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I've got my really good friend here and fellow podcaster, Lindsay. Thank you for making it. Thank you for having me. And thank you for making it on such late notice. Of course. When I got the text, I was like, I have to drop everything. Okay.
I remember like a few days before that you, well, I reached out to you two weeks ago. Yeah. Saying, come on the show. Yeah. And then you didn't hear from me. And then you texted me and you were like, hey, like, is it happening? I just want to make sure because I have a life, which is valid. Right. The world doesn't revolve around my schedule. And,
And I still didn't even respond to that. Yeah. Because this past weekend, guys, I was like, am I whatever? And then two days ago, I asked you. And that's like, that's fucking last minute. So last minute. I felt like we were dating and like I was like a guy pursuing you. But then you gave me an option. But like I had to take it because it was like the window. You know what I mean? Oh my God.
Yeah. That's how I live my life. Yeah. That's why men are fucking obsessed with me. Honestly, yeah. Everyone should be doing that. Just go, like, go and don't respond and then, like, show up again. Yeah. It works. It's a mindfuck. It's like,
I was the one to reach out to you. So you think I'm interested. And then I pulled back. Right. So then you reach out. Oh, it's such a mind. It's like this thing on my podcast actually we talked about while I got called Blowjob Ghost. It was a girl who gave a guy a head and then ghosted him. Oh.
And he became obsessed with her. Literally obsessed. Like obsessed. And that's like the perfect mindfuck. That is an incredible one. Amazing. I mean, I just the only thing about it and I will give Lindsay a proper introduction. People, this is more important. The only thing about that is Lindsay.
When is the last time, well, you're married, but before you were married, did you give a blowjob and there was no sex after? I only did that once and I regret it every day. Why? First of all, because his feet stunk so bad.
Stop. I swear to God. He had the smelliest feet ever. It was like so fucking nasty. No. And I was in a really dark place when it happened. Like, I don't know. You're like, I don't give a fuck about the feet. No, what's the longest you've ever gotten without sex? Honestly. Oh my God. That's such a good question. Like since you started having sex.
Three weeks Stop it Uh huh You're lying to my face No Is that long or short? That is so short Is it? Kill me Like that is so fucking short Okay I went almost a year once Okay How? Yeah It was a dark fucking winter I don't know I think I was like depressed honestly I was just depressed Well depressed or not depressed I feel like you're fucking No when you're depressed Your sex drive like genuinely goes away Mmm
And it was gone. Like, it was fully gone. And I, like, I wasn't even masturbating. And I masturbate, like, every night when I'm not, like, you know, having sex. And so it totally went away. And I became kind of desp. And I matched with this guy on an app. And I'm pretty sure he literally came over and I gave him head.
Oh my God. And he left. And he left. But like I wanted him to leave. And then I was just so fucking pissed because like first of all, I gave you something. You gave me nothing. Well, did you ask him to? No, because at that point like. You sucked his dick and told him to leave and you're like, I can't believe it.
Believe you like go down on No, honestly, he's I don't it's such like a dark bizarre thing of my past Like the fact that I just like gave this guy head when his feet smelled like right I have no idea where my head was at at that time Maybe it was like you wanted to inflict some like self-harm self-sabotage. Yeah. Do you ever do that? No 100% I think we all are guilty of that in writing. That's why I mean I'm thinking about the times I've been seriously depressed and
I usually want to masturbate. But if I'm stressed, stressed, stressed, anxiety through the roof, then absolutely not. Yeah. But something about depression turns me the fuck on. I don't know what to tell you. You might be in the minority there, but like, I'm curious. Okay, Lindsay, we've known each other for a while. We have. Actually, funny story. I met you at Acme. I never said anything, but we were both at Acme at the same time. This was like,
in 2018. - I don't believe you. - You had just started your first podcast and the two of you were at Acme and so was I and everyone kept coming up to me being like, "Oh my God, all these podcasters are here tonight." And I was like, "Who else?" And they were like, "Oh, the Call Her Daddy girls." And I was like, "Oh, I'm not saying hi to them, they're children."
shut the fuck up. Two years younger than me. I was like, they're children. Actually, we were. Like, the maturity level that I was at in 2018 is horrifying. When I hear clips back, I'm like, you're, I don't even like want to get into it. This story, no fucking way. Yeah. And did you come up and say hi? No, I didn't say hi because I
I don't know. I just didn't want to bother you. You guys were like having a night. But I kind of regretted it. I was like, oh, I wish I said hi to those girls. I know. Me too. Yeah. And then I don't know, maybe you and I could have hit it off. We definitely would have. And then we actually met when you came on. We met at Acme during the pandemic. Yes.
