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but we're not going to be restocking it and I'm recording not live I always want to say I'm fucking recording live no you're not bitch from WTF Media Studios Black-owned studio super chic super amazing and I'm here with Becca fucking Moore oh my god this is my dream are you kidding Becca you said that when I walked in you're like I'm totally fangirling I don't believe you no
I met your mom and I was like pulling up random receipts from the OG days. Like I remember I'm an OG fan. You are? Yes. I listened to Sophia with an F. Are you kidding? Oh my. I'm like, do you need a blonde coat? Actually, I fucking do. And you were, I was telling Becca before we started this, you are me, but blonde. That's a, I, can you write that down? I'm looking at my manager. Yeah.
Yeah. Oh, my God. My mom is here, guys. My mom has never been in the studio when I've recorded and she's wanted to before. Do you feel like you if your mom was in the room, you would try to censor yourself a little bit? I would not say anything.
But I can't. Like, I can't. This is my job. So I'm actually probably going to be over the top. Disgusting. Just to make her mad. Yeah, probably. So Becca is, I hate, you're so much more than an influencer. Oh my God. Influencer is such a bad rep these days. Yeah. Just that word. I say I do freelance marketing, like to everyone, to randoms on the street. I don't tell them what I do. That's fucking brilliant. Freelance marketing. I'm just a TikToker. That's what I do.
Like, that's even worse. Would you rather be referred to as a TikToker or an influencer? A content creator is, like, the least, like...
I'm from Ohio. So I'm originally from Ohio. And like, this is not anything that anyone in Ohio does, you know? And it just got crazy for me in the last year. So I'm still trying to figure out how to introduce myself to people still. Like, what do you say? I usually say the podcast thing, which is actually the most cringe out of all of those. Because every single person has a podcast. Yeah, but yours is different, though. I know.
but imagine me saying I'm the kind of person that's different. Like that's probably the most cringe thing you can say. But your TikTok, I was scrolling on there for fucking hours. No.
Before we dive into your TikTok, Becca, why does Jonathan Chubon? We're in a huge fight right now. So basically what happened is I pretended like I was running for president. I went on like a fake campaign and I said, once I am president, I'm going to put Food God on house arrest.
And he did not like that. And then he, I swear to God, he reported me 20 times. Stop. The video immediately got taken down. And I found out if you like hashtag or tag him in any hate, he is on that. He gets everything taken down. He got my account suspended for a week. Stop it. So then I started, I kept going with it. After I got my account back, I kept making videos saying, food God, like I know you're in love with me. And then my fans...
made... They ran with it so hard that they edited his Wikipedia to say that we were, like, undying lovers and, like, we are, like, obsessed with each other. And then that he... Yeah, that he's in love with me and, like, all of this stuff. And then there was an article that was written. It was, like, are Becca Moore and Food God dating? Here are the facts we know. Stop it. Stop. And then they're, like...
It was like speculation. So anyway, I got a cardboard cut out of him to make him even more mad. But then that video got taken down too. So he's like, he will just, he's on top of his shit. Like you can't say one negative thing about him. Well, how,
- Have you seen his, in the past he's attacked random little girls and called them fat for attacking him. - See, I already hated him. Sorry, try to take my episode down, you won't be able to. - He will, he hates me. Oh yeah, and then I went to this Revolve party in LA and I saw him there. So I got my friend to go ask for a picture with him and then I jumped in the back. - No, stop. - So I have a picture with Food God, don't tell him. I posted it in feed on my Instagram.
Like that's on my Instagram right now. It's just out of all the people, the fact that you are food gods, like public enemy number one is. Oh my God. And I think it's still on his Wikipedia. Please go look it up. The,
- The bragging rights though. - I know. - You should be leading the conversation. Fuck the influencer content creator shit. - I'm through God's enemy right now. - Probably enemy number one. That's fucking hilarious. Okay, you have several TikToks where you show kind of like throwback pictures of how you used to edit your photos. - Yes. - The face tune. - I used to be a face tuner, you guys, very bad.
It was bad. It's like delusional. Have you been through a phase of like bad facing? Yes. 100%. One thing about me, I do love to lie, but not when it comes to what I look like. Because that's so awkward when you meet people in person and you look completely different. I don't know. I always think about that. And what was my goal? Like, was I...
my demographic on Instagram is like 90% girls. So my, I don't want to like try to make girls feel bad about themselves by making me look like a stick, you know? So yeah. And then when I started blowing up on Tik TOK, people started calling me out and I was delusional and I thought no one could tell.
