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I should use, I should do that. You should. Guys, I have Lala Kent here. We met, what, two years ago? Yeah, but how did we meet again? I can't remember exactly. I think... I became familiar with you because you dropped the Range Rover story. And then I immediately demanded that I no longer have a Range Rover and to put me in a G-Wagon. Wait, did you after I said that? Yes. Okay, let's back up for people who don't know because it's so good.
Well, first of all, Lala, one of the most loved reality stars to ever come through television. Thank you. 100%. 100% from Vanderpump Rules. Your book, give them Lala. Your podcast, give them Lala, right? All things give them Lala. Tor, give them Lala. He does not fucking stop. We are both from Utah. Yep. And...
On my old podcast, I said something that looking back, I think was gossipy and not nice. But I was talking about your relationship. Because on the show, there's a scene where your ex gifted you a Range Rover, right? Yeah. So then I went on the podcast and I said, that's cute that he gifted her that, but not really because he took it from this girl I know that lives in Utah and then gave it to you. Oh, no. He loves a blonde bitch from Utah, doesn't he? Yeah.
That is fucking hilarious. But I apologize for doing that, by the way. But why? Don't even worry about it. Because it was like clickbait shock value. Yeah, but who cares? Because after that, I demanded a G-Wagon and I got it. So whatever. So I'm kind of a saint. I'm like an angel. And by the way, everything you were saying was true. Everything that most people were saying was true. You know? So it's all good. I'm not even upset about it. Okay, good. That's a boss-ass way to respond to that. Let's just rip the band-aid off and talk about it.
Okay. You went or are going through a very public breakup. Yes. We're approaching a year of being fully done. Like I have not seen him.
For a year? Yeah. So how does that work? Well, first of all, congratulations on your beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous... I mean, she's not a baby anymore. Ocean, how old is she? She's a year and a half. A year and a half. I think that's like a toddler, right? Yeah, a toddler. I don't know. You're like, I don't want to not call her baby anymore. She'll always be the baby. Yes, exactly. Your guys' relationship is so fucking cute. I grew up with a single mom.
So when I see your guys' relationship online, I find it very touching and, like, really beautiful. She's my best friend. She has, like, such a cute little personality. I'm a single parent, but I do have a lot of support. Like, my mom ended up moving out to L.A. She helps me with Ocean. So I do have a co-parent in that regard. Right.
But now Ocean, because she's, you know, developing her little personality. And my mom has a specific ring for when I do FaceTimes. Oh, okay. And Ocean, when she hears it, screams, Mama! Oh, my God. That's so cute. Oh, my God. That is so fucking cute. You guys will always be best friends. I mean, my mom is my best friend. Yeah. Your mom's hot, too. She is hot. Super hot. Oh, my God. She was just...
here staying with me and was going out on dates every single night no is she on apps raya yeah she is on raya i have friends that have been waitlisted on raya i can't get on raya i'm not allowed because i think i like was giving out free passes or some shit to like random i thought you were gonna say free pussy
can you imagine the bio free raya i would never give that out for free on raya with all the rich guys absolutely not i can't even get on that but um your daughter is so cute and you just said your mom helps you a lot yes what is so your mom is the co-parent my mom's the co-parent randall you would not consider co-parent
Or your ex, I should say. You know what's so weird is I don't look at him as anything. Like, I don't know if it was a trauma response. Yeah. I don't remember any of our time together. I'll see, I'll look at pictures, which by the way, like,
When I found out that he was not the person I thought he was, I literally cleaned house as far as any memory. I have no videos. I have no pictures. I have nothing of him. But I'll see like pictures of myself in the house that we shared. And it's weird because I'm like, I don't remember ever even being in a home with him. Yeah. Like it feels...