- Yes. - Virtually. - That was one of the first episodes I went on. - Yeah. - When I, like after I launched Sophia The Neff. - Yeah. - But that Acme story is fucking crazy. - Yeah, it was crazy. - Do I look the same? - Obviously. No, you actually look better. - Thank you. - It's true. - I actually agree with that.
But also we were on your turf. We you were. Yeah. And that's part of why I was like, they should come up to me. Right. Lindsay's podcast is called We Met at Acme. And for people who don't live in New York, we should explain it to them. Acme is a restaurant slash lounge.
Yes. Well, now they have a restaurant above it called The Nines, which is like a fun exclusive restaurant. Yes. We should totally go to. And then underneath is Acme, which has been around forever. And it's a vibe like it's still really fun to go out. You have to know the bouncer. It's like kind of speakeasy vibes. Right. And it's really fun. I'm assuming you have all the hookups in the world there.
I get treated nicely there, which is really great. But I didn't before I started the podcast. That's why it's so funny. I couldn't get into Acme and then I started this podcast and just... Shut the fuck up. Basically to get into Acme. Shut up. I feel like your podcast was one of the OG podcasts. Like you came onto the scene, I feel like well before a lot of podcasters. Yeah, it was early. There were like no dating podcasts at the time, but...
I was like there needs to be because I had just gotten brutally dumped
And I was like, we need to talk about this. Any time I talk to someone and they like something amazing happened or they made some incredible change. It is after a horrendous breakup. Yeah. Always. Well, smart people, I feel like. Like some people just like wallow. But if you, you know, like you just went through a breakup and you're thriving. Like you could be sitting and sad forever.
but you're thriving. Yes, I am thriving. But also the reason and the push for me to move to New York initially, where obviously my life completely changed for the better, was after like a horrendous breakup. Right. You know? So I don't know. It's like something about getting broken up with. Broke? Breaking up with. I have taken...
I have taken an English course in my life, people, broken up with. It's kind of like the best thing ever. No, it really can be. It's like a redirection. 1000%. So, okay, Lindsay, I want to dive into all things Lindsay and We Met At Acme. Before we get into it, though, we're going to talk about a little situation. Let's talk about the situation. That involves both of us, kind of.
So Lindsay and I, we like reconnected because a month or two ago, we ran into each other at a Spotify event. - And by the way, I don't know if you've told your listeners this yet, but you made one of the most legendary comments ever at the dinner. Did you tell them?
Oh my God. It was the funniest thing ever. Now is the time. Okay. You have to help me if I get it wrong. Exactly what you said, but we were going around. They made us go around the table at the Spotify dinner. And for some reason, you happened to be first. Right. They chose you to go first. A-
icebreakers are the dumbest fucking thing on planet earth b we're at a spotify event and you're gonna have sophia franklin be the first one to go and talk about her podcast and who she is etc right
Sophia goes and she's like hey I'm Sophia Franklin my podcast is called Sophia with an F I used to be a host of Call Her Daddy which you guys spent you guys spent a lot of money on or something I was like which spot
And the people in this room know made them a lot of money and and then like something. Yeah. You're welcome. And yeah, like some shit like that. So confrontational to everyone that worked at Spotify that was there. It was the funniest thing ever. It was half of the Spotify reps were dying of laughter and the other half looked horrified.
Horrified. Horrified because they were like, I worked on that deal. Right, right. And they're like, oh my God, we can't be shit talking like that podcast and blah, blah, blah. And Sophia Madden. But it's my history. It's like part of who I am. It is. What am I going to show up to a Spotify event and pretend like that shit didn't happen? No, you... I was so happy that you were truly an authentic person when you spoke. Yeah. It was incredible. Fuck, I wish like I got that on film. But...
We saw each other at the event and we started catching up and you said, "I have two dudes that I wanna hook you up with." Which by the way, the fact that it was not one dude but two is like, that is my style. - Of course, should have been three honestly. - Yeah, it's a numbers game. Let's do as many as we can. It's fucking perfect, it's incredible.