So when I realized like people can see what I'm doing, I have to stop. So yeah. So what? Once you notice like you have to see people in person, you're like, I need to stop. Yeah, well, there were lines also. It's not like there are lines behind me being warped everywhere I walk, you know? Like that doesn't even make sense. Like it looked so bad. Like I don't even know what I, I don't know. You know what I find? I like actually really want to get your opinion on this. The Kardashians.
are constantly getting caught for face and they just ignore that and keep going I think they do it on purpose I swear to god I think they do it on purpose so like they have a bunch of people in the comments freaking out and like picking apart their photos because there's no way you have that amount of money and teams of people around you and you're fucking up a facetune right
I don't know. I feel like they're just bad at Facetune. Dude, their whole thing is being hot. Like, they have to be hot. Yeah. So when there's so much pressure on you being hot, I can totally see where that comes from of people being like... I think their biggest fear is people commenting and saying, they're not that hot anymore, you know, or getting old. Right. So I think they have a lot of pressure on them. And I bet it's addicting. Like, I don't know. Do you think they Facetune their own pictures? Yeah. Really? They can't ask...
Oh, you know everyone in their camp has signed an NDA. For sure. For sure. By now, though, I feel like someone would have broken it. Maybe. They definitely had it. And their, I don't know, their egos are so big. So big. But the thing with face, too, no, I feel you, is the body, I won't touch. Like, I won't touch my body. No. The face, sometimes, like, I'll fix the under eye bag, whatever. Yeah. Yeah.
But it's so fucked up. Instagram, it kind of like, everyone looks like the same person now. Everyone is on FaceApp, I will tell you. Yeah. Spoiler alert. Everyone is editing their pictures. It's not... You know that feeling when you see a guy that you used to like and he's like following all these girls? You're like, oh my God, I don't look like her. It's because she doesn't even look like her. Like she's editing her face. None of it's real. I mean, especially...
filters are I mean I can't even I love how I'm about to go on a rant on like no filters when I'm literally like the number one offender on my Instagram story right now I'm like using a filter like right now so I don't know I can't I'm not like some saint where I'm above all of that stuff but I just want to
give you guys a warning. Like, nothing is real on Instagram. Nothing. Yeah. I love how you preface that. It's that feeling of a guy and you see that he, like, goes and follows all of these girls who look so fucking hot and you kind of want to die, right? Yeah, and then you see them in person. And you see them in person and you're like, this is not the
same girl and then you're like oh my god I was like watching makeup tutorials on YouTube like watching like that girl TikToks like trying to like look like her and then you see them and you're like oh my god right what have I been doing like I don't know yeah no those it's always like a blonde girl named like Ashley with like L-E-I-G-H and that's like like 10 Ashleys so it's always a fucking Ashley you guys heard it here first
But and I am just thinking about this conversation. I really hope we don't sound like we're fucking haters. No, I don't want to get canceled right now. No, no, no. I love all my Ashley's out there. We love our Ashley's and we don't judge if you're going to like Photoshop some stuff here and there. But to a certain extent, that's what I always say. Yes, because who?
No one is looking at this picture thinking, oh, this would be hot if she edited her waist like two more inches in. No, you're already hot. The picture is hot. Just post the picture. It looks hot. I don't know.
I'm the most gullible person with that where I genuinely think that people on Instagram look like that. Even though I, you know, like can understand, I can comprehend that that's not the truth, right? But it doesn't, yeah, on paper, but it's still like affects my self-esteem and I still am like, I know for a fact that girl looks like that in real life and it's never true. It's never true, dude. Yeah, I'm still in that phase. I can't even be talking right now.
in pain right now watching his following no me too right yeah okay so the phase tune you've like you kind of like calmed down on doing that you were part of a sorority yeah oh my god yeah i was the villain and it's right not just part of it i was like the villain wait what does that mean you were the villain of the sorority i just never paid and i was in it for like four years
I never paid one time, like ever. Okay. Like ever. Sororities are expensive as fuck, right? I was really, I was a poor kid. I was from Ohio. Why did they let me in? Like they, when you're rushing, they lie to you. They're like, oh, it's not like the finances. We can, cause you're not allowed to talk about finances during rush. And they're, they kind of like lied to me.
I'm okay. I'm actually genuinely poor. Like my family, not anymore, but my family is super poor still. Okay. They're like in Ohio, like in the trenches right now. Okay. But I was like, none of my family's ever been to college, been in a sorority. I don't even know what I was thinking. Like I was in college on a scholarship. So all,
All the girls on my floor were like super hot and fun and they were all rushing. So I wanted to rush. Yeah. And then I got in and I realized it's like thousands of dollars a semester. And I don't have like, yeah. And I have like $2. I don't have a thousand dollars. So what you like do rush week and then they, what did you get initiated in? And then they're like, Oh, by the way, this is actually thousands of dollars. Yes. And then I just never paid. But then, then I ended up,
I got attached to all the girls. The girls kind of got attached to me and then they kind of let it slide. They didn't say anything. I don't want to get sued by the organization. So I never really got in trouble for that. What I got in trouble for was leaving alcohol up on my Instagram. I would post with alcohol all the time.
Wait, and you would get in trouble for that? Because you were in 21, right? No, just like even after 21. Have you been in a sorority? No. But tell me I didn't belong. What? You would have been, yeah, you would have been the president. I would have been the president. That's like my biggest regret in life is not joining a sorority. It made me like girls a lot. Like living, I lived in the house for two years.