like I'm looking at this baby and I'm like, where did she come from? Right. You know? Yeah. I think that's PTSD. Yeah. Cause it's too much for your body to handle. Right. And you numb everything. Right. Yeah. I don't remember much. I remember it not being a great relationship and it feeling toxic on a lot of levels. But my mom kind of reminds me of those things cause she was my support system throughout the relationship. But, but yeah, I don't really consider my ex,
anything. Yeah. He just exists. You know he exists and like that's about it. Yeah. Which I think is totally valid and totally fair. I think so too. And it's still fresh and I mean I don't I don't think anyone knows no one knows exactly what went down but I'm sure it is very valid why you feel that way right? Yeah I mean I
Obviously, I think most people read the LA Times, which was a 10,000 word article. But there's so much behind the scenes that I deal with on a day to day basis when it comes to this person. And it's like, how am I dealing with this? Because I don't even know this person. So why is he such like...
a presence in the dark cloud, if that makes sense. Because I feel like I'm happy. I feel good. I'm excited about the future. I'm loving being single. But there's like this little fucking fly that I just can't... You know the fly that you're like, yes, why won't it fucking die? You're asleep. You're asleep. And it keeps landing on your face. Yes, like get away from me. Right.
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And I'm sure you've asked yourself this. How did I not know? Right. Was that like the first thing you asked yourself? Like, how have I been with this person for this long? And I'm just realizing what type of person they are. Have you ever asked yourself that or no? Yeah, I constantly sit here and I consider myself like I'm not I'm by no means like a smart bitch. You throw me into school and I'm like, well, one plus one. Right.
But like street smart, I consider myself like you throw me into the real world and I'm going to fucking kill it. So I sat there and thought, how stupid could you be? So many people were talking about this guy and how horrific he is. And you just thought like...
nothing's wrong. Don't look into it. I can't even explain. There's so many times where people ask me like, how did you not see the red flags? And I can't explain it because I also don't know how I couldn't, I didn't see the red flags. I mean, me too. Honestly, like looking back, there were so many, but when I was in it, I, we don't see them like tunnel vision. It's when you look back and I wonder, is that us kind of being in denial? Is that us
I don't know. Maybe it's because we're good people. I was just going to say that. I think the reason, and I'm sure this is the same for you because you're a good person. I like you. I have a pretty good judge of character. But I think you sit there and you hear things and people are showing you the red flags. And you're like, that type of person can't exist. Because it wasn't about the cheating. The cheating, I never would have stayed. That's what made me leave. But there was so much more.
That was bad or good? Horrific. Okay. The cheating was like, you know what? I know I don't want to be in this because I don't fuck around with cheating. That was a very obvious thing. He fucked around on me. I can get over it. We can co-parent. We can coexist. We can bump gums. It was all of the other things that came along with it that obviously I can't share. I feel like the universe will at some point...
sure which it did i kept saying the universe shares things and then bam la times comes out i was like what the this is crazy the universe does yeah and i feel like that was just the tip of the iceberg the la times article so
In due time, I think everybody pays for what they've done. And by the way, my part in certain things, I know if I'm not moving correctly, the universe is going to hold me accountable. And I'm okay with that. Yeah. Right? Yeah. That's why I choose to do things a certain way because I have to know if you make this decision, are you going to be okay with the repercussions? Right. So you believe in karma and that type of thing.
Yes. Okay. You will always be held accountable, whether it's now or years down the line. You better be prepared because that's just how the world works. Yeah. Where am I going with this? No. Well, I mean... What the fuck am I talking about? No, I fucking... No, I just found that so refreshing, to be honest, because I...
I kind of think differently where I think, oh, to get ahead in life and to be a winner or to be all of those things, you kind of have to stomp all over people and be a bad person 99% of the time. Well, yeah. Do you agree with that or no?
I mean, I look at people who have a lot of success and you obviously have. Yeah. I think Hollywood is very, a very strange place. Yeah. Like most of the time when I hear about people who have tremendous success, there's always a group of people that are like, that person fucked me over. But I would rather be less successful and then be able to lay my head down at night knowing that like I moved correctly today. Yeah. Yeah.