So one of the guys, we're going to call him Jack. There was a famous one. I wish I could say his name. He has not texted me yet, but he will. I 100% agree that he will. He is dating someone now, but it's not serious. And I don't think it ever will be serious. Exactly. So that famous man will be in your life at one point. I...
I honestly feel like it's going to happen. 100%. And Lindsay made me take a fucking selfie really quickly to send to said famous person. And I'm like doing the fucking duck face and the peace sign. I was like, holy shit.
But he's going to love me for me. 100%. You know? Yeah. Okay. So the famous guy that's over here. Then we are on to this guy. What did I say his name is? Jack. Yeah, we're going to call him Jack. You showed me a picture. He looked very cute. Works in finance. Okay. So he's successful. I was into it. You gave him my number. And what happened? Okay.
I don't want to say he dropped the ball, but I think he dropped the ball. So what he did was he didn't text for he was like traveling out of town. And so and a lot of guys do this actually. And I am I hope that guys listening know that this isn't the move. They'll be like, oh, it's inconvenient for right now because I can't see her for a week or two weeks. So I'm going to wait to text her till I'm back in town. No, nope. Terrible idea. No, because we are busy. We are dating other people. We could meet the love of our lives.
Well, that and also if you know that your number was given to this guy and it's in his hands...
And he doesn't text you right away. It to me, to me, it signaled like, oh, he's either trying to play a game with me, which I'm not going to do that shit. What's like annoying is knowing the other side. He actually wasn't like he was doing the opposite of trying to play the game. Like he was like, oh, I'm not going to be in town. So I'm going to wait to text her. And that's that's just stupid. Like I told him it was stupid. I was like, you dropped the ball.
Thank you. But then he texted you. Yes. So then he texted me. And you didn't respond. And I didn't respond. And that wasn't even me trying to play a game. That was me because I had interpreted what he had done as
oh, this guy either doesn't give a fuck or he's trying to play games. I was like, I don't have time for this shit. Yeah. So I did not respond. And then I think he reached out again. I have not met him in person. It's still been a little back and forth texting, but. I think you should. I will say, and I know this will turn you on.
at new year's when we were at a party on you're like he's very dysfunctional so we know that every single girl at the new year's like at our table that we had on new year's was trying to take him home like every single girl like every single girl was like going out of their way to like shoot their shot you know what he i'm literally texting him right after this and he's he's getting fucked by the way jack you were getting fucked tonight all you had to say was other
women were fucking falling all over him, he is getting to enter my vagina. And that's probably something I should work on because like that's not really cool. But right now I feel like you're not looking for your husband. Like you want...
To get fucked. Exactly. So at least you know what you want and you're like unapologetic about it. Is he like on the same wave? I think, I mean, probably if you're on that wave, he'll try to make you his wife, you know, but if you weren't, he would be like, you know how it goes. Always. Always. Always.
Which I mean I am going to ask you about your husband But when you met your husband What was your mental state at that time? Were you like I'm just trying to fuck around Or were you looking for I'm going to be honest with you Okay I had a boyfriend
When I ran into my husband. So every relationship I've ever had. Yeah. That's not an exaggeration. Yeah. Yeah. But I had tried like we had tried to end that relationship. Multiple times. Yes. Then I finally ended it. And then I texted my husband. And you didn't cheat. I did not cheat. So I ended the relationship, but it was already ending for other reasons. Then I hit up my husband. I was like, I'm single. Let's go out. Because he had hit on me that night that I ran into him when I was with my ex.
Got it. And then I knew some things about my husband because we had a mutual friend. And so we had met before. So I like knew that he was like amazing on paper. But I was like, that doesn't do it for me. If on our first date, I like him and think that like we have a connection, then it's a done deal. This is my husband.
Okay, so you definitely did not go into it though. Like, I just want to fuck around and have fun and la la la. I was like, I'm newly single. I can't immediately get into a new relationship just legally, you know, like I will be in so much trouble.
Wait, what do you mean legally? Like, were you married to the guy before? No, no. Like, I just couldn't. I just felt too bad doing that to my ex. Okay, got it. I couldn't, like, immediately. Yeah. You know, like, three weeks after have a new boyfriend. Like, I had to wait, like, three months. I mean, if there was some overlap, you could argue, like, I've already been talking about this.