And by the way, never paid rent. Don't. I feel like I owe a lot of money to that. You're just a finesser, though. And I think that's like, I think that's one of the biggest compliments ever. Thank you. Write that down. Everyone remember that. But yeah, no, I would like post pictures of alcohol. I would go out. I would sneak out of that. Okay, so we had dry weeks. You can't drink that entire week. Why? Because it's a cult. Because you have to be...
- Pure, you have to be pure for like a ritual. - Okay, so it's like religion, kind of. - Yes, it's like a fake cult religion. So you have to be your purest self. So you can't drink, so you're locked in the house basically for a week. No, no, no, that's not gonna work for me. Like I was sneaking out.
and they obviously saw me like getting out of the house and then I would gaslight them and be like what what are you talking about and then anyway I ended up posting this picture with like a red solo cup and I edited it into a coke can stop I had to have standards meeting after standards meeting and then at the end I was like you know what I want to post alcohol like I'm in college right like
Also, I'm sorry, but arguably the Red Solo Cup could have whatever in there. Right? No, yeah, no. But it was definitely vodka. The Red Solo Cup is actually the biggest giveaway for alcohol being in it. And I was also posting beer cans. It was worse than that. I'm making it sound less bad than it was.
I was like really posting the alcohol for sure. But I was flexing. Like, I'm sorry. I'm not 21 and I'm drinking. Like that was cool. You know? Okay. I was the exact same way where I thought it was the cool. I was the type of girl that I would go to parties and my friends would be like, Oh my God, like Jared's here, like freaking out about dudes. And I,
I would be like, I on the prize. How do we get alcohol? How do we get as drunk as possible? Why was that the goal? I don't know. To get as drunk as you can. I thought it was so cool. Yeah, like I can drink, Jared. Are you kidding? No, I used to drink. You know, I used to drink seven and a half shots and then go out in college. That's insane. I don't know how I survived. I'm alive, though. But now I drink like three and I'm like, whoa, like who should I text?
Yeah, exactly. So you were photoshopping out the alcoholic beverages and like replacing them with shit. I put a Starbucks logo on a bottle of lemonade one time and I had another meeting for that. And then I would show up to chapter every Sunday and they would always have a slide that said that it still counts if you edit out the alcohol, like no posting. It makes us look trashy. Don't figure out what sorority it is. So you were like the sorority men.
Yes, I was like the negative evil president. But like I was like the anti-sorority president. And like I kind of like I would show up to breakfast every day and I'd be like, isn't this weird? Does anyone think this is weird that like the girls that we're eating with right now are like the ones that get us in trouble and they're our age and they're in charge of us? Like it's weird. That is really fucking weird. It's a weird dynamic and we're supposed to be best friends and sisters forever.
It's more like political dynamics right now. Like culty vibes. Like, I'm sorry, Sarah, from geometry. I'm not... I don't care if you care that I posted that. Yeah. And also they're like, do you even go to the sorority because you have not seen your paper?
Another thing that I would do that I got in trouble for. I lived in the house, okay? All our meetings were in the house, in the basement. And that's where the snacks were. That's where all the snacks were. And I never knew when I would, I had do not disturb on our like group chat, sorority group chat to let us know when we had to be at...
at things but every night i always wanted the snacks downstairs yeah so i would always like creep down and then i would walk in in the middle of like mandatory meetings and i was like yeah i'm supposed to be here i knew i was coming down for this meeting so you were on the roll call sheet even though there's like no record see that's why you're gonna be safe after this episode because like there's no record of you yeah i was there like i had attendance i wrote my name down on my shoulder so yeah
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Your cash back really adds up. So was there, because I was never part of a sorority, I've heard horror stories like circling girls fat with a marker telling them to lose weight. Is that just, I mean, I'm sure that shit happens. I'm sure. Not in mine. Mine was, I wanted there to be like shit like that. You wanted, right?
Getting ready. I was like, all right, I'm getting hazed. Tell me what I need to do to be hotter. No, nothing. They were like, nothing happened. That's a real disappointment. Maybe my sorority wasn't cool enough. Yeah.
Wait, I'm going to get canceled for that. That's actually really disappointing. I know. Honestly, like I'd be pissed too. Like, come on, let's like up the auntie here. Why the fuck am I here? If I don't feel like shit, why am I here? Okay. Oh my God. This other thing, I was dying. The loyalty test. Oh my God. Yeah. Can you please explain it? I saw that concept before somewhere, but I guess I just like,
rolled with it. I, girls like that think their boyfriend is cheating on them. They DM me and then I just message their boyfriend and hit on him and see if he'll DM me back. And I just screenshot it. They tell me what to say. Okay, so the girls reach out to you. Yeah. Oh my God, yeah. The girls already think that their boyfriend is cheating and they're being like, a lot of times they're being like gaslit into believing that they're crazy. So they need the physical proof in order to get out of the relationship.
gotcha yeah every day i get like about a hundred people asking me to do it but i don't i can't do all of them anymore no absolutely not and i feel guilty every time i'm like it's your boyfriends are so slow to reply and they're awful to talk to so what's like your what's your pickup line these guys have to be hey i know a hot girl like doesn't have to do much or just a girl in general to slide into the dms you don't have to do anything like you literally are like
Sometimes I'll just like a couple old pictures to make it seem less like bro body because...
