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I need to start off by saying I dropped a new collection. It is the cutest collection I've dropped by far. Baby blue, white, super fucking cute. My guest, Baylin Dupree. Hi, how are you? I'm doing great. How are you? I'm doing fucking amazing. Fuck Connor. We're recording from WTF Media Studios, Black-owned studio, super chic, the only place to record. And Baylin, I
I am so excited to have you here. Baitlyn is a TikTok superstar with close to what? 7 million followers? Yes, ma'am. That's a lot of people looking at you and watching you and being fans of you. You're a celebrity. We were just walking down the street and someone recognized her and I was like,
Okay, can I get your autograph? But your TikTok account is my absolute favorite one to follow. Aside from being hilarious and fun on TikTok, you share your story about living with Tourette's Syndrome. Fuck Connor. Yes, I do. So I kind of want to dive into that, but I also, I don't want this episode to be...
Just completely, you know, medical terms, the science behind Tourette's, like Google it. Okay. You can Google it. You can go to a class. Like I'm sure a doctor can explain it. I just want to understand it a little bit better from your point of view. And then I just like, I want to shoot the shit because you're, you're so much more than that. You know what I'm saying? I completely understand. And I a hundred percent agree. But let's, let's start with the basics. Let's start with Tourette's because there are some people listening who are
are not gonna know what the fuck that is. I'm sure you encounter that. Do you encounter people who are like, I have no clue, never heard of that in my life?
Yes, actually, probably 75% of the time that people have something to say, they're like, I don't know what that is. And then they want me to explain and then they want me to go into a deeper description of what it is. And it's like, you have a phone right in front of you. Like, it's just I have a life like we're in the middle of a Starbucks parking lot right now. Like, I just just because I flipped you off from the car next to you.
Like, it's just I don't want to roll down and have a conversation. I just want to apologize and move on. Right. Just because you're bringing awareness to Tourette's does not mean you're the Tourette's spokesperson and you're walking around, you know, telling everyone from A to Z like what it's about. Yes. And I shouldn't have to be the spokesperson for it just because I have it. I don't have to be an expert in it.
I can just state the fact that this is what I have. This is what it is. This is how I live with it. This is how I deal with it. And that's how it is. Yeah, exactly. You either accept it how it is or you don't. Right. And that doesn't bother me either way. Me about to ask you, can you explain Tourette's Syndrome for everybody? Yes. You're like, fuck you.
Fuck you. I'm fucking leaving. No, but I want to hear it from, you know, your perspective, how you would explain it. Okay, so Tourette's is a neurological involuntary motor and vocal disorder. Okay, you're a doctor. I've memorized that. Okay, and when were you first diagnosed with it?
I was diagnosed multiple times. So I was diagnosed with it in 2020 and then it got taken away because my tics were too complex. And then he actually undiagnosed me with it and re-diagnosed me with it and was like, I actually can't diagnose you with it at all because I don't specialize in Tourette's. So you're going to have to go somewhere else. And we were like, what? Like you just diagnosed you with it, but you don't specialize in it. He's like, yeah, I specialize in like epilepsy. And we were like, okay.
Did we walk into the wrong office, like doctor's office or what? No, it was like signed off by like my doctor to go there. We went there and then we actually had to fly all the way out to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota to get like a final diagnosis in like 2021. 2021? So last year? Yes. What?
Wow. So you were diagnosed with it and then it was taken away. And by taken away, I assume you mean they told you, no, maybe you don't have it. Yeah. They thought I had like a conversion disorder. Okay. Conversion disorder is like a mental illness. Right.
We like looked into it more and then he took that away. So he took everything away. So we started off with Tourette's and then took that away and then went to conversion disorder and took that away. Then went back to Tourette's and was like, hold up. I can't even diagnose you with anything. Like, I don't know what you got. Go figure it out on your own. You're no longer my patient, basically. Really? Yeah. He basically looked at me.
went back to my mom and was like, she cannot do anything. Like she can't drive, she can't go to school, she can't work, she doesn't even function in society. That's what he straight up told me. And I looked at him and I was like bawling my eyes out. I was like, I'm going to college. - Oh my God. - Like that's so unfair to me that you get to sit there and watch, I get to sit there and watch my mom cry while I'm crying because you don't have faith in me. That's okay. Your opinion doesn't matter to me. I'm gonna move on and do what I wanna do.
You're such a badass bitch. You're done. I don't understand how you're 20 years old and can have like that thick of skin where you're like, you know what, doctor? Fuck you. I'm going to do whatever I want. So was that the same doctor who told you you did have Tourette's, but then you didn't? And then he also was the one that told you you won't be able to do anything. Same doctor.
- Okay, well, he needs his license revoked and we're not gonna name names, but I'm sure he's listening to Sophia with an F.
100%. See, that's the thing. For anyone listening, and I've heard stories similar to this, always get a second, third, fourth opinion, you know, from a doctor. Because if you just stick with one doctor and what they think, it's... Go fuck yourself. They can think something completely different. Okay, so last year, that was your kind of final diagnosis. Yes. When did you start your TikTok? TikTok.