But there wasn't overlap. That's the thing. Like if I had like been cheating, that's one thing. But I was good about it and waited three months. Wow. You're a great person. I'm a saint. You are a saint. And here I am with my preppy sweater and my kombucha. Who have I become? Linz comes in here and she's wearing a sweater. And she's like, because I'm recording with you, I have makeup on for once. And I have a tank top on to, you know, bring the sweat it up. Bring the sweater off.
Oh my God. This is why everyone should subscribe to the show so you can see this woman and her tits. They are stunning, incredible gorgeous. Thank you. And her face as well. Thank you. But we all know body matters more.
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So you weren't like completely single gal. I want to fuck everything and just date. And he was perfect on paper. What does that mean? Perfect on paper? What did he have? He had things that like would piss me off because my parents would like them so much. Do you know what I mean? I fucking hate that. When like you don't want to make your parents happy. Like he had all the things that would make my parents happy. Is he a doctor? Like basically. I thought...
My family, I could tell them I am dating a Nobel Prize winner. He, you know, is a fucking billionaire. He's done da-da-da-da-da. And they'll be like, okay, great. The second I drop doctor, it's complete. Like, they are obsessed. Yeah, no, people love doctors. It's actually really funny that you mentioned that because he's not a doctor. He sucks.
started a healthcare company but before that he was in like healthcare finance and when we met and like we're shooting the shit and bantering at like this event he was like I'm the black sheep in my family and I was like what the fuck does that mean like you like went to Harvard business school like you're not like the black sheep in your family a little Harvard and he it's because it's because he
Isn't a doctor and his sister is. I was just going to say that. Because that's how Jewish parents are. Loser. Seriously. Is it a Jewish thing? By the way, Jack went to Harvard Business School as well.
Okay. So wait, what is what a Jewish thing? Um, the obsession with the doctor and the lawyers and lawyers. Yeah, that is definitely a Jewish thing, which my mom probably gets from my grandma who's Jewish. Definitely. Oh, I didn't realize you were kind of Jewish. I don't practice at all, but I mean, it's in my blood. What can I say? But yeah, the doctor thing. So he had the money thing, the Harvard thing, the successful thing, hot. Yeah.
So hot and 6'4". I know. Lindsay? I know. Are you kind of exaggerating right now? No, I swear I'm like he's 6'4". Okay, so he's perfect. Well, personality. By the way, the money thing, not that I care about it because I honestly don't, but he actually didn't have it. He was working for a startup and making like nothing.
That would not fly on my list at all. But it didn't matter to me. Because you knew he eventually was going to make money. Oh, you just like, you know, and like, he has potential. But no, not because I was like, he's going to eventually make money. Because I'm like, he's ambitious and I'm ambitious. So I have money. It's fine. You know? But would you feel fine? Like, I'll take care of us type thing? No, no, no, no. I don't want to. No. I mean, I will say like, I'm the breadwinner right now, which is interesting dynamic. Wow.
But I know that it won't be for long. You know what? I'm in that position right now, too. Yeah. I mean, I'm seeing someone.
Right after I just got done talking about texting this guy and potentially going on a date with him and potentially fucking him. But I'm the breadwinner right now. I think I've always been except in maybe one relationship. Yeah. And so is my mom. And that dynamic, my mom has told me is not a good one. Yeah. Yeah.
That's coming from my mom. No, I'm not telling you. I agree with you. 100%. I would not want to be the breadwinner long term at all. Like my husband just started a company, which everyone should know about. It's called Nibble Health. And, you know, it's going to be amazing and such a success. And if it isn't, then his next thing, you know, like, right. I believe in him 100%. I mean, Harvard. In the interim, like, of course, I'm so happy to be the breadwinner. It's like it.
it's such a cool thing yeah and you can fucking rub it in his face later on down the road when he's making the money and be like where were you when I was taking care of you the reason you're here is because of me I already rub it in his face oh my god okay I really do think that you have probably met your husband already
What? Yeah. What do you mean? I think that like oftentimes like if we're single, like we've already met the person we're going to like end up with. We just don't really know yet. So basically what you're saying is…
Basically, what you're saying is you've met them, but it just hasn't registered, right? Either that or like it was in passing. You were at a party. You said hello, like didn't exchange more than surface level conversation. OK. And then they'll come back into your life. Maybe your husband was at that Spotify dinner, you know? Who's to say? Yeah, maybe he was there. I fucking highly doubt it after that scene I caused. But what do the statistics say?