Why would I DM like a random guy who's private from like Arkansas? So yeah, I'll like a couple pictures and then like wait for him to like some back and then I'm in, you know, and then you're in because I was just like, hey, yeah, I was gonna say there's no way these guys believe like a girl as hot as you is like trying to like slide in. Oh my god, I love you. What else? Guys, if you are not watching the video, Becca is super, super hot. B cup C cup actually. Oh my god. I'm
Write that down. They're beautiful. They're perfect. How do you slide in DM? I've never slid into a DM ever. What? Ever. Ever, ever, ever. Ever? No. What do you do when you like a guy? So this guy, I met him organically. Shocker. I know. He like came up to me in the club. What? Um.
But before that, I would meet guys on dating apps. Are you on dating apps right now? I'm on a couple of dating apps. You're on a couple. And how many dates do you go on from them? None. I only do it... Okay, I'm single. I got broken up with like two months ago. Okay, I was about to ask you. Okay, how are you doing? On my birthday. It was on my birthday, dude. Yeah. Why on your birthday? Because he's evil. Yeah. That's actually evil. He flew to Nashville and decided...
Well, we've never had a good relationship, I'm going to be honest. It was never good. Let's start there. Yeah, it was super, super toxic. So I'm not like ready to date anyone. Like I'm like anti-dating right now. Like I won't go on a date. I haven't even been able to like text anyone because I'm like that guy was evil. But I'm also choosing not to be jaded though because I think that was just like a once in a while.
hopefully in a lifetime kind of toxic like I don't think that'll ever happen to me again because now I'm smarter I still I mean I when was my breakup sit like seven months ago and I'm still not fully over it yeah are you and you're not over yours obviously because it just happened right now I'm in the phase of like remembering things that happened and I'm getting angry I'm like in the anger phase or I'm like that's a that's a great phase by the way yeah why no it's all
It's a great, I would rather be in that phase than in the, than in the, did I fuck up? Was that like a really good guy phase? No, no, no. I was, that was never a phase. Okay. So that wasn't even an option. Well, maybe like the first couple of days, but.
It was like... Really toxic. Some of the conversation... Like, it was just crazy. Like, he basically said everything was always my fault. Gaslighting. Yeah. And that, like, the bad... He had to treat me so bad. And he was sorry. But, like, if only I was less cold, then he would have been able to treat me better and stuff like that. And so, I would go home to my poor mother. Yeah. And I'd be like...
you are he convinced me that my mom and dad were the reason okay this has controlling psychopath 101 like this is like textbook I almost like don't even want to give him like air time on this because he would be so excited he's so excited but yeah and he's a cloud chaser okay so what like Becca what were you doing with this guy were you like kind of in a vulnerable okay it was the sex
A little bit. I mean, okay, if you're in an evil relationship, it's why, like if you're blocked by your significant other while you're dating, then you're probably having a good time. You're just going to be on. Absolutely. One time, okay, I'll just give you one example and then we should probably move on because he's going to like jack off. Jack off, yeah. And like take a clip and post it. Yes. One time, I will say, well, okay, our entire relationship, there was another girl that he would use against me. Like, oh,
He flew her out to make me, like basically just saying like he had to do this to show me like to make me care again, kind of. - The shit coming out of your mouth is insanity. - I know, but that wasn't even the story I was gonna tell. So I was mad about that one day. I got over it, I was like whatever, like maybe he's right, maybe I just need to be nicer to him.
But also I was like, maybe you should date her. Like, I feel like you guys should be good together. And then he was like, no, how could you say that? You don't care about me. And then anyway, that day I we like we're laughing about how crazy our fights were. And then I was like, oh, my God, I just got a DM from this guy. He wants to pay me forty dollars to insult him and like send him like insults.
And I told him that I did that one time in college. In college, I was 19. I got $40 from a guy just to write, to copy and paste the insults that this guy sent to me. Oh, my God. He would write the insults for you? Yes. Oh, so it was like zero effort. Remember, I wasn't paying my sorority bills. I needed $40. Cha-ching. Yeah. All the way to the bank. Yeah. So I told him I did that one time. And he was like, oh, my God.
I need to go talk to her, the girl, because you're a slut. Like, you're a slut. I can't believe I'm dating someone who's so, like, you disgust me. And he was my boyfriend and he blocked me for two weeks.
Two weeks. Okay. Yeah. So how did you try to reach out to him? Because that I email. We were emailing. Yeah. That's when you know if you're emailing a guy that you're dating. He's my boyfriend. Right. Get out of that relationship. That's when I knew because I've been in a couple. I've been in one really, really toxic relationship. Sex was amazing. And the blocking game was.
was unhinged like our favorite shit to do to each other yeah when you guys are talking over venmo or talking over email yeah or like that letters letters yeah uh drive-bys and showing up at the house like that's when you know yeah it's time to get out it's time to get out and you shouldn't be calling them star six seven until their phone dies like there is just yeah no i know he would call he would call me crazy names like
All of the names in the book. It was like verbally abusive. He would call me all the names in the book. I would block him, obviously. And then he would cry. And he'd be like, I'm so sorry. I'll go to therapy. I'll go to therapy. And I was like, at the time, I was like, oh, my God, I love him. Like, I loved one version of him. Yeah. But he can't be that version all the time. And so in the beginning of the breakup, after my birthday, I was so sad. I was like, I miss him. I miss like the version of him that he was sometimes. Mm hmm.