November of last year. Like, I had, like, TikTok, but, like, I never, like, exclusively posted content while having Tourette's because I was very embarrassed. I didn't accept who I was. I was very unconfident in myself. I didn't believe in myself. I didn't even look in the mirror. Like, because I didn't like looking at myself tick, I thought I was very unattractive. And I...
I went to a Marshall's one day and a girl who was in my stats class at the time was videoing me around the store. Oh, without you knowing. Yes. And I was like trying to hide behind my mom because I knew she was videoing me and I knew she was in my class. And we were all virtual at the time because of COVID. And she was like videoing me and I was like, you know what? Yeah.
I'm not okay with that. No. And I went home and I posted like a TikTok of like, because one of my TikToks before that I found out that I had Tourette's blew up. And it was about like me being in Victoria's Secret and like the lady asking me at like 12 years old if my boobs were real or not. So then I had to explain the story behind that. And I was like, I don't want to explain it because I'm going to be ticking a lot and no one knows that I have Tourette's. So your first video on TikTok,
had nothing to do with your Tourette's. Nothing at all. Nothing at all. And it blew up, that video.
Yes. So like I started TikTok when like TikTok like came out, like maybe after a year after TikTok came out. But it was like like me with my friends, me with my family, like things like that. Like it was there was nothing like I didn't want anything from it. And then I made one TikTok about Victoria's Secret. And then I had to explain the video about the Victoria's Secret video. And you were scared to explain it. Yes, because...
I was thinking that everyone was thinking I was faking Tourette's because I didn't have any other content with it. And it's like my tics were so mild at the time during the other videos that it wasn't even worth it to explain it or involve myself in a video in it because it was non-existent. I probably ticked like three times a day, four times a day. And it's accelerated since then. Yes.
So let's back up. You were at Marshall's, which was the first mistake, by the way. I'm just kidding. I love myself a TJ Maxx and a Marshall's. But you were there and you caught that. I was going to call her a mean name, but we're not going to do it. Bitch. Bitch. Cunt. Bitch. Whatever. Cunt nuggets. Filming you and you decided to go home and post a video.
Yes, I went home and like posted the video of me explaining it. Do you understand how insane, courageous, just like I don't give a fuck confident move that is? No, I didn't at the time. I literally like, I like...
Because I was trying to talk and like all I kept doing was ticking and I was like, you know what? This is just funny. And I showed my mom and I was like, mom, can we all just laugh? Can we just put this on the TV and laugh at it real quick? And then sooner or later I woke up the next morning and it was at like three million or something insane. And I was like,
Did you... I almost shit my pants, okay? I was like, holy fudge stripes. This is not what I expected at all. But then everyone was like, this is fake. Please tell me she's not joking. Like all this other stuff. And I responded back and I was like...
Fuck off. I was like, why would I be kidding about something like this? Like, I don't really think it's like something to joke about. I don't find it necessarily like funny. I know like in the video, it was funny because it was just like nonstop, which is kind of like what a tick attack is. But for people to claim, because a lot of people fake claim me as like not funny.
Having it. And it's like when I even went on the Dr. Phil show, I had to prove that I had Tourette's before I can even go on there. I had to show all my medical documents. Stop. Like not like for them to be like, you have to prove it. It's just like so they could clarify it for me. Of course. Because I was getting backlash for it. And I was like, yes, please. Please do it. Like I'll give you everything. Anything you've ever wanted. Do you want like the app? I can give you my YouTube password. You can log in.
Do you want to draw my blood? Like literally whatever you want. But people still try to say, oh, it's not real. Or, oh, she just goes over the top with it. Right. Oh, I love when people are like,
She exaggerates her tics. How do I exaggerate a tic that I can't control? What's a non-exaggerated tic is what I would like to ask them. Show me a video. Someone send me a video of what you think. And there is this girl who full-blown harassed me on the internet. And she got everything taken down by my lawyer and stuff. What? Yeah, because she made a video and she was like,
slowing the video down and she's like yes this tick right here is fake it's so like over exaggerated like you can tell in like her neck that like I'm like you can tell are you a doctor right you're a doctor that's the shit I hate about TikTok TikTok now is like even my own mother will watch something and
She got COVID and saw a TikTok. If you slam a rock on the back of your head, it will get rid of COVID. And she called me and she told me, I really think we should try this. Because you saw a random ass bitch on TikTok say that?
Like, what? This reminds me of Eileen in the kitchen this morning being like, you put vodka on a tampon. Wait, vodka on a tampon, you get, like, drunk? Yeah. Introduce. Introduce your friend. It was Eileen. Eileen? Eileen, she's, um. Eileen is out here with a vodka-soaked tampon right now. What's she doing?
So people still to this day claim it's not real or you're just dramatizing it. Does that hurt your feelings or are you just like, okay, cool. I don't care. You don't give a shit about anything. Baylen and I just went to Dunkin Donuts. You had a tick or you said something, right? And the guy behind the register, what did he say? He like laughed. Oh no, he said, what's wrong? Yeah, what's wrong? What's funny? Yeah, what's wrong? What's funny? He was like, oh, I have Tourette's. He goes, oh, okay. Yeah, what's wrong? And I was like,
Nothing. Nothing's wrong because I'm so unconfrontational and unproblematic that I just can't even deal with it. Like what you say to me does not bother me. And it's taken me a long time to get there. I'm not even going to lie. Yeah. I have all my notifications turned off for everything. Me too. Like if you want to get a hold of me, go fuck yourself, bitch. Yeah.