I think, and I don't know off the top of my head, but it's like 70% of people have met their future spouse by the time they're 25. Meaning like have met them, but like connect later. So maybe it's like someone you went to high school with who's going to like slide into your DMs and be like, Sophia, I founded Couches and I'm a billionaire. Do you want to marry me? And then you have like a Romy and Michelle's high school reunion situation. Okay, so basically he's going to be from Utah, right?
And it was someone I met before the age of 25 when I was blackout for 90% of the time. Yeah. In and out of jail. Okay, well, that sounded dramatic, but had been arrested. Yeah.
Maybe it's like Lisa Barlow's like nephew or something. Okay. Lisa Barlow. I love her. I mean, I would talk about it for fucking hours. But you know what? You're more interesting to me than Lisa Barlow. Nothing's more interesting to me. And you watch Real Housewives of Salt Lake City. Yes. And I haven't. I'm not up to date yet. So don't tell me anything. I'm not either. Okay. I've just seen shit about Jen Shaw.
Oh, yeah. That's fucking crazy. That's crazy. She got like 6.5 years or something. That's so insane. Also, when they raided her closet and more than half of her designer things were fake. That's embarrassing. That's crazy. Yeah. Especially if you're stealing all this money from people, you should buy real stuff. Right? Yeah. It's so crazy to me. Nothing is real in this world. It's just, it's not. It's true. It's true.
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You don't have to answer it. Just as a general question, is it appropriate to ask someone in their 30s who is married if they plan on having kids? Is it appropriate?
I guess society has made it appropriate, right? It's like people are asking single people, when are you getting married? Then you get married. People ask, when are you having a baby? Then you have a baby. People ask, when are you having another baby? Then you have another baby. People are asking, like, when are your babies having a baby? Like, it's like it's constant. Like, it just goes on forever. I think it's appropriate. I mean, yeah, people are always going to be curious. And also people like ask because they don't know what to say to people sometimes. Yeah. Do you want kids? Yes.
Yes. I feel like you're going to be such a fun mom. I'm going to be people would assume I'd be the worst mom like and forget my kids at school type shit and like forget their lunch or whatever. I'm going to be a fantastic mother. I believe it. Because my mom was, you know, I was raised by a single mom and my mom was incredible. And I think that's my real calling. Would you have a baby before getting married?
Not preferably, but this is actually funny. Just last week, I went to the doctor because I am convinced once again, I either have a UTI, a bacterial infection or a yeast infection. What are the symptoms? The symptoms are it fucking hurts when I pee. Yeah. My vagina feels uncomfortable. It's UTI. Yeah.
I don't know, though, because there was some questionable discharge. It's still UTI. You really think? I've had the three, I'm telling you. You've what? I've, like, had all three. But I don't know. Sometimes I think it's one of them, and then the doctor tells me it's not. Yeah.
I don't know if I trust your doctor because I had a similar situation. I don't trust your worthship. Yeah, I had a similar situation and I was like, oh, maybe it's not a UTI. And then it became a kidney infection and I almost died. So be careful. Okay, well, this doctor, when I told her my vagina feels off, there is something wrong. Yeah. And then she asked me a couple of questions and then told me, I think it's just that your vagina is dry. Okay.
So, so anyways, though, this doctor is absolutely incredible would highly recommend. She did say one very insightful thing, which is, are you going to get your eggs frozen? Yeah. Are you going to freeze your eggs?
Well, as of last week, 100%. Yeah. She scared me. She was like, you're 30? I said, yes. And she said, you have about three years, like a three-year window to do that. You have five years. I mean, she told me that she's going to have her kids do it at 21. That's psychotic. We got the most amount of eggs. That's psychotic. Is it though?
I guess if you think about Botox, right, you shouldn't get Botox when you're 21. Absolutely not. But maybe you should freeze your eggs because that like...
That's when your eggs are... That's when you have a shit ton of eggs. Right. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, so I guess the sooner the better. Yeah. If you can. What's so fucked up is like we actually should be having babies when we're like 16, like 15. Like the second we get our period, we're supposed to technically have babies. So I'm not saying that people should do that. But I mean like our bodies have the best ability to like carry babies and give birth and become back to normal when we're younger. Right.