And so I went through like a really sad phase. But now we're in the angry phase. I'm in the anger phase because I'm remembering because people keep asking me about him. They're like, what happened? And I'm like, actually, he was a little bit bad. Yeah. And I just I can't believe I thought I was a bad guy the entire time. Like, I really thought I just need to be nicer. I just need to compliment him a little bit more and make him feel more comfortable with all these trips I'm going on and all of this stuff. And then we can have a happy relationship. But yeah.
I'm learning now that like I'm not responsible for two people's emotions. I'm only responsible for my emotions. Especially, I never cheated on him and he cheated on me. Yeah. That's the thing is they're so good at making you think everything is your fault. I remember that. I would feel guilty all the time. I'd walk around with guilt. Yeah. And I would talk to my friends and family and I'd be like,
okay but like the reason he slept over at his best friend's house who's a girl like there was a reason he did that because I was acting up that day or like you know and then you hear yourself and you look back at the situation you're like
I'm sorry. What the... Like, did someone hijack your brain? That's what I... It makes me so upset because when he broke up with me on my birthday and I tell this story to people, I'm like, oh, he was yelling at me. But he was yelling at me in front of everyone, all my friends at the bar. But he had to do that because I accused him of hitting on my friend. And they're like, what? Which he absolutely was. Oh, I know he was. So...
I was like, no, you don't know the full story, okay? I was totally to blame because I did this. And they're like, no, no, no. He went home with another girl in Nashville the day after your birthday and you're making excuses for him. And I was like, you're right. Oh my God. But you know what? But I'm in therapy now. You're in therapy? Amazing. Also, the way you're talking about him right now, I can tell like you're removed enough from the situation. I feel like you're seeing things as they are. ♪
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I love how you said you're not going to walk into relationships completely jaded. No, that was a one and done thing. Now I understand that that behavior was not normal. Okay, also, my grandma was in an abusive relationship, so my mom ran away from home and then found herself in an abusive relationship. And then I married this guy, not my dad, the guy before my dad. And then she had a daughter with this abusive guy. And...
My sister, we would always talk about, like, mom is crazy for staying with that guy. How could she ever? And then my sister, I watched my sister go into an abusive relationship. So even though you can speculate and be like, wow. Like, I remember judging my sister then. I was like, how could you? You've watched all of the strong women in our life fall into this. How could you ever, like, let a guy abuse you like that?
And then I was mad at her, I remember. I was so mad at her. And then I found myself in the same thing. So it can happen to, but I'm ending the cycle right now. We're done. No more generational, like, I'm not doing that to my kids. I'm not having a kid...
with a guy who is evil yeah like I'm not I feel that I'm like the cycle ends here for sure but you you do what you see you know like you yeah I feel like when you see something happening so much it's just what you expect in a relationship yeah and I think that's kind of what I fell into of being like well this is normal because it happened to my sisters it happened to my mom
And have them to my grandma and probably the ladies above that. Like if it keeps happening. But now I'm watching my mom with a guy who I want to be my stepdad. And he is like amazing. I love that. It brings out like such great aspects of her personality that I haven't seen.
so now I'm seeing healthy around me and that's what I'm going to have. So I'm not going to like walk into a relationship expecting, like being jealous or like scared. And I just also worst case scenario, what is the worst case scenario? I end up single for my entire life, but like, I feel like that wouldn't even be that bad. It does not sound bad at all. Like why am I, why are people scared of being single? I don't know.
LOL me always in a relationship but always talking about how like single life best life but no I would way rather be completely alone than in a relationship I mean those toxic relationships I think A what you were saying it's like a lot of times it's
it's all you know. So you enter into a relationship like that. But I also think on the flip side, there's I've had a lot of friends who just didn't know the signs or had never seen a relationship like that. So he didn't know what to look out for. And I think the biggest misconception is that you're not mentally strong, you know, as a woman, if you're in a relationship like that, I still feel a lot of
like one thing I'm working on in therapy is like self-blaming. Like I started censoring all the stories to my friends. Like I didn't tell them the full truth. Yeah. And that's when you know, when you're taking parts out of stories, you need out. I didn't tell them the whole stories. I still haven't even told everyone everything because it's just like so embarrassing. Like how could you take them back? But it's not embarrassing. It's really not. It's an addiction in your brain. It's an addiction of like,
one day I was an angel to this guy and then the next day I was the devil. So I would always be fighting to be the angel again and show him, no, I'm like perfect
just like you said yeah and I always wanted to get back to like the love balmy stage that we were in in the beginning and so that's just never going to end well like trying to be a version of a person that doesn't exist that they made up in their head because I was never a perfect angel yeah so yeah that's why he blocked me for two weeks for something you do when you were 19 that's fine yeah I'm still mad see I get mad again then I'm like are you kidding me how did I
I don't know. But it's not my fault. No, absolutely. It's not your fault. But I mean, I've been there before. I've been there and I look back and I'm like, oh, you really like actually let him, you know, do that or get away with that or make you believe that. Yeah. It's like it's, you know, we learn from it. And I feel a lot more powerful now. Honestly, I feel so much.