You will. Call me if you really want to talk to me. I'm done sending pictures of my face on Snapchat. It's just not worth it. If you don't have my number, to me, that's just like, I don't want to talk to you. And I don't care what you have to say. Yes. And it's like, I don't look at any of my comments on TikTok. You're free to express the way you think about my video. I just don't look at it. I can't personally look at it just because I suffer with a lot of mental health issues. And it's just easier...
To not look at it at all. And it saves me the going back and being like, I have to answer this person's question about...
how I'm over exaggerating it and then I work up my emotions and it's like it's not worth it to me because I know I'm not over exaggerating it I know I'm not faking it and like chris07936 on tiktok like I don't care you have no picture of yourself you have no followers and you want to come on my page and be like yeah I actually think I just don't buy it anymore like it just looks so like go fuck yourself bitch it's just it's I just don't care like I just
Also, why do people comment on things they don't know about? Okay. If you have a PhD from Harvard and you fucking majored in neuroscience and Tourette syndrome specifically, and you felt you wanted to make a comment, maybe, maybe I'll give you a little tiny teeny bit of not respect, but maybe I'll listen. Mm-hmm.
Jordan87260, no profile picture. Why are you commenting on shit you don't know about? It's like they have nothing else better to do in their lives than sit there and try to tear me down. And at the end of the day, I don't see your comment. And it does not bother me. There's been multiple rappers and celebrities that have done things. I'm not going to say names. I'm not going to do anything. But they have pinned me in videos. And they've been day one of trying to get Baylon to get a new tick.
That's not okay. Oh. And like, I would never know that if my friends didn't send me those videos. Yeah. And it's like, that's the type of stuff that I should be making videos about. But then at the end of the day, again, it's just like...
I'm not going to watch your video ever again. Like that's not going to become a tech. I'm sorry. It's not right. You're not that interesting to me. No, no, straight up. I think people, because of your demeanor and your personality on Tik TOK, you're so confident. You're so, you just, you give off chill vibes, energy that people feel.
feel comfortable doing shit like that. Not that it's on you. I mean, it's them being ignorant, but you know what I'm saying? Like they think they don't take it as seriously as what it is. Want it up. Yes. And it's like people approach me in public and they'll like do my tics to me and they don't know that like that's not okay. It's like you can't mimic my tic back to me because that's going to egg my tic on. It's just like, what type of fan are you?
What type of supporter are you? And it's like, I get that you love me and my content and you support who I am, but that's not okay. Like I went through a phase where I couldn't look at my comments again because everyone would comment my tics. And it's like, if I read my tics, I tic. Got it. And that's like where echolalia comes in. And I don't know if you know what echolalia is. I am not that bright. So echolalia is like,
You saying something and me mocking it back. So like you saying like a certain phrase or like people having an accent and me being like saying it back to them or them doing an action and me doing it back.
Okay, so if you see a fan and they, you know, do one of your tics, then that will egg on you to do that tic incessantly type of thing? Yes, and maybe they don't mean to do it. But like at the end of the day, like it's egging my tic on. And I struggle a lot with that with like...
Guys like to egg on my tics because they think it's like a joke and they think it's funny and they think that they're trying to be cool and try to impress me and try to make me laugh. You're not trying to make me laugh. You're going to get blocked. Okay. Block him, period. Yeah. Have you ever made a TikTok video?
telling people that you don't appreciate them mimicking your tics i've expressed it on like lives like if people watch my lives like i've expressed it on there but i've never like sat down and made a video that's like hey like i don't like being known as the i'm gonna set my own take off the wind it up girl wind it up
um like I just or like certain tics I say like I just don't like being recognized as that like I have a name and I want to be called by my name like I went to a baseball game one time and like everyone called me by my tic and it's just like
No way. And it's like, I would like sit there and just keep ticking. And they're like, why do you keep ticking? I'm like, you're calling me my tick. Wow. And what was that term again? That medical term? Echolalia. Echolalia. Yeah. I could see how frustrating that is. And I mean, just I just experienced something with you at Dunkin Donuts five minutes before this recording when you actually you explained to me, you said, I have Tourette's. And he started laughing uncontrollably.
Oh, that happened in the airport too. The airport was a shit show. Oh my God. Stare after stare and I'm sitting there like...
Uh-huh. Hey, guys. I mean, the New York airport is already should be a prison. Oh, I was padded down in the Dulles airport because I couldn't keep my arms up still. And I was like, I can't. Like, you're still going to put me through this. Like, I can't keep my arms still. It's OK. She's like, stay right there. Do not move. I'm not going to go anywhere. My feet are on the ground right now. Do you think I'm just going to book it? Like, I can't. Like, I'm not going to do that. When the lady at TSA does that.
And then the guy at Dunkin Donuts starts laughing. Do you just brush that shit off? Does it even like affect you at all? It used to affect me a lot. Like it really used to deteriorate my mental health, my confidence, everything. Because I'd sit there and I'd be like, am I really like a laughingstock? Like, am I really like not good enough? Am I really like...
