I should've asked you about that on my pod. What the fuck?
- Okay, I gotta ask you then. - Well, no. - Okay, hold on, hold on. So tell me. - I love this transition, really. - What? No, that's lit. - The depth that we were in and now it's like, how to suck dick, let's fucking go. - Yeah, okay, so no, seriously, this is an important topic though. - Okay. - They're all equally important. Is it okay if we take a left turn? - Yeah, of course. - Okay, so do you-- - But I just wanna say thank you so much for sharing that. - Thank you, I appreciate it. So sucking dick, anyways, check this out. Actually, what do you think
is the best way. This is great. The more saliva, the more wet, the more blowing bubbles type shit. That's number one. Number two, use the hand.
- Oh, yes. - Like it should not just be your fucking mouth. - 100%. - Use the hand. - If you could use two hands. - You make him feel really big. And if he's not big, then, you know, just like kind of maybe just use two fingers on each hand. - Wow. - Right? I mean, we all know,
One hand and mouth on the penis up and down. So that's that. And then incorporate the balls. 100%. Hello. Like very, very important. And yeah. And then deep throw if you can.
And if you can't do it anyways, you kind of choke a little bit. Yeah. Yeah. Which I've done that and I've thrown up before, but I did it, you know? Yeah. The balls are important. I think women need to know that. How, how should we go about the balls?
You want them to be wet for sure. Like you said, the wetness is very important. You don't want it to be dry. Do you think that's the number one? Yeah, easily. And if you have dry mouth, then choke yourself on the dick. And you'll get some saliva. Yeah. There you go. That's smart. I know. Wow, this could work over here. I know. But yeah, the balls are important for sure. How would you say we should approach them? I would say like mousetraps.
mouth hand and then balls does that mean licking or putting one in like mouth and hand like mouth and hand at the same time and then balls just imagine i don't know how to dick you have ball okay the mic is so put your hand up here and then put your hand down there okay just like that and then hand and mouth up there go closer i'm not putting my mouth you don't have to put your mouth on but your mouth a little closer
I'm not gonna do this shit you're not gonna get me on fucking camera I was fucking trying to deep throat the fucking mic we're just talking about the balls I refuse to get clipped on the fucking internet doing this shit I almost went there you're not gonna get me to do it like one hand here go ahead okay mouth a little closer
- No, no, no, no. - I'm trying to get a clip. - No, you're not gonna get me. - I'm trying to get you a clip. No, but that's it. - The balls. - Yes. - Why am I on the penis when I should be on the balls? - You're on both, you're on both at the same time. - Okay, let's talk about the balls. - Okay. - So I'm gonna start by licking them. - Getting them wet. - Yes, get them wet. - And then like rub them. - And then rub them. - Rub them. - How though? Like how hard? Do you focus on one or both? - Both. - Both. - Like do one of these, I don't know.
Right. Like we're gambling. Yeah. Like you're fucking like we're about to roll dice. Yeah. Rolling dice. Like imagine you have some dice. You went like this. OK, so. OK, so get it wet. Yeah. Roll some dice. You know, kind of like maybe and then switch up this tempo. Like one of these. Yeah. Like a little softer. OK. Maybe a little, you know.
You got it. It's a variation. Okay. Do I put a ball in my mouth? Yeah. Suck a ball, suck a different ball, whatever. Two of them? One at a time, two at a time. Who knows? I don't know the capabilities you have over there, but do one, do two. I mean. Mix it up. What? I mean. Give them love. Okay. Yeah. What about the hand is now moving towards your asshole? Yeah. This is a. Or you know what?
- In between, right? The taint. - The taint or is it the gooch? What's that called? I think it's the gooch. - The gooch. - Yeah, solid. Yeah, do that. - What should we do around there? - Just a little pressure. - Put pressure. - A little pressure, have it wet. - Okay, great. Wet is like the main thing. - Key. - That's a big takeaway. - Yeah, it's very important. - So then we're past the gooch asshole. - Obviously it's not for everyone.
It's for you though. Yeah, why not? I could tell. How could you tell? I can just, it's all over your face. It's all over my face? 100%.