I know. And then we do it like 15 years later, which is crazy. But yeah, so I'm going to freeze my eggs and I,
I reached out to one of my friends who is currently doing it. Yeah. And she said, oh, my God, reach out to this Instagram page. What is it? And I think it's called like spring fertility. Oh, my God. I love them. I did an event with them. Yeah, I did an event with them. They're amazing. Oh, really? Absolutely. Did you freeze your eggs? No, I didn't. OK. But I did an amazing event with them about egg freezing. Oh, OK. And they're an incredible place. 100% do it.
absolutely 100% plan on doing it. And it sounds like they're incredible. That's the second recommendation I've gotten. I just found it a little bit bizarre. They do like influencer collabs.
Well, they want to spread the word because they're more of a startup when it comes to like a fertility center. Which is very smart and very valid. And I would do the same shit if I was starting a company like that. But I was just a little bit mind blown. I'm like, what? You...
trade a tag for an egg or like how does that work you know what i mean yeah i do but it's just to spread the word and i'm sure they have a budget allotted to marketing and they use some of that okay so your podcast yeah we met at acne
You talk pretty personally about sex, relationships. You're an open book. Yeah. Do you talk about your husband on there openly? I do. I always make this joke like I'm not describing his penis, but like I talk about our sex life sometimes and I talk about our relationship, fights we've been in, things like that. Okay. And when you first started dating him... Mm-hmm.
Were you talking about him during the process? Yes, but not by name. I was also dating other people then. And so I would be like, oh, I went out with this guy and I went out with that guy. Oftentimes it was Steven both times, but no one knew that. It wasn't necessarily that I was talking about different people. I just didn't want it to be so obvious that it was him. Right. And did that upset him?
No, I think he... He liked it. He liked the clout. No, he doesn't like being talked about. That's for sure. But he knew what he was getting into when we started dating. My podcast was like four, three years, two years in, three years in, something like that. And so...
He would be like dumb to like be like, what is this? You're talking about your dating life on your dating podcast. That would have been idiotic. Like he knew what he was getting himself into. I'm assuming he doesn't listen. He does. He does sometimes. But he pretended that he had never listened. And then I caught him. They always do that. I caught him. Like I fully caught him. And he dropped something that I'd said in a podcast. And I was like, how did you hear that? Right. Right.
my fucking god they always fucking do that yeah they lie I know why because they don't want to feel like because they don't want to like seem like obsessive like you would lie if you went out with someone who had a podcast
right wouldn't be like oh yeah i just came from like oh i had a great day listening to two of your episodes you know like that's creepy that's true but the issue with that is something is gonna slip and it's gonna give them away always that's happened every single time yeah no it's it's hilarious they are such fucking liars oh my god i'm like thinking about everything so we met at acne that's the name of your podcast why did you decide to call it that
because I was going out at the time like a lot to Acme because I was newly single and I was meeting guys there and then I also there was this couple on Instagram that I stalked you know how you have those they had gotten married and someone commented like I can't believe you guys met at Acme and I was like oh that sounds good oh my god that's how the name aligned oh my god that's so fucking interesting wait is that Birkin real
yeah wow good for you thank you it was gifted to me oh my money goes into savings yeah and then people gift me the expensive things that i brought was it gifted by someone you're dating oh someone i'm seeing birkin boy oh is it the way he's a keeper he's a keeper
The way that I'm sitting here applying lip gloss, grabbing my Birkin. Are you leaving? Are you walking out right now? Yeah, I'm actually over it, like this whole thing. But thank you for coming. Yeah, Birkin boy. That's how I refer to him. Great. I want a Birkin boy. I mean, your husband, once his company takes off. Oh, he knows. Yeah.
Oh, you better know. You are the breadwinner now. There are a few Birkins and Kellys coming your way once, you know, his shit hits. Yeah, because I walked so he could fly. Ha ha.
I fucking love that. Okay. This is the last thing I want to ask about the fucking place Acme. Yeah. We've been giving them way too much air time. They're so lucky. I know. I'm going to bleep it out actually. And I'm going to be like, you have to sponsor this episode if you want me to put the name back in.