I feel so smart and like I know the signs to watch out for. And I can I'm I'm noticed I'm like laughing at things again. I'm like happy again. So I think this is going to be a good thing. I'm glad I come. I'm kind of glad I went through that. I feel like that made me a stronger person. Yeah. But I have so fair to say. Yeah. I just I'm will never do that again. Yeah. He needs help.
a lot he needs to like not date for like probably for his life entire life for his entire lifetime yeah yeah yeah so he I'm so glad you're out of that also by the way because that shit can get really scary and it's I just I remember being in that relationship it's
the most stressful shit every single day. I never, I didn't get any work done. I did nothing. I did nothing. I would rather, I would stay in because he convinced me all my friends are bad. They're all social climbers. They're all using you. Like, why do you hang out with them? So I would stay in and drinking a bottle of wine and talking to him instead. And then I started getting depressed. It was like, and then I was like, what am I doing with this guy? Yeah. I don't know. And I tried to get out many times actually, but I never, obviously never worked. It's so hard. It's so, because then they hit you with the fucking love.
bomb yes but then when he like got rid of me on my birthday for accusing him of hurting on my friend whatever it wasn't an accusation I know for a fact you don't even know him and yeah I'm sure he was but I just remember that shit yeah no I wasn't hitting on her no and it's like no
Looking back, yeah, you absolutely were. Well, that wasn't even all. Like, he just thought all my friends. He was like, I, he was like, everything's about, it was my birthday. He was like, everything's about Becca all the time. Like, Becca, Becca, Becca. I was like, well, it's my birthday today. So it's kind of about me today. I don't know. Yeah.
You're like, out of all the days, I think this one, like, you should let it slide. You should let it be Becca today. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So he was not down with your career at all? No, he said he was, but he wasn't. Do you find that a lot of guys are into it or don't like it? They like it at first, and then they get scared because...
Things are happening really fast. So I just don't really have time for guys. But it does take a really, really secure guy. I just feel like I can't. I haven't found him yet. I need to be someone that's like MIA, like not really on socials, but like, yes, like said, I'm doing it like it doesn't want to do it. But like, right.
and hot. I think you and I are the personality in our relationships. Oh, yeah. That's what I kind of need, though. I can't. I can't. It's just like you're fighting to be this darling. No. No, I'm not going to fight. And also, it's just, I'm just going to be funnier and I'm going to be more fun than you. Yeah, I feel like you're probably way smarter than any guy you've ever dated. So smarter. I mean, I did date a guy that went to Harvard. So, like, I don't know if I could say I was smarter than that one. You heard it here first. But,
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When I was researching you, Becca, because I did do my research, I found this article and you said something that I loved so much and it stuck with me. And you were talking about being a content creator. And you said, I wish I would have gotten into this sooner. Yes. Right. I used to think that like content creators were the chosen ones kind of and that they are like on a pedestal. They were born to be a content creator. I was about to start a nine to five after college. I
I had like 4,000 followers on Instagram, like nothing at the time. I graduated in COVID. So in 2020, there were no really jobs. And I was about to be in like HR, like recruiting, like something like that. Like, can you imagine? I break every rule. I got kicked out. They're like, um,
You cannot work in the HR department. So I found my Instagram and I was posting in bathing suits. I was being like hot on Instagram. And I loved, I've always loved social media. I've always like been inspired.
into that so they found it and they were like hey you have to delete all of your social media all like no you have to make it private and change your name and take down all of your bikini posts okay I'm sorry is this a fortune 500 company no I was gonna make like 40k level position okay then they can fucking relax yeah calm down I know but then I was like
So my family's really poor, like really poor. So the fact that I'm the only one that graduated from college. Very impressive, by the way. Oh my God, thank you. I love you. That's a big deal. So I was like, you know what? I'm not going to do it because I like to post things. If they're already taking away 40 hours of my week, they also want to take away the life outside of that. So I was trying to explain that to my parents and they were like, you're insane. Like, you're actually insane. I started bartending and I had...
so much time on my hands that I started making TikToks and that's when I blew up so thank God though I didn't delete my social media like thank God I fucking love that so you kind of you followed your passion and you were doing bartending on the side that's what I always tell people because I think a lot of people want to be in the content creation space and it
it's like a you're not we're not like the chosen people because I used to feel the same way I'd be like watching people and you're like oh I wish that could be me I'll never be that girl yeah it can be you it can be anyone look I did it I'm from Ohio I'm from Utah you have Ohio and Utah here and we're look at us now we're in New York City people we can do it literally anyone listening I'm not kidding like anyone have you heard this conversation anyone can do it
You can do it. I guarantee. Ashley with the orange filters, like you're next, babe. You're 100% next if you're listening to this. We're like a walking testimonial. Anyone can do this shit. I'm not shitting on us. We are very talented. Other than that, yeah, we're the smartest people we've ever met. 100%. But I tell people, if you fucking hate the place you work and you're there for 40 hours a week...