A thousand percent. So six years later, you decide to break it off. He's like the fly that won't go away. What do you have to do? Meet him at like a 7-Eleven parking lot? Or you have someone do it for you? With Ocean, my mom drives her to his house. Mm-hmm.
His nanny slash supervisor comes out, grabs the baby, and that's what it is. Okay, got it. Yeah. Great. Yeah, it's perfect. You should never have to see him ever again. No, I don't want to. And, like, beyond him being the quote-unquote father of my kid... Mm-hmm.
Take that out of it. Like, people like me don't associate with people like him. Yeah. You know, like, you don't need to be anywhere in my world because, like, you lower my stock tremendously. Yes. The opportunities that came my way when that relationship ended, it was crazy. Really? Yes. What do you think that's about? I just think people knew things that...
I obviously didn't know. Yeah. Well, I mean, I remember when I recorded with you, that was, had to have been about a year, year and a half ago. Cause I went on your podcast, right? You went, you came on my podcast. Literally, I had probably, I don't know,
that house and the relationship maybe a week. It was like you were really. Yes, you came to the tree house, the Airbnb, the sanctuary that I went to because I had nowhere to go. And I remember you saying this is top secret private. We do not share this. So
No, with anybody. And I was like, damn, like what kind of movie are we in? It felt like a movie. I was like, what is this life? But it was so fresh, right? Because I remember you asked me, Sophia, you brought up that Range Rover shit. What else do you know? And I think I told you a couple things and you had an emotional reaction, right? Yeah. That's how I knew how fucking fresh and how real it was. Yeah. Now I'm numb. Because...
there was so much that it was like once I left, the information just kept coming and it became a lot like there. Like when I went to Santa Barbara to visit
He had a movie going and I was going there with a group of people for my gender reveal. Oh, okay. And so we were going there because he had to do a movie. And I was excited. I'm like, I'm going to find out if I'm having a boy or a girl. And I go to set and I remember they took me straight to set instead of his trailer. And it's because he was fucking around with a masseuse in the trailer. Stop it? As I'm there. For the gender reveal of your baby. Yes. So things like that, when I first...
When you first came and we did the podcast, my podcast, those are the things I was finding out. Right. And then it just got more and more horrific. Now it's like I can think about these times and laugh about it. What the fuck? Who does that? You crazy, sick motherfucker. He also he threatened to sue me. Yeah. He loves a good letter. And then nothing ever happened. Oh, never. Because lawyers only do work if you pay them.
You know? Mm-hmm. He's on the cheaper side, which we saw with the fucking 50 cent fiasco, which you and 50 cent are homies now, right? Yes. I love that. Yeah. I'm sure once you and Randall ended, you and 50 were like, this guy sucks. Yeah. We linked up a few times. He said, you know, the first thing he said to me was,
You should have listened to me. I was like, I try to warn you. Well, I think the initial thing of like, yo, this dude owes me a million dollars. And then like calling him, but 50s words, not mine, calling him like Harvey Weinstein in the caption. I think it was like, hi, warning. So 50 didn't have to like directly tell you to your face. It was kind of warning everybody. It's 28 million followers.
Right. No, I know it's funny to look back because I think of shit too where I'm like, you are a fucking idiot. I mean, I was just telling you...
I have cheated in past relationships. I will never do that again moving forward. But I was trying to defend myself to Lala for one of the relationships. Him always wanting a threesome, totally down to just swap me out with whoever, down to watch any guy fuck me. What? I caught him texting the girls that we would hook up with later behind my back.
I'm like, do you, should I even be here? Like what? That does not constitute my cheating by the way, but it's looking back, those signs were so fucking obvious. Yeah. And you just, for whatever reason in that moment in time, and I think a lot of people can relate to this. How old were you?