Do they have a menu item named after you? No, but wow. The reason they don't is because the restaurant is a different name. It's called The Nines. But they should absolutely have a drink named after me. 100%. Even though I'm sober, they still should. Yeah. Or a mocktail. Yes, a mocktail. Genius. I'm getting that going. A thousand percent. It's like what...
The Club Delilah in LA. Yeah, they have a Kendall thing, right? Yeah, the Kendall Jenner... What is it? I don't know. I don't fucking remember. It must not be that good. Oh, the Slutty Brownies. Oh, yes, yes, yes. And then Drake has like the Champagne Poppy...
Right, right, right, right. So they actually better step in. I'm actually just going to wait for them to reach out to me because after they listen to this podcast, someone's going to someone better reach out. Yes. I mean, I said some shit about Chip Riani and it wasn't even really shit talking. It was very like I just told a story. Yeah. And the fucking president of. Stop. Yes. The fuck was it? Maggio. Mm hmm. I grew up with him.
Maggio didn't like it very much. Oh shit. So this acne combo will get back to acne. Okay. And can you put in a good word with Maggio and tell him like, I love Cipriani. Yeah. Maybe he's your husband.
Okay. I have Jack. I have Maggio. It's like, who do I not fucking have right now? You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Thriving. I didn't realize that you also have like a very successful food account. Oh, it's just a fun thing on the side. When did you start that? I started in like 2013, right after college. Okay. Yeah. I have one question for you. Torisi. Yeah, it was so good.
It opened up what? Like a month ago? Yeah. For everyone listening, I think it's... Major food group. Mm-hmm. So Carbone, right? Yeah. It's part of that. I was about to call it a chain and I don't think they would appreciate that very much. But Terese just opened up a month ago. They...
very hard to get into what are you doing up in there and are you gonna hook it up I 100% will hook it up for you was it through Maggio it wasn't through Maggio but I'll tell you offline my connect and you will
I will make sure that you get to eat there. I mean, we definitely can't say it on here. No, we can't. No. We cannot. For many reasons. For many reasons. I mean, I'm sure. Yeah. Okay. I just, I needed to know for personal reasons. Mm-hmm.
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This has been fucking amazing. I had this whole plan to talk about New York and, like, some other shit, but we ran out of time because you're just such a good talker. So...
I would love if we could hurry and answer some of my listener questions. I would love that. SOS, save our sleuths. Here we go with the first one. Hey, Sophia, I need advice about phone anxiety slash responding to messages. I know you've mentioned struggling to respond to texts and DMs before, but you probably get a ton every day. Hmm.
I'm a regular 22-year-old who just moved to a new city, and I'm finding it really difficult to respond to friends and family from back home, college, and even my new friends. I know a day or two is fine, but at this point, I will ghost my closest friends and family for weeks at a time. I am an outgoing person, so I'm not sure why I get so much anxiety about responding over text help.
Okay. So do you have any anxiety when it comes to responding to messages? No, I just do it right away so that I don't have to think about it. Like the second I see it, I respond. But I feel like you're different. Completely different.
Reason being, and I would say I'm very outgoing in person, right? Yeah. The reason I get like that over text is because I am very thoughtful and feel a lot of pressure into my response. I feel like I either need to be super funny. If a friend is asking me a question, like I want to give it my all. Right. You know, it's never like, okay, whatever, da, da, da, da.
So when that happens, I'll just put it off and then I just won't respond forever. And then just end up apologizing. Which is very normal. Like there's a million memes that are like, I'm that kind of person that responds either right away or in three days. Right. I would say to this person, like try to, as you get it, write a little something, you know, because then you're going to forget. Mm hmm.
Well, now I love the feature where you can mark your messages as unread. Yes, that is so crucial. Just always staying there. But also, I think just respond. Just respond. Like, no one is judging your response as much as you're judging yourself. Right. Because she said she's outgoing in person. So she probably feels this need to be that same person over text message or whatever. Yeah.
Right. Just like get to the in-person as soon as you can. Yeah. Girl, just stop thinking about it and fucking send it. And if you don't like it, you can unsend it with this new iPhone fucking update. It's true. I don't even know if that was good advice, but you know what? I love it. Okay.
Okay, next question. Hey, Sophia, this is a pretty heavy one, but I need some input. My husband and I recently had a baby together last spring. I took Plan B last month, but I don't think that it worked. I am just finding out now that I am pregnant again. Well, obviously it didn't work, girl. What the fuck are you talking about? You think it didn't work?