go go bartend or be um a hostess or whatever and pursue your passion on the side life is literally a playground this life is not real like we are yeah we're like sims you can do what's the point of living a long miserable life i always tell my siblings not to throw them under the bus but they they need to get their shit together they're working like the weirdest randomest jobs i'm like
and they're miserable. They live life. It feels like they live life like in misery. To get home. Yeah, to get home. To get off work. Yes, yes, yes. I'm like, dude, like I was one of you. I lived with you my whole life and I moved. You guys should try to move maybe and like bartend. Like I don't know. I've always felt like life is a playground and I'm only here for like what, like 80 to 90 years. Why am I going to, I'm not going to waste my life. Mm.
working a job that I don't want to do. No, no. And I did that for four years when I worked in finance and I was the most depressed. That was also when I was in that super toxic relationship. I wonder why. Cause I was just so depressed. I was just in a very vulnerable state. You know, when you're happy with your life, there's no time for toxic people for bullshit. I totally agree with that.
Okay, so we're geniuses and we just flipped everyone's life upside down. But no, I agree with you. We don't have that much...
time here at all. And if you're anything like me and party like me and treat your body the way I do, like I have 20 years left. Maybe 40. Yeah. I might live to 40. Yeah. I think I'm 50s. 50s is going to be my hot spot. Okay. So we're going to do save our sleuths SOS. We're going to answer these listener questions. And I feel like you're going to be fucking amazing at this because this is what you do for a living. Yeah, I do. Straight up. I save the sleuths.
Okay. Question number one. Hey, Sophia, do you agree with the saying, marry the man that loves you, not the man that you love?
- If I'm gonna be completely honest, I think, yeah. Okay, I think the way that she phrased it is a little dramatic 'cause she's making it sound like marry someone that you literally hate and you have no feelings for, obviously not. I am one of those people, the other person needs to be more into it than I do. - Me too. Me fucking too.
That's why I love love bombing. I'm like, you're right. I am great. Oh my God. How'd you know? Is that horrible to say? I don't know. I've been through it and I still loved it. Like it was awesome. I was working towards love bombing. But yeah,
Yeah. So, but then he, yeah, maybe. But I mean, you can be in a healthy relationship and still have that person more into you than you are into them. Yeah. It probably stems from like a deep insecurity of mine. And I just like, that's like where I feel safe. I don't know. Guys, the guy does have to be a little bit more attached because he is.
Just traditionally, women get stuck with the kids a lot. And if a guy leaves you and you have children and all of this burden on you, I don't know. That's why I'm like, maybe he should be a little bit more into me than I am to him. Because I don't want to have to deal with kids by myself. No, no, no. That's how I look at it too. I think women are just by nature caretakers and nurturing and all of that stuff. Men traditionally aren't. So you want to be able to meet in the middle.
Okay. You want to be able to meet in the middle. You know what I mean? And if a guy is like super into you, it can kind of like bring out parts of your personality that you didn't even know that you had. So yeah, that's nice too. It is. Okay. Next question.
What? Wait, okay, so he was sleeping over at the house?
No. So this girl dated this guy. He had no money and would sleep over at their house because he didn't have power at his. His family couldn't afford it. And then once he started making money, he basically left this girl in the dust. What a king. And said she's too poor. He was like, you're all poor for me now. That's like me to my siblings. I'm like...
You're literally like, you guys should move. Like, get your shit together. I'm like, okay, lady, like, you need to get your shit together. Sounds like you need to start being a content creator. Right? No, but for real, though, for real. She, that guy's psycho. I just don't get how this guy went from
Like he literally, how did he have that type of glow up? Like he really, he had no shame in asking to like sleep there and then had no issue telling the girl like, fuck off, I have money now. - He sounds like a narcissist for real. - Thank you. No, but this guy sounds fucked up. But also like if you do have a glow up and you do start making money, sometimes you do like make new friends and new relationships. Okay, we're literally gonna get kicked off. Okay, next question.
Hey, Sophia, I've been struggling with living in a major city where everyone is literally a clone of each other. Blonde, tall, skinny. Okay, but this is for you. This was literally targeted at you, this question. And I'm a short, skinny Latina and brunette. So how do I get over the comparison and the fact guys only want those tall, skinny blonde girls? I'm trying so hard to ignore, but like everywhere I go, everyone looks the same and I feel like an outsider. Yeah.