24. Okay, I was going to say a threesome is so like early 20s. And then it's kind of boring. Well, then it's like, what are we doing? Like, I'm a grown ass woman. I don't need like a third person here. Like, one person is enough for me. I actually totally agree with that. I cut you off. You were going to say that a lot of people will relate to what?
Just that when you're in something like that, you don't notice shit. Like you notice it, but it doesn't like click in your... No, because you're talking to the person who other people are talking about and they're sitting there and they're like, I would never do that. And you have that connection where now...
I don't want to say that I'm, I wouldn't say I'm wounded. I would say I'm smarter now. So when I'm having conversations, I'm hypersensitive to every single thing that someone is saying, where they're looking, what, you know, it's, I will not be fooled again. Like one little type of a red flag that I see coming up, like we're done here. I feel the exact same way. And I wanted to ask you, you're, are you dating? I don't know if I'm dating. I've, I finally fucked a boy.
Yeah, after like a really long time. There we go. There we go. Yes. And I thought it would be. I think I finally fucked a boy. Like you're like in high school. No, I feel like I'm in high school because I haven't like a one night stand, which is what I thought it would turn into. But sometimes when the D that's thrown at you is that good, like you keep coming back. And I'm thinking like this guy is never going to be like
my person uh-huh but like the way he is putting things down is like you can stay around for as long as you want you don't even have to take me to dinner yeah that's when you know you're fucked that you're fucked the way he's putting things down and inside correct is really it's all working you know what's i've only started caring about dick and dick size because
as I've gotten older. I think there is such thing as a dude being too big to where it's not enjoyable. Right. But there is such a thing as too small. Well, that's always been a thing. But you know how everyone's like, he's a big old dick. I'm like, but like how big? Cause I don't need to feel like it's puncturing my stomach and going to come out my head. No, but I recently have been fucking around with the best dick of my life. Really? Yeah. Which I thought was just going to be a one-time thing. And like,
It's hard to let that go. It's really hard. Especially where we're at, where I think we're so fucking busy with our careers, and especially you, you have a baby slash toddler. You're not, you're like, I just want to have really good sex, kind of. Yeah. And for both of us, I feel like we don't need anybody to come in and offer us anything except at this point.
at this point in time, just good dick. Yes, exactly. Like I don't need you to like put my name on the map. I don't need you to support me financially. Like I'm all good in all areas. I have my daughter to think of. So the only void you can fill is like this,
Yeah. Me needing sex. Yeah. That's all I need from you. Which I literally, yeah, I could use a sex toy, but it's just, it's not the same. Like, I literally need to do that. No, there's something really hot about just, like, someone on top of you. I know. And just your orgasm with someone versus with a sex toy, it's just, it's better, it's hotter. It just is. Yeah.
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I want to just, let's get rid of Randall like the fly he is. I want to talk about the tattoo. Because you got his name tattooed. Yes. Rand. Yes. For Randall. Yeah. And then you got it replaced or you like covered it up? I didn't want to cover it up. This is where I get deep and cheesy. Okay. I didn't want to cover it up because the only reason the name had any type of meaning or power was because I gave it meaning and power. You know, like...
He can think whatever he wants.
about what he's done in life. No one knew who he was until he stepped on the scene with me. Let's just call it what it is. True. All right. Yeah. And by the way, how strange is this? So I got the tattoo with Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox. Okay. We were in Puerto Rico. They wanted to get tattoos. I was like, oh my God, I met a tattoo artist that works at the resort and tattoos on her free time. She comes to where we're staying. Um,
Megan gets, I think it said El Pistolero or something for MGK. Okay. I got Rand. Okay. And she asked me, she was like, what if it doesn't work out? What are you going to do? And I'm looking at her like, what are you going to do? You got it on your chest. Okay.
I said, I'll just, I'm just going to change it to brand new if it doesn't work out. Okay. And I never thought I would have to do that. And I did. I had to fucking do that. But that is. So I always had a plan B. Okay. Love a plan B. That was literally going to be my question. Because I'm like, there's no way there had to be a reason why you got Rand and not Randall. And it's because you knew. Well, Rand, no. Randall is one of the ugliest names in the world. Randall is the guy is.