What's all over my face? No question. What? You like your asshole being fondled. Like a little, you know, like a little play with. So do you like pressure just on the outside? Yeah, same shit. Or you want it all the way in? No, that's a little different. Inside? No, no, no, no. Like on the outside, like, you know. Okay. So just pressure on the outside of the asshole. Yeah, yeah. You want to get specific with it.
so we wouldn't put the finger inside maybe throw one finger in there i don't know depends he keeps he keeps switching it up like what the fuck is it yeah it could be but this thing doesn't have to be one thing it could be that could be that could be not like but you're comfortable with a little bit inside yeah a finger why not two no no no that's good let's but look how small my hands are yeah but i mean i'm not gonna reference the size of my asshole no two
I don't necessarily need, like you don't need all that. No, two of my fingers is just one dude. That's it. Okay, great. That's a great blow job. What about when a girl grabs a dick and like wax her face with it? You know what I mean? Yeah. Like side of the mouth. Yeah.
Yeah, do that. You're into that. Yes. What? I have a real question. Okay. This is porn. I stopped watching porn, by the way. I love that. And I started jerking off. Whoa. 100%. Why? It's been more than a year. What? What? Yes. Okay, but you're fucking though. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. Okay, got it. I'm not just like celibate. I'm definitely not just like not doing anything. How often do you ejaculate? I mean...
It's pretty much daily or sometimes twice. Really? Damn. Men are like a different breed. I forget sometimes. That's not true. That's not true. That's not true. Oh, have you ever though? Have I ever what? Fucked a girl that you were training. That's like a huge fantasy. No, no. That I was actually training? Like, no, no.
Why not? Because I was training them. It was like business. Have I fucked a girl at a gym before? Yes. Well, that's different. Okay, let's talk about porn. All right. Girls will be in a sex scene and they'll be like getting eaten out and they'll be like smiling and be like, oh my God, this feels so good. Like giggling. Okay. Is that normal?
I mean, you tell me. You're a girl. What you mean? No, you tell me. You fuck more girls than I have. Maybe. Probably, yeah. 100% actually. But is it normal for girls to get eaten out and be laughing and smiling? When you are having a sexual interaction with a woman. Yeah. Is she like smiling and cheesing? Yes. I don't think that's a normal reaction. It's not. No. But you see it on porn, correct? Yeah. Yeah.
I see what you're saying. Smiling, laughter, giggling. Nah, that's not realistic.
It's not, right? I don't think so. Like when I'm fucking... Are you getting eaten out laughing and smiling? Absolutely not. It's serious business. Yeah, like faces normally like they're kind of doing different shit. Like they're like a little more contorted. What are they doing? Show me. No, you show me. No, you're not going to get me. You're not going to get me. I don't watch myself in the mirror. You see girls. I feel like girls' faces, they're just... They're doing like other shit. Like they're like...
They're like their faces are... You're making it sound like what are we doing? Just I don't know how to describe it. Involuntary like muscle. Yeah, yeah. So we look scary as shit. No, not scary. Just like not. You're not like, hey. We look like exorcist scary shit. Not scary, but like not normal. Yeah. Yeah.
It's dope. I mean, it's cool. It's dope. Yeah, it looks great. It's a turn on. It's amazing. Yeah. The smiling thing would be like, yo, did I just crack a joke? See, that's what I've never understood. Like, why are you laughing? Why are you smiling? Maybe they're, they probably have a director like telling them that, like just because they think it looks good on camera or something. I don't know. So why did you stop watching it? Um, I wanted to try to stop watching it and see how long I can do it. And then I realized,
It was fucking with you. Yeah. Like you have these little like dopamine releases. Like you get this excitement. Oh, I can go do this and like fucking jerk off and come. It's like this. But then you're just living on these like little tiny highs. Little highs. And we have that in too many other things. Like I have that with social media. Like,
oh, I get enough likes on this video or views and these little highs. So I have all these different highs that are just like constantly doing these little dopamine releases. And then your energy levels is kind of like almost somewhat dictated by those highs. And so I was like, okay, I need to have less of these in my life. And that's why I decided, I was like, let me just try to stop this altogether. And I have more energy overall, more happiness overall. How did porn affect your sex life with girls? I don't know if it like, I think it just,
I don't know if it really affected it too much. I was always kind of able to separate it. It was more so, like I said, just my own like...