I would sit there and I'd pinpoint everything out about myself, but I'd never show on social media because I'd never let it get to me on social media. But off social media, my mom had to control my social media at a certain point. She had to be my manager. I had to have my mom do that too, actually. Yeah, she's like, you're only allowed two hours on social media today.
And it's like now I can control it myself. I have all my notifications turned off. I go in when I want to. I check my DMs when I want to. But I do not check my comments. You're almost bulletproof at this point. Yeah. Like, obviously there's going to be, like, ups and downs where I'm like, oh, my gosh. Like, I can't do it today. But, like, at the end of the day, like,
Your opinion does not hurt my feelings anymore. And I want everyone to know that. Like, yeah, it just doesn't affect me. I don't care if you have 20 million followers on TikTok or none. Like what you have to say literally is invalid because I have every proof in the world to fuck off to show that I'm
I'm diagnosed with this condition. I have this condition and I suffer with this condition. Like live a day in my shoes. Go out to the store with me because you will see stares. You will see people looking at me like I'm less of a human being than they are because I can't.
control the things that I say. And it's like, I go to like therapy and stuff for it to try to like revert the tics. So like instead of saying like fuck, I'll say like puck. But sometimes it's just, sometimes that like wears off and it just like doesn't work anymore and I have to like find a new way to do it. Or I'll just be like, you know what?
I'm just going to say fuck. I'm just going to say fuck. Yeah. And it's like McDonald's won't even hire me because I swear. Okay. And it's just like McDonald's, you're killing people by what you're feeding them. So let's go ahead and say the F word. Okay. It's just like, this is 2022 and you want to sit here and judge me because I say the F word. So I was a pre-nursing major at WVU and my nursing instructor said,
like made me stay after class one day on zoom meeting and she was like yeah we just don't know how you're gonna be a nurse
And we were like, I sat there and I was like, what do you mean? She's like, yeah, like you're like the talk of like the nursing program. Like we just don't know. I'm like, oh, I'm like a celebrity in the nursing program. But then she ends it with, if you want to be a nurse, you can't say those F words. And I was like, I'm going to keep saying them. Yeah. Yeah. I'm going to continue that. Yeah. Because I bet you your nurses say them.
- Voluntarily, okay? I'm saying it unvoluntarily. - That's what it is. - Yes. - That's what it fucking is. - Yes. - Okay, so she's on my shit list. I mean, I'm literally like tacking up the names of all the people like I wanna destroy. - I have so many things that people have said and done to me that it's just like,
How is that okay? Like, how is that okay? Like, how are you going to sit there and tell me this to my face? But like, you never say that to someone in a wheelchair. You never say that to someone with one leg. You never say that to someone who has epilepsy. But yet I'm the laughingstock. Like, would you egg on someone's epilepsy?
Absolutely not. No. Would you laugh at someone in a wheelchair? Absolutely not. They're disabled. I'm disabled. Is it just ignorance that people don't realize it is a real disorder and that's how it shows itself? And it's like people don't understand how disabling it can be. When I flew out to LA to be on the Dr. Phil show, my parents had to feed me because I would throw food. I would...
hurt myself with silverware. I'd be scraping my neck. I'd be hurting myself. I couldn't walk because my legs would lock up. It's just like... Hold up one second. The nurse...
told you all of that shit she should have known better absolutely she she should have known better and she was like this is just like out of arrogance but like we just don't know how you're like gonna do it and she said it in like a nice tone and stuff but it's just nice tone it doesn't matter like it's just it's not appropriate and it's not like okay and I went to the head of the nursing program about it and I was like yeah I have a problem with my nursing instructor and why she said that and he was like it's okay we'll take care
of it. Do I know if he took care of it? I have no idea. But it's obviously a very real thing and even nurse instructors are out here not understanding it.
Which by the way, I'm ignorant as well. I'm trying to learn, but I'm not. Yeah, and at least you're like asking me questions and stuff and I really do appreciate it. That means a lot to me that like people take time out of their day to watch my videos and understand what it's really like. But it's like, I don't tick like that 24 seven. Like there's periods of the day that I'm like,
not ticking and there's multiple ways I can make myself not tick like yeah going to the gym like I put headphones on I go to the gym um I take delta eights to like get my eyelashes done and get my nails done is that a vitamin it's THC oh okay I was actually gonna ask you about that yeah if you smoke weed I don't smoke weed I take like uh delta eight they're like little tiny gummies do you get I hate weed by the way because I've tried every drug in the book
And that is just a fact. And it's I've tried some really intense ones. Weed. I can't I really I can't deal with it. Do you get high when you take those or no? Yes, but you can like take certain milligrams. So like when I go out in public, like I have to take them. My 14 year old brother plays travel baseball and I love baseball. But it's really hard for me to sit through a game because I like to cuss out the ump.
And then I like to tell the pitcher that he's throwing slow and that he throws weak and that Aaron Judge is better and all this other stuff. So I like have to like take stuff to like calm down my tics. So there's like certain times like that. Like if I want to go out to dinner and want to have like just a normal dinner. If I want to go to the store sometimes or walk around the mall. And it's like I get questions asked about it. It's like, why aren't you ticcing? It's like, I don't have the urge to tic right now.