He's the evil guy from Monsters, too. It's a horrific name. I don't know why anyone would name anyone that. All right? Yeah. It's just a bad fucking name. So you just always called him Rand. Yeah. Randall, with the way he looked, it was just like, this is all bad. We've got to fucking change this. I've got to add a little swag to you. Yeah. So that's the reason why I put Rand. Do you think...
that was maybe a red flag like getting the tattoo me like there's no actually I don't think that's a red flag I think that was really smart well I always have a plan B always I'm like dependent on a plan B and I tell people that all the time like even in the relationship when I could have fallen into being very dependent on him mm-hmm like I gained all the independence in the world because I always was like if things go bad
Which they could go bad for many reasons. You know, maybe he's out of a job next week and I have to now start, you know, providing. I think that's just a smart way to live. It's kind of that mentality where people think getting a prenup is so fucked up. No, you have to. Marriage is fucked up.
forever. Like, why would you feel the need to do that? Because shit happens. Yeah, because marriage isn't forever. You just think it is in the moment. And you're lucky if it lasts forever. Yeah. Do you believe that? Like, will you ever get married again? Or you're... Oh, you weren't even married. I never got married and...
I know. I don't think I'll ever get married. No, I could do like a cute commitment ceremony. I want to find a person that I'm with forever. But like that piece of paper where everything right that he's dealing with and everything I'm dealing with, I inherit that. That terrifies me. So scary. I mean, you look at that L.A. Times article and I think they they added up.
around $25 million in lawsuits. At any point, if he and I would have been married and they came for him personally, I would have been... Paying for it? You're broke as fuck. Yeah, I don't have $25 million. Okay, thank God you did not marry that. So that is why I will never...
get legally married okay it terrifies me yeah because you can never trust uh someone's finances right ever well that's why I put the pi on them because I gotta check it all out I love how you just say pi like so casually your assistant was like she's on the phone with her pi yes I'm like
Once again, are we in the Sopranos? Like, where are we? See, maybe I am a little wounded, but I call it just being smart now. Knowledge is power. Like, what is this dude about? Yes. Let's, yeah, let's fucking move on from him who tried to say he was going to sue me. And apparently he does that to everyone. No, he actually texted one of my friends saying, I am planning on suing her. By the way, are you going to Coachella? Oh, fuck.
Oh, and then earlier in the text thread said, I know it was you that fucking told Sophia, you're going to pay for this type of shit. I'm going to sue Sophia. By the way, are you going to Coachella? What?
It just gets better. Yeah. What a lunatic. I was like, okay. God, could you imagine being his mom? No. How the, what the fuck did I do wrong? No. And you and his ex-wife are really close now. Very close. I can imagine. You guys probably have, can talk for days. Yes.
Yeah, and you know what? It's a rare occasion that we discuss him. Oh, I love that. Yeah, we got extremely, extremely close, which is very strange. Were you guys that close when you were dating him? No. Okay. She hated me. Okay. You know, because I was looked at as the girl who ruined a marriage, but...
You know, he's just impeccable at creating lie after lie. I don't even know how he keeps up with all his shit. Yeah. But like I've always said, the man can't take a breath without telling a lie. So once he and I were done, Amber and I really started communicating and just like, I apologized to her if, just for the role that I may have played in the demise of her marriage. And she said, you saved me. And I said, well, you fucked me. Yes!
not to say you should be like well i wish that never happened i know right that is so funny by the way a third person cannot break up a marriage
He broke up the marriage. Right. You know what I mean? Yeah. But I understand where she's coming from, but it wasn't, he obviously, it sounds like with him, there's never. He's just a liar. Real happening. Right. Yeah. Okay. Well, we're going to move on from him. Come for me. Try to sue me. That's completely fine. I do want to move on. You have been very vocal about being sober for four years. Yeah.