maybe relationship with those like quick moments um and i i would say for sure like if you're constantly like masturbating to porn i love how you do it yeah like jerking off to porn like your your desire outside of that is like it's it's different you know because it's like if you just jerked off then you're you're probably like i'm not so thinking about sex it's like you're maybe you're um
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So you don't watch porn, but you also don't jack off. Yeah. Let's say you're horny as fuck and you haven't been able to fuck for whatever reason. Yeah. And you want to jack off. You would, right? No, I gave it up. I'm done. You haven't fucked in six months. You're going to jerk off. Well, I'm not in that situation. Could you jack off and come without porn? Just using your mind. Yeah, easily. What would you think about that?
Oh, wow. That's a good question. I don't know. Would it be like a whole storyline? Nah, it's probably, it's probably like I went to the supermarket. No, absolutely not. That's way too complicated. Okay. That shit. It would just be like, I would just think of like a visual. I would think of like a visual of her body. Yeah. What part?
I'm probably doggy, you know? So her ass up. Yeah. And then your dick going in. Yeah. Like this visual, like this point of view. Like hand on the upper back, like press upper back down. Okay. Like jam her into the bed. So amazing. I love that. Yeah. What is the hottest thing a girl can do in bed? Submit.
Yeah. I like that. Like, obviously it's not a forceful thing. It's like. Be willing to try. Be willing to try. Yeah. Be willing to like take it. Do you like anal? Yeah. Yeah. You do? Yeah. Do you prefer over vagina? No, no. It's just different. That's like another thing when it comes to like submission is like knowing that, I don't know, it's like maybe not the best thing, but they want it. They want to please you. Right. Oh, that's part of it. Yeah. Yeah.
They want to please you. Yeah. Do you eat girls out? Yeah. For how long? Do you enjoy it? When I was younger, I didn't enjoy as much as I do now. Yeah, for sure. But do you genuinely enjoy it? If it's clean. What is a clean vagina? A vagina that don't taste funny. What is a weird tasting vagina? By the way, I've eaten vagina before. Okay. So we can talk about this. Okay. What about asshole? You ever eat a girl's ass? No. It's fire. It's fire.
I mean a guy's but not a girl's. - You have? - Mm-hmm. - Damn, that's what's up. - Yeah. - That's dope, you're a soldier. - I mean-- - Hair and all that? - It's few and far between. - Hair and all that? - Hair and all that. - Like it-- - Yeah. - Wow, you're a savage. - I haven't done it that much. I'm thinking about like two times probably. - Okay, yeah, that's a, you're a real one. - What's a clean vagina?
it just don't taste funny what is it pharanomes pheromones pheromones yeah that's a real thing yeah absolutely it's real a girl could be completely perfect but you're not into it because of her scent because of her smell yeah but not even her vagina not even her body yeah yeah it's her body body smell so crazy smell is so important i swear to you i've noticed that like with girls that i've like really been uh
Really attracted to always it's like a smell. I'd be like damn. I really like this Which is and versus other girls. I'm like, I don't really like this Wow, I feel like girls do not have that maybe they do maybe just not as aware of it No, no, no, I feel like it's very overpowering for dudes. I've talked to dudes who have told me this chick was so hot perfect
I just like could not do it. Yeah. And I don't think girls feel the same way. I don't know. I can't speak for them, but I can say my perspective is like, you know, guys can, if they hear this, like they lay down, you like cuddle with a girl and not, you could like, if you put your, like if you lay on her,
You'll smell her. Like, obviously if she got some hair products, you might smell the hair products if you're like around her neck. But if like, you're not just smelling the hair, like you will smell a certain smell of that girl. And like, you'll know if like, oh, I like this. And then also like it instantly reminds you of them. And like, you, you remember that smell. Right.
- That's so crazy. - Yeah, it's not even like, it's not even necessarily like, oh, it's some crazy, fragrant, good smell. It's just like her natural odor. And it does, I can speak specifically for me. I was like, damn, I really liked that. And there were other girls that I didn't like that for sure. - Right. - Absolutely. - But you liked everything else about them. But that one thing you were like, what the fuck?
I'm sure. Some things. I don't know about everything, but other things, obviously. Yeah. Except I was like, this one is not as, I don't know.