I don't have anything to explain to you. Yeah. So that is the reason you were able to get your nails and lashes done. Because people ask that shit all the time. Yes. And it's like I get them. Like I know they look really pretty right now. But like I don't get them done for them to look pretty. I have like I like pick at everything. Like I have to feel myself picks. Like I rip out my real eyelashes. Like the fake ones help me keep them in to a certain extent. But I used to form eyelashes.
tens of thousands of scabs in my head out of anxiety and stress I used to rip out my eyebrows and like when I have nails on I can't feel myself dig it out so I don't do it what is it that's tech tech what is it called trichotomania something like that something like that yeah we'll get back to you guys yeah we'll google it then come back like smart people people like smart people
Exactly. So that's why you have the nails and the lashes. Your hair. Do you have hair extensions? No.
Fuck off. I can't. I can't. Your hair is absolutely insane. Oh, thank you. Wow. Thank you so much. What about putting makeup on? Oh my gosh. Okay. So like I used to go the longest time without just wearing makeup. Like it's just, it was just easier not to do it because I have to like go through like a ritual before I put makeup on. I'm like, I have to listen to music and I have to like chewing gum helps. Yeah.
But every time I do my makeup, I have to listen to music because music is like a key factor in my life. Like everything I do has to listen to music. Like long car rides have to have headphones in. Does it just calm you down or it's just you need to?
It calms me down to the point where like I have very minimal tics. Okay, got it. Yeah, so I'm like able to function doing my makeup. And it's like the more deeper of a conversation we have, I don't know if you noticed, but like my tics go away because I'm focused on talking. And it's like,
When I'm on TikTok, I see myself tick. So it gives me the anxiety of... And then they go up. Yeah. And it's not like saying I'm not like that because 75% of the day, I'm like that. It just comes and goes periodically through different environments, different people I hang out with. I can hold in my ticks, but it's like...
I don't like the word suppression because it's not suppression. It's like paused because this is how I explain it to people. Try not blinking. When you hold in your staring contest with someone, your eyes start to water and it starts to burn and it starts to itch. And then you probably blink two, three, four,
four more times after that the second you said blink i blinked yeah yeah it's just like if you try to like hold it in it's gonna it's gonna itch or it's gonna burn and you're gonna get the urge to blink right so that's what it feels like to tick like you can pause it but it's going to come out some other time yes
So it's not this like, let's calm it down and like try to suppress it. Work through it. I'll be your therapist now. Meditate, yoga. Yes, like we can push through it as a team. I know. There's no pushing through it as a team. I'll do it by myself. Just the amount of times mental disorders in general and Tourette's is not a mental disorder. No, it's a neurological disorder. Neurological disorder.
The amount of people who say, just meditate and do yoga and go on walks and get fresh air. Oh my gosh. Or it's like, did you take your meds today? That's my favorite comment. I'm like, yes, I took my meds today. Actually, I'll take it three times a day. When I used to work at the Dollar General where I used to live. Oh my gosh, the stories I could tell.
- All you had to say was dollar general. - It was like the closest place to me and it was like the only place that would hire me at the time. So it was just like easier to work there. But like there was like a whole guy that like peeking through the aisles one day and I was like, hey bud, what's up? What you looking at? I knew he was gonna say something. So I waited for him to get up to the register and I stopped checking this girl. I was like, just give me a second. And he like goes up to the other cashier and he was like, you need to check me out right now. Right now. And she was like,
why and i sat there and i was like wait he went up to the girl yes the other girl and he's like yeah you need to check me out right now he's like i can't get whatever she's got whatever she's got she's crazy stop dead serious he walks out he's like panicking holding up his shirt over his mouth he's like yeah you're fucking insane and i was like thank you that follow my instagram follow my tiktok yeah that was just embarrassing on his end oh yeah and then like i have like
people just have mouths. Like, some guy, like, came up to the register while I was checking out. Somebody goes, I'm going to leave these here. Don't punch them. It's like, they're not yours until you leave the store, bud. Sorry about that. You can go get another bag. Dude, you are so, I'm fucking dying. Like, I just, I just can't. I just can't. I just can't.
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Your cash back really adds up. Let's talk about Hunter, your dating life. Okay, you release a TikTok. Fuck Hunter and Small Wiener. Let's fucking go. Yeah.
We have been waiting. We're not going to say his last name. We're not going to give his social security number. We talked about it, but we're not going to do it. We're not. We're going to be civil. What the fuck is up with him? You guys were dating and what? We never dated. So we met through Hinge. Okay. Okay. So you're on dating apps. Yes, I was.
It still kind of depends. Okay. I go on and off. It's just kind of just not worth it anymore. It's traumatic to be on the thing. Yeah, but it's like I have to put in the dating app, I have Tourette's. Like, do I have to put that in the effing bio? Like, really? Do you? Sometimes I'll, like, bring up, like, oh, I have a disability and then that's all they want to talk about. And it's just, like, obviously, like, I want him to know that, like, this is what I have. And, like, no surprise, like, when I show up and I'm punching your car door. But...