I'll be four years October 22nd. I need to understand how and where it stemmed from. Probably a lot of things. I'm sure there's not one answer. But I don't really even... It was just like a whirlwind. Because when I lived in Utah, I would maybe go out like a couple times a month. Yeah. And I'd have a good time. But I by no means was drinking like I did when I moved to LA. Once I moved to LA, it was like...
Every night. Every night. Because every night there's something going on. You know, New York, there's something always going on. I mean, last night in the hotel, I'm like, it's a fucking Thursday. Why is... People are fist pumping. It's three in the morning. Go the fuck to sleep. Yeah. Always something happening. And I just...
would wake up every single morning being like, I'm not drinking today. Like, I don't want to feel this anxiety. And like, I could drive off of a cliff. Right. But then you would just end up drinking. Yes. Because then that feeling fades, you forget and you're like, yeah, I'm out. Let's have a drink. Or you want to fix that feeling. You're like,
Or I could just... Hair of the dog. I just need to have a drink to settle it all. Yeah. So then when my dad died, it was nonstop. Like, bottle of champagne next to my bed. In the morning. In the morning until I passed out at night. Mm-hmm. Like, that was the drill. Yeah. And then we went to Disney World, and I was obliterated the entire time. I could not...
I would take a shot at the bar before we left, have two roadies because I'm like, I don't know if there's... Love a good roadie. Two roadies for the walk to the roller coaster. Right? I had to have it. No, I feel that. Don't worry. I found the bar at Disney World though. And that's where I was parked the entire time. We get back to LA. The last drink I ever had was a bottle. I finished a bottle of Hennessy straight out of the bottle on a private jet from Orlando, Florida to LA.
Get home. I could not be any drunker. I tried to get more drunk, but it was like, you know when you hit the cap? Yes. Where it's like you're sloppy, you're tired, but you're trying to fight it. Woke up the next morning. The kitchen was a disaster. And I was like, this is... I'm done. Yeah. I'm never picking up a drink again. I was like...
craving it. So many people ask me, how did you get sober and stay sober? And it's a very hard thing to explain because I was just done. There was nothing in the world that could change my mind and make me go and pick up a drink again. I think I got sober and it was maybe like two days later that I went
to Mexico with a group of friends where there was a lot of drinking whoa okay and it didn't trigger me because I'm like I'm not doing this anymore wow that even the thought of having a drink takes me to the darkest place really yes were you thinking about getting sober or it was just that morning something came over you and you said this needs to stop
There were times that I would say, I'm going to only have two cocktails max. I'm only going to drink wine or beer. There were times where I knew that there was an issue. And then when I couldn't do those things that I told myself I would do, I just came to the realization I like to drink. And when I get pregnant one day and when I get older, right. Yes. But...
That morning after Disney World, it was like something just came over me where I just knew this is not, I'm taking my life back. That's so impressive. Thank you. And hats off to you. And also after your father's passing, which I'm so sorry, by the way. Thank you, babe. My condolences.
that's just so fucking impressive. Who decides to go sober and their first time stay sober? Yeah. Yeah. No, it's hard. How common and that type of thing. Very. And when, cause I'm in AA as well. And during the pandemic, there were people that I had been in the rooms with,
that, you know, had celebrated 15 years, 20 years, and then pandemic hits. We are going to the same meetings, but via Zoom. And these people when are introducing themselves being like, I'm 24 hours sober. Right. Yeah. That's the humbling part about it is you can celebrate
however many years, and it could be gone and you could be a newcomer in 30 seconds. Right. Yeah. Does it get easier as time goes on or is it always kind of the same? Is it always a little bit tempting? It's never, but it's been tempting one time in Puerto Rico in July of 2020. I remember this because it was when I conceived my daughter that I called my sponsor and
Every five minutes. I was like, this is like, I'm triggered and I don't even know why. Like, why am I obsessing? And she finally said, call the person to come clear out the mini bar. Take all the alcohol out of their mind. Yes. So that's what I did. But that was the one time and I haven't had that since. By the way, those moments could be around the corner. So I'm always prepared for those moments. But I do have the tools.