I'm not sure if it worked. I am pregnant. I don't even know if I want a second child, let alone so close to my first one. I really want to get an abortion, but I cannot tell my husband as he would not understand and would try to make me go through with it. Am I wrong for making this decision and planning to hide it from my husband? Yes.
You're not wrong for making the decision, but for hiding it, yes. Because if you're in a healthy marriage, you communicate. And if...
you can't communicate with your husband about something that serious, then that's a red flag. That's a huge fucking issue. Yeah. And you know what? I totally agree. Because at first when I was reading, I was like, I mean, you know, my body, my choice. Which I totally agree with. But like when you enter into marriage, like you have to run decisions by your partner. If it were reverse and like guys could get pregnant and he did that, you'd be like, what the fuck? Right. I do think she should phrase it though. Um,
as if this is happening. I do not want to have this baby. I don't even think it should be open for conversation really. Is that fucked up? My marriages are going to go so well. I think it's all about compromise. Like I, but it is her body. And so at the end of the day, she is like veto power. Yes.
But also, like, why are you marrying a dude in the first place who's, like, against that type of thing? Not only that, but, like, who you don't want to have more than one kid with. Unless it's, like, for financial reasons. Right. And you're too scared to tell him if you are pregnant. Yeah.
Just don't let him talk you out of it. That's all I want to say. Yeah. You know, because he definitely it sounds like he will. Yeah. But definitely bring it up. Okay. This is our last question. Here we go. Hi, slew. I need help. So my sister just had a baby with this guy. Him and my sister shared a phone for a while. So on occasion, we would talk when I called and my sister wasn't there. Okay.
Basically trying to see if I would have a threesome with them.
I know for a fact my sister isn't into that incest shit and that she would be pissed if he was flirting with anyone.
He sent me dick pics last night. I love this fucking question just is escalating. I'm like, so what is happening? Okay. He sent me dick pics last night and that was the last straw. I've been thinking about how I should tell her or if I should tell her because she literally had her baby a week ago. What do I do? I don't want to get blamed for this or have her be mad at me. You need to fucking tell her.
Really? 1000% immediately. Can she give her like a little like cushion? She just had a baby. No, get that baby away from this man. Oh my God. She needs to know and pack it the fuck up. And you should honestly move in there and be her housekeeper because of what...
you did even responding to this guy at all? - Honestly, I think the first thing that should have happened before, get your sister a burner phone or some shit. - Like no one should be sharing a phone and then no one should be like, if this guy, I'm sorry, if this guy is hitting on her sister, do you know how many other women he's hitting on? - Oh. - It's not just the sister.
I mean, unless he has like a real kink for that type of thing. Then he's fucked. But no, he's probably he's he's doing fucked up shit all around. I just wonder, you know, a week after having a baby, aren't you in a little bit of a fragile state?
You are. Hormones all around. You are. But like, you know what? Women are amazing and they can handle whatever gets thrown at them. And if that were me, I would rather immediately know that that shit was happening so that I could take my baby and get the fuck away from this monster or send him to get help for his sex addiction or whatever the fuck is wrong with him, you know, and take his credit card and pay for a baby nurse with it.
And get him out of there. Yeah. You know, I mean, mic drop. Yeah. That was like the most fucking incredible answer I've ever heard. So fucking eloquent. I completely agree, I guess.
You convinced me. I thought maybe like tell her like a month in just to, you know. There's no good time to tell somebody that their husband's a piece of shit. It's true. Sooner rather than later. Right. And she needs to remove the baby from the dad because that baby does not need that dad's influence. No. You know. And she'll get a new baby daddy for the baby. 1000%. And.
her fucking sister now it's all coming to me why is this a question right text fucking call your sister yeah asap immediately yesterday yeah or maybe tell her in person because you might be texting her fucking boyfriend exactly okay lindsey this was so fucking good so fun um
I'm going to be going on your podcast. Yes. Eventually. But where can they find you? You can find me wherever you listen to podcasts. We met at Acme or follow on Instagram. We met at Acme and my personal is Linz Metz, L-I-N-D-Z-M-E-T-Z. Love it. And you guys know where to find me. Sophia with an F, Franklin with a Y. And that's it for this week. Love you, sleuths. Bye.