Me and Hunter talked for like a couple weeks. And like he was like really sweet. He was really nice. He was like, yeah, I talked to my parents about you. Like they watched all your TikToks. Like they absolutely love you. Like all this other stuff. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Did you tell Hunter right off the bat? He knew who I was from TikTok. Okay. He knew who I was. A little clout chaser Hunter is. That came from me, not Baylyn. So you can't get mad at her. I'm just, I'm speaking on behalf.
he's gonna watch this too he's gonna send me the link be like this isn't what i asked you actually look very similar to my to the guy that i'm talking to right now so attractive very very very attractive and there was a lot of red flags from like the beginning that i just kind of like played off like it's just like some certain comments he said about like my tics like what like
Like before, like he'd hang up the phone. He'd be like, you know, I really like that tick.
Which one? You're done. You're done. You're done. And it's like, that's going to set my tics off. Yeah. I had a tic one time that was like, fuck this pussy boy. Fuck it. And he wanted to hear me say it before I hung up the phone. Yeah. You're like, why don't you say it your fucking self and record it and play it back to yourself? Yes. And it's just like, at the end of the day, he doesn't deserve us talking about him. Like, he just doesn't for what he did. Like, Hunter, it's not okay that you stood me up. And I hope you know that. Ooh.
I hope you know that it's not okay what you did and then wanted to reschedule. Nope. Because you are too busy. Yeah, you're not too busy. Baylen, did you let him reschedule? I was like, oh yeah, whatever. I knew it wasn't going to happen. You better not. I knew it wasn't going to happen. I will not allow you. He's removed from all... Because me and my mom talked about it the other day. She goes...
Are the friends who did you wrong? Do you still have them on social media? Do you still follow them? And I was like, no. And she goes, then why are you following Hunter? Treat men the same. Yes. Right. I was like, you're right. So I went in and I removed him from everything because it's not fair that he gets to sit there and be on my phone. Yeah. You're not a contact anymore on my phone, Hunter. Damn. You're not. See, you you're 20 and you are. I deserve better. Light years ahead of me and you deserve way better. I actually got stood up two days ago.
Mm-hmm. Like, how dumb are men? Why do men reach out, make plans, and then stand you up? What's the point? Just say, I can't hang out. Yeah, or it's like, I'm just not interested. Like, be a man. If you're a man, if you're 22 years old, be a man. Text me and say, hey, I'm just not interested in you anymore. Don't sit there. Stand me up. Lead me on. Ghost me. Not talk to me. Tell me we're talking, but then not talk to me, but not want to hurt my feelings. Mm-hmm.
it's so be mature i know be mature balin i have to be real with you you're dealing with guys that are 20 21 22 23 i swear to god they don't grow up till 57 oh yeah i asked my mom one day i was like what what if i come home with like a 35 year old i think you should oh my god i so i really think you should i so what like my brain is just
Yes. Way more advanced. And it's like, I get it. When I was talking to Hunter, so I have bipolar disorder. And when I was talking to Hunter, I was in a manic episode. And he said that I have crack kid energy or something. And that's understandable. Like in the moment, I was almost embarrassed with who I was. Like this summer has been a rough summer.
road okay a really rough road and I do apologize for that but that just goes to show that he can't handle it yeah yes and he doesn't deserve who I am because I'm so much more than like what I showed him yeah in that moment yes and also I'm sure you guys had a conversation about me being bipolar bipolar Tourette's so why is he calling you and asking you to say one of your tics
Like, is he just dumb? Was he just like into it? It would be like in like a conversation or something. And then he'd be like, I just like want to hear it. You should have been like, I want to hear you say, like make a list. I want to hear you say this in fucking the Gettysburg Address. I actually want an apology letter shipped to my house. I want you to read the Gettysburg Address back to me. Can you read the Constitution backwards?
I know you have skills up your pants like that. So you, Hunter, and your small wiener. Yeah. Fuck Cole Caulfield. Fuck your mom, bitch. Fuck, Hunter. Yeah, so that's who Hunter is, everyone. That's who Hunter is. He stood me up. Moving on. Women listening, if you give a guy a second chance after that, you're dumb. You're, it's just, it's so stupid. ♪
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We covered a lot. Your dating life, Tourette's, makeup. You're going to be a nurse, right? So I actually dropped out of the nurse. I was in pre-nursing at WVU and then I dropped out of pre-nursing to do psych because I just thought I couldn't do and be a nurse anymore because of my tics without them being like
about you in the conference room like the nurse instructor. I'm so scared. Like they're they're very like up and down very rocky road so it's very it was very hard for me to tell in the moment how it was going to be and for me to like sit there and think about it and express that like I can do this but
But I think I'm not going to be attending WVU next semester. Okay. Because I want to go to a 16th month junior college that's still in Morgantown where WVU is. But I just...
Feel more comfortable being completely online than going in person at this point I just due to my condition due to the stress of sitting in a lecture hall of 300 kids and then me becoming a meme on a YouTube channel I just can't do it. That's a lot No, it's a lot and it's a lot of stress on me because I go into class and I hold it on my tics. I
Oh, so you sit there and you try to hold them in. Oh my God, I sit there and I hold in all my tics or I'll wear headphones and not pay attention at all. So it's exhausting as fuck. Yes, because then I come home and I have tic attacks and tic attacks can last for like two hours or they can last for, fuck your mom, 15 minutes. I mean, after COVID, I thought everything was fucking online. Yeah, there's like a lot of things that are online, but it's just like you either have to go through like a specific college to do it and you have to sign transfer papers because this one...