It doesn't smell. And it's not even like it's like it's not a bad smell. This is some Victoria's Secret body spray and I need some different shit. No, it's not even. That's the thing. It's not even like a sweet contrived spell or anything. It's just like a literal body smell. No, it's their body. I know. I don't think girls are the same when it comes to men. But okay, vaginas. Okay, vaginas. A lot of women are insecure about what their pussy looks like. Got it.
What do you have to say about that? - Oh shit. I mean, this wouldn't be the same insecurity that men have as far as like the size of their penis, right? Would be kind of similar to the type of insecurities that would be related to this. - Right.
Have I seen some that like maybe are just not as pretty as others? Sure. Okay. What makes a pretty one? Ooh, tough. It's honestly like a little bit of it all. Like if it was like too perfect, it's like, what? And then if it's like too much going on, you're like, what? That's like both. It's like, I don't know, man. It's just. That's actually the best explanation I've heard. It's true. Because it makes sense. It's like, look, some guys might like a little more like,
Mm-hmm. Extra mean. Yeah, like, it's all good. Extra mean. Some guys, they maybe like to spin it up in their fucking lips and like, you know, like, suck on it. Who knows? Yeah. So...
you know, there's a little in between. Yeah. I like a little in between. Yeah. But really what it really boils down to is the taste. Yeah. Taste. Yeah. I've encountered a spicy vagina before. So this is like a sweet and spite, like a salty, spicy. No, it was spicy. Like that's the only way I can explain it. Like, like, like tapatio spicy. Like the shit you were like, Whoa, if I keep eating this, I'm getting, I'm getting like, I'm
I'm getting hot on the lips? Spicy? No, just like a tingle. And it wasn't salty or sweet. It was straight up spicy. Yeah, she probably ate a lot of pepper.
I don't know. No, I think it's just vaginas have a taste and a smell and none of them are wrong. Yeah. It's just, it depends on the dude, right? Yeah. I think it depends on the diet and all that stuff more so. The diet. Like I think a woman's diet will affect the way that that probably tastes for sure. How much? I don't know. I mean, I'm not a fucking vagina scientist, but I will say that. You sound like it.
- But I'm not. So it's like, there's probably diet. I know for sure diet affects also your scent. Like even for men and for women, same thing. But it will definitely affect like, 'cause a lot of that smell or taste is probably coming from like some bodily fluid excretion, right? - Right. - So that is some derivative of like probably how hydrated you are, probably what foods you eat. - But also like, I feel like I've heard eating super healthy can backfire and make cum tastes worse.
Of a guy? I don't know. And same with vaginas. Yeah. Guys are lucky because their dick's
don't smell yeah but you can still smell you can still smell that's true guys and it's also like you have a fucking tiny dick it's like you're fucked yeah which is a tiny dick smell like an onion that's a smell i can't deal with yeah some bo smells so then so let's talk about this tiny dick thing then what what's what's ideal then because like obviously not everyone's got fucking huge dicks like i i
I would prefer that a dude is down to go down on me for 20 minutes minimum every time we hook up. Really? And make sure. And he can have a tiny dick if he's like down with that.
So you just prefer that then? That's your preference? - Mm-hmm. Just eat me out. How about that answer? Which you hate doing that. - No, I don't hate it. - You don't love it though. But you love getting your dick sucked. - Love that, yeah.
- Yeah, but no, it's just like I said, it just depends on the girl. - I am new in female form. I swear to God. - What? - I swear to God, I am. - That's funny. - I love it. - Yeah. - Okay, well, Bradley, this was very insightful. We went from very deep shit and then just segued into second dick.
which is deep get it yeah i love it deep throat hello we gotta do another pod we do we do thank you so much for coming on you're amazing where can all of my listeners find you they're gonna want to look you up and see how hot you are i don't know i'm on i'm on instagram at bradley martin martin with a y that's crazy i'm on youtube bradley martin everything podcast raw talk guys check it out
And I just did his podcast, by the way. Yeah. And I did. I just opened a new gym in Encino. So stop by. I'm there like every day working out. What is it called? It's called Zoo Culture. Zoo Culture. Yeah. Okay. I love it. Okay, Sleuths. Love you so much. Talk to you next week. Bradley, you were amazing. Thank you. Have a good one. Bye.