Just calling my sponsor. If there's alcohol around me, get it away from me. Yep. Yeah. Because I'm not going back. Yes. So if you ever feel tempted, it's like remove. I've heard that. It's remove people, places, and things. Yep. Right? If you're feeling tempted. Yes. I think, yeah. I mean, that's just so fucking admirable. I've gone like 30 days, 40 days, 50 days, and I feel so great, skin.
Skin looks amazing. Energy, clear headed. Yeah. But I always will end up having a drink again. But I always say if you don't have to be sober, if it's not a problem, like I don't recommend it. Go live your life. Right. Go have cocktails. Go do your thing. Yeah. If you start feeling the way I was feeling or you're affecting other people in a negative way when you're drinking, like something to look into. Yeah. If you go to Disney World. If you go to Disney World with 26 people, most of which are children, and you're like, I need to get fucked up.
It's a problem. And you don't even go on a ride because you're sitting at the bar at Disney World. With the rest of the degenerates. Yeah. With all the people that have been there since like five, like since it opened. Right. And you feel the need to take two roadies to Harry Potter World. Maybe just
But again, I'm not, I can't be the person. Maybe someone does do that and they don't have a problem. You have to. No, but by the way, I've had parents be like, I have to get fucked up when I take my kids to the world. Like who doesn't? Which I think that's funny. Yeah. But no, I was in a dark place. Yeah. You know, you know, when you have a problem. Yep. I feel it inside of you. I agree with that. A thousand percent. And if you don't keep doing your thing. Yeah. Yeah.
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Lala, I am obsessed with you. And one of the reasons I am is because you and I really relate to each other. You're so genuine and real. And I want you to help me answer some of my listeners questions. I love this. Okay, here we go.
First question, advice needed. I just started talking to this guy. I'm 23, he's 38. We went on a date and like the slew I am, I couldn't help myself and I went back to his place. We fucked four times and I'm obsessed.
Any chance this guy is actually looking for something and not just trying to fuck? How do I talk to an older guy without seeming so young? Should I hold out now on fucking him? But he's older, so maybe I shouldn't. Okay, that was like 20 questions in one. So basically, this girl, she's 23, fucked a 38-year-old guy. Yeah, he's not looking for anything with you. If he wanted something, he would not go for a 23-year-old. Wait, really? 100%? I love it.
I love how it's not even... Let's go for a 23-year-old because he's looking to fuck and you fucked him four times and you're like now holding out? No. No. Well, you didn't even take a breath. You're like, girl, this is what the fuck it is. No. Okay, that's interesting because I was going to say anytime
- Any time for people listening, backtracking and sex is the dumbest shit I've ever heard. - The dumbest. - Oh my God, I gave it up too soon, but now I'm gonna be the virgin. - No, he's had it. He's had it. He doesn't care. - So stupid. So that's dumb.
I think a 38 year old could be serious about a 23 year old or am I living in La La Land? I think you're living in La La Land. Any 38 year old who's like, I'm going for the 23 year old. You're one of 50 23 year olds that he's going for. By the way, you're 23. What are you doing? You don't want a relationship. Go and like bang all the 38 year olds. Yeah, that's true. Because what is that age difference? Like 15 years roughly. How much older was your ex? 20. 20.