Because I can't take a chem lab in person. Like I tried bio 102 and the girls did not help me at my table. So I just couldn't do it anymore. I'm like, you guys really want me to cut up a worm right now.
okay i can't use a scalpel but this is cool blow my eyeball but this will be fun this will be a good little project i'll try i'll try doing it with a pencil yeah i'll actually you'll be my first patient yeah you'll be my first patient come here i mean i went to three colleges i went to a i had a scholarship to a college in california
got in a lot of trouble with that home for being a party girl, then went to community college, then went to the University of Utah. Success is not linear. Okay? Yeah, so you go at like your own rhythm. Like you can't compare yourself to other people who...
are this and that and higher above you because you're at your own rhythm, your own rate, your own platform, your own path. Like you comparing yourself to someone who's, oh, well, she's prettier. There's always going to be someone who's prettier. There's always going to be someone who's nicer. And there's always going to be somewhere on the other spectrum who's meaner. And it's like, oh,
oh, I'm better than this person, but I'm not better than this person. It's just like, sit down, relax, take a breather, drink a coffee and realize you are your own person. Yes. And you can only go at the rate of rhythm as your heart desires and your brain desires. And,
How fast you want to go in order to achieve your goal or how slow you want to go to achieve your goal. And that's also taken me a long time to do because I was like, I need to get done a four year college. I need to do this. I need to take this. I'm like, I have a different life than a lot of other people on the college campus. You had to grow up fast. I had to grow up fast. Like I've grown up with a lot of health issues, a lot of problems and I'm
It's just it's been a really interesting road through my life and also like being an influencer. There's a lot of people at my college that don't understand like they're like, oh, I'd love to be an influencer. I'd love to be this. It's great. But it's like check your mental health every once in a while. I cannot imagine being an influencer and having to go to college in person. Yeah.
I would not. Mary Kay Olsen. Remember they did that? They like went to NYU. No. Right? Who's that? Mary Kay and Ashley Olsen. Oh my God. I'm old. I would have to see a picture. I have to put like faces. Just say it right now. I'm old as fuck. Just say it. No, you're not. Mary Kay and Ashley Olsen. Oh. Yeah.
Yes, I know what you're talking about. She went to NYU. How? Yeah, I don't know how. Obviously, that's one portion. Then you have this whole other portion. Yeah, and it's like, oh, like, you need a degree, you need to do this, and it's just like, do you know what I mean? No, you actually don't. Straight up, you don't. I don't know.
I probably don't. I really, I just want to like help people who are like me at the end of the day. Well, then you should. You don't need a degree, but if you want to help people and that's your passion, then you absolutely should. Yes. And you're going to. I've also realized that I can do that through a lot of
Different ways. Like, I don't just have to be a nurse or I don't have to be a therapist. Like, I can... You're doing it on TikTok. Yes, I am. And I've finally started to realize that. And a lot of influencers ask me, like, why don't you do social media full time? Why don't you do this full time? And it's just...
That's a really good question. I've never like sat down and like thought about it because like my dream has always been to be a nurse. But it's like at the end of the day, my dream has always been to help people. Specifically help people not have a label on it. We don't need to put a label on it right now. No. We actually don't need to put a label on it ever. Yeah. It's just like taking it like day by day and as little by little because by the end of the day, I could drop out. I could drop out, move to LA. Who knows? Hmm.
You're not moving to LA? No, I'm not moving to LA. You are moving to New York and moving in with me before you move to LA. I want to move to New York City so bad. You're going to. I really hope so. I hope I have enough money one day to do that. This city is for you. I can feel it. Look at your outfit. And then look at mine. That just goes to show, yes, I'm a New York transplant straight from Utah. I know it's just... You're done. I know it's just coming off of me. Do people ever...
say like why don't you date someone with Tourette's or why don't you hang out with people with Tourette's which is such an ignorant thing but do people tell you that shit yeah I get asked a lot of time like how come you don't I get asked how come I don't respond back
to freaking people on TikTok all the time. You don't respond back to your supporters, your fans. I can't. I don't look at my comments. It's better for me not to. Like I have a Q&A at the bottom of the thing. You can answer that. We'll be fine. I've actually had people from TikTok with Tourette's reach out to me and be like, would you ever date me? And it's just like, your tics are worse than mine.
Like, I don't mean to be rude, but it would be really hard. Yeah. Like, fuck you and your boner. I think that's fair to say. I think that's fucking fair to say. There's levels. There's levels.
I have a friend actually who has Tourette's and you can't even tell. Can't even tell she has Tourette's. I hang out with her all the time and I don't mimic her tics. She doesn't mimic mine. It's a really simple, easy friendship to have. I can relate to her on a level, but we don't have to talk
ticks 24-7. You can hang out with whoever you want. You're a human being. Yeah. And it's like, of course I'd hang out with people with Tourette's. It'd just be very, very difficult. For both of you guys. For both of us to have like a conversation. Because they would tick, then I would tick. And it's just depending on the person's echolalia. Because most people with Tourette's have echolalia, but there's some people that don't have it. So like if I were to date someone with Tourette's, I couldn't do the echolalia part.