Like literally you have to walk into a room and fake the confidence because by the way, I'm not tall and like I'm not like naturally gorgeous. So I feel like people, if you, when you have that belief though that you are, then energy follows you and also, you know,
You know that old saying, it's like, just because a flower is beautiful, doesn't mean it takes away from your beauty, you know? Yes. Like, you are exactly the type of girl that, like, your person will want to be with. Like, I promise you. So... Mm-hmm. When you get into the comparison game, it's never gonna end well. Ever. Ever. And remember, they're not pretty like you, you know? Mm-hmm. Like, you're pretty like you, so... Yes. But I feel like she's being too harsh on herself. I agree. Fake your confidence and...
And it sounds like you're hurting. You're totally valid in having like that feeling and being insecure, but just fake it till you make it. And I promise you, like if you believe, oh, every guy in this room that I'm about to walk into, they're in love with me. Yeah. Then you'll, they will be. So I totally agree with that. You like that vibration will come off and you will attract everything that you want. Yes. I totally feel that. Also. Yeah. There's guys aren't into just like one look.
No. You know, you're every girl's going to sit there and be like, no, they're really into this. Like I'm sitting here now being like, it's not those blonde, skinny, tall. It's like, it's the thick, like, um, who's a girl with the amazing ass. I was going to say Addison Rae. That is a TikToker. She is not 21. And we are not talking about her butt. Is it Nike? No. Yes. She has, she has an amazing butt. Yeah. Hot. Whatever. Guys, I'll post some fucking Instagram famous asses. Jen Seltzer. Uh,
I mean, that wasn't who I was thinking about, but there's so many. There's so many. I digress. But yeah, you're always going to think the guy is probably like into whatever you're not. If you're if you're not feeling good about yourself. OK, this is the last question. Hey, Sophia, love the pod. And I'm dying to know. Fuck, marry, kill. Billionaire edition. Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Bill Gates. Kill Bill Gates.
Because he's the ugliest. Wait, I'm wondering, wait, is Bill Gates dead? No, Steve Jobs is dead. I think Bill Gates... I was just kidding. That's my thing. I think Bill Gates is alive and well and kidding. No, no, no. Okay, I would marry Elon Musk because I feel like... Well, actually, he seems like crazy and evil. I would honestly, I would prop...
Being with, listen to this, being with Elon Musk, how miserable would you be? Because think about it. All he talks about is how we're all living in a computer. Okay, that's not a fun way to live. I don't know. You didn't have to listen to that. That wasn't that important. I just, I think Elon Musk, hasn't he like been, he's like dated a lot of fucking girls, right? Yeah.
He dated Amber Heard. Oh my God. Yeah. He's had some phases. He's been through. He doesn't have a type, does he? No, he doesn't have a type.
first of all I'm fucking killing Jeff Bezos he's the ugliest one and he's the richest one which makes me once you hit billionaire status you can't be normal and I don't care what anyone tells me like I've met billionaires before and like you just you're not a normal human at that point isn't that enough money like a million right I don't know like right being like a multi-millionaire that would be enough for me I'd be like all right I need to chill like I'm getting crazy right now yeah with being a billionaire you have to be a
psychopath think about all the kids you could feed people why do you not give it away to people i know jeff okay so jeff bezos i shit on this guy all the i start to say this poor guy like he even knows that i exist on planet earth now you're gonna start beef with jeff bezos
He's like, get to your account and blog. I wish. But he donated, I think, a million dollars or something. Oh, shut up. And at the time, I thought to myself, what a great guy. What a fucking amazing man. And then this post came out and it broke down the numbers. And it was like, so that's a penny. That's literally a penny. Is he single right now? Does he have kids?
Where is this money going? So he went through a divorce. Oh. And he, because he cheated on his wife and he's dating this reporter lady. She probably got a lot of money. She got a lot of money. She donated almost all of it to charity. Queen! That is who we should be idolizing right now. To answer your question, we're all three. They all suck. We're killing all of them. Yeah, they all suck. But I'll take a million dollars.
Also, they're billionaires and I would not say no if they asked me on a date ever, ever, ever. Okay, Becca, you are fucking incredible. You are so, so funny. Where can they find you? I'm on TikTok and Instagram. It's at Becca Moore with three C's and three O's. Also, I have merch that just came out. Okay, amazing. Yeah, it's for the girls, not the guys. For the girls, not the guys, which is another like TikTok thing you do that I love. Can you quickly tell us like what's something for the girls, not for the guys? Yeah.
Furniture. Just kidding. The that we're sitting on right now. Comfort in general. Furniture. I know. I saw one of them. Air conditioning. Air conditioning. Shoes. Shoes, blankets. Anything soft. Anything with color. Yeah. Content creation. Oh my God. Only for girls. Only for girls. Yeah. Not for the guys.
No, absolutely not. I agree with that. Yeah, being hot only for the girls. Only for the girls. Being attractive, yeah. We got this. And you guys know where to find me. So if you have an F, Franklin with a Y. And on TikTok, just slap the number zero onto the end of that, which I found out literally like three weeks ago. And Sleuths, Becca, thank you so much for coming on. I love you. This is like my favorite day I've ever had. Are you kidding? Stop. Oh my God. Okay, we will be turning that into a clip. Becca, thank you so much. Sleuths, I'll talk to you next week. Bye. Bye. Thank you.
Thank you.