Okay, and my ex was 11 years. But 23 is so young. Right. That's true. 23, you don't even, girl, you have so much growing up to do. I think women should stay single until they're 30. I agree. I am, I recently turned 30, kind of. I'm the most clear-headed. Now I feel like. Now you don't even want to cheat. Yes. See? See?
you grow up that is that is the moral of the story okay next question if you had to choose one thing in a guy that turns you on what would it be oh one thing that there's damn we can only pick one person no no i can't i think it's the dick i think it's the dick in a relationship just in a guy one thing he's got to eat the cookie
Ooh, that, okay. Yes. That's fucking smart. Because when he eats the cookie, there are no red flags. Okay, that is actually fucking brilliant. I'm going to copy you. If he is a type of guy that will not fuck you until he's eaten you out and made you cum. Done. Done, deal, put a ring on it. Yep. But not really because we're not getting married, but I actually, I think that's the biggest turn on is when he eats my pussy. No, you have to. No.
She's probably looking for like, is it personality? Is it their money? We're like face and vagina. Yes. That's what it is. Okay. Um, let's do this last question. Okay. Hey, slew. I am in an amazing, loving, committed relationship. I,
I went to a festival all weekend with my girlfriends who are all single and my boyfriend didn't come. I ended up going on a guy's shoulders for one song to get a better view. After telling my boyfriend he was pissed, he said it made him question his trust and that freaked me out. I apologized explaining I didn't know that was a boundary for him and I would not do it again, but he keeps bringing it up. Wanted to know what your thoughts are on the situation."
I mean, getting on a guy's shoulders like girl, how old are you? Are you allowed to have a computer? Where are your parents?
No, I think your boyfriend should definitely let that go. He should let it go. Especially once you have the conversation and it's like, okay, I won't. I feel stupid even saying it. I won't get on a guy's shoulders again, which I don't feel like that's a frequent thing that you'd be like, I'm going to go to a bar tonight and I promise I won't be on someone's shoulders. Like, what the fuck?
Lala and I are trying to wrap our brain around it and we're like, oh, you went on his shoulders and he ate the cookie, right? Like that's what you meant to say at the festival. We can't comprehend. They sound young. It's not going to work out anyway, so don't worry about it. And the fact that she told him, she was honest enough. Okay, let me ask you this, Lala.
These are the Diane Sawyer type questions that we need to dive into. Do you think she needed to tell him that she... No. There are certain things that you can keep to yourself. Well, if it's not a big deal. I mean, if your vagina wasn't like... You weren't riding him face first. It's not, you know? Right. You wanted to see the concert. You don't need to. You don't tell. You don't tell. Girl, I think... Because by the way, he's never going to let it go. No.
You're always going to be the, you have no trust because you got on a fucking man's shoulders. You're always going to be known as the girl that got on the guy's shoulders. But by the way, can I tell you something that's also a huge red flag? If he's upset about her getting on the dude's shoulders...
Red flag, what are you doing? That would make you, because by the way, my ex was constantly being like, who are you talking to? What did you say? And now I realize it's because he knew what he was doing behind my back. So how could I possibly just text a guy and have it be friendship-y? How could you get on a dude's shoulders and
and not fuck them. It's like, oh, I think you might be creeping around. That's true. If a guy freaks out over something that's that minuscule, it's kind of like... What are you doing? Yeah. Why is that such a big deal to you? I think you should check his phone, girl. I think you should check his phone and invite him to Coachella and do it in front of him. I don't know, girl. He needs to get over that if you want to stay with him. No, I think he might be fucking around. Yeah, maybe. Oh, did we just ruin her day? I don't know.
We just ruined her day. I'm like, we're so good at advice. We're like, girl, where are your parents? Okay, Lala, thank you so much for coming on. You are stunning. Lala's hotter in person than on television, by the way, if anyone was wondering. Where can they find you? You can find me on the gram at lalakent.
Okay. Your book, Give Them Lala, your podcast. Yep. Give Them Lala. Give Them Lala all around. Yep. And then a new season of Vanderpump Rules will be on next year. Oh my God. I wanted to ask you questions about that, but we're going to do that after. Okay, Lala. Thank you so much. And you guys know where to find me. So if you have an F, rank them with a Y. And on TikTok, just slap a zero onto the end of it. And I will talk to you sleuths next week. Bye. Bye.