Got it. Which means again. Where like if they were to say like fuck and then I would say fuck. And it would just go back and forth. Back and forth. Or they would do like a sniffing tick and then I do the sniffing tick and it's just be non-ending. Yeah. Never ending. Yeah. I did. I had to go to a substance abuse program and there was someone in the class. That sounded really wild, guys. It was for an underage drinking ticket. It wasn't that crazy in Utah. You're like, what?
I was 18 and I yeah I went into a bar with a fake ID anyways there was someone in the class who had trots and he was sitting behind me and his tics were directed at me and saying things about me and I'm assuming that is that's like a different form of it right yeah
It can be, but it's also really random. For some reason, I have a tick that every time I look at my sister, I say, you sneaky snake. And it has no correlation with her at all. She just sets it off. And it's not her fault. There's certain ticks I have with certain people. Eileen, I was making fun of her park job, and she was like, shut the F up, Baylen. And I only have that around her. It's just certain ticks like that. Or my dad's bald.
And every time I see a bald person, I have to say that they're bald. Like when I was on a Dr. Phil show, I had to tell Dr. Phil he was bald and I had to tell my dad he was bald. And then I had to look in the audience for someone else to make an even three in my head because my OCD is like through the roof. Okay. But I ended up finding someone. Thank God. Yeah, I pointed it out. Imagine if you didn't. Yeah.
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Let's answer a couple questions from my sleuths and my listeners, okay? Okay. Hey, Sophia, big fan. I want to talk about hair on a woman's body. Are there any standards? Like what areas are okay to keep hairy? Like your hands maybe? And what are a big red no? I think it's 100% up to the woman, but when it comes to a partner's preferences, things may get heated. Do you think men have any preferences? Yeah.
I mean, in 2022, yeah, the standard is to be a naked mole rat, right? That's the fucking standard. Oh, my God, yeah. I shave, like, my knuckles and everything. You do? Oh, my God, yeah. Like, I just, I can't. No way. I can't stand it. Like, I used to, like, shave my arms. I'm trying, like, not to anymore. But it's just, I just don't like hair. I get that. Personally on me, like, I don't care if, like, other people don't shave. Like, it's not, like, a big issue to me. It's just, like, me, like, I just don't.
like it on me because like you get it you're a brunette like yeah it's not like it's blonde hair like it's like dark yes and then it grows back an hour and a half later and you're like i feel that fudge stripes you know no i feel that for me personally i have never touched my arms
The rest of my body, I've definitely shaved and I'm getting it lasered. But okay, that wasn't her fucking question. Guys, I am very good at my job, don't worry. She asked, do you think men have preferences?
sweetheart yes well welcome to planet earth yeah men have preferences and i'm gonna go ahead and guess 90 want you to be completely cat everywhere yes every a bald eagle uh what are those cats siamese cat what are the ones that don't have the hair i was gonna say sesame street for some reason good god
But at the end of the day, don't do what a guy wants. Do whatever you want. And then if the guy doesn't accept it, then move on. Yes. Because it's just like you can't sit here and ask for the guy's approval on everything. No. Are you going to ask for the guy's approval for which hair color you should have? Right. No, you shouldn't. But if he's going to be a little more...
if he's gonna be better in the bedroom because he likes you shaven, then maybe take that into account. But besides that, then like who gives a fuck? Okay, next question is,
Hey, Queen Sloot, can we as women stop thinking it's some kind of achievement to be the most attractive girl our man has gotten with? I have a friend that would go on and on about how ugly all the girls her ex had been with and would always compare herself to them. In my opinion, I would take no pleasure in being the hottest girl my guy got with. It's a compliment if they're getting with other attractive girls. Really curious to hear what you think.
Okay. That was a lot to take in. That was a lot. Hold up. Can you think you can reread that? I'm going to break it down for us because that was a fucking mouthful. So this girl thinks that she brags about how she's the hottest girl Hermione has been with and then talks about how ugly all of his exes are.
And this girl is saying, I think that's fucking stupid. I think it's cool that he's been with a bunch of hot bitches because then I don't know what that means. You're a hot bitch, probably. Her question is, can we as women stop thinking it's some kind of achievement to be the most attractive girl? All right. Let me just plain and simple that making a comment like that is pure insecurity. If a girl is going on and on about how ugly all of his exes are,
complete insecurity you wouldn't feel the need to say that if you you know felt hot no you wouldn't like i remember um like my ex-boyfriend we dated for like three and a half years right guy just mutual breakup um like i never talked crap about his ex-girlfriend right no i just i think it stems from insecurity
I would be lying if I said I've never talked shit. If I find, if I'm feeling insecure, I actually do the opposite. And I'll talk about how hot the girl was. Yeah. And how I don't compare. Yeah. It's just like, I'll sit there and I'll be like, you know what? Her hair looks really good today. You know what? She's gained a lot of weight in her ass and that looks great on her, but I'll never get that. You know, good for her. Good for her. You know what, Baylin? That means we are actually more confident. Yeah.
- And let me think, let me tell you why the girl, 'cause we're being so real and authentic and genuine. I genuinely feel like shit about myself that girls tits and ass and hair and whatever is so fucking nice. Okay, the girls that can't even bring themselves to tell the truth and put up this facade, they were so ugly, so ugly, so ugly, I'm so much hotter. That to me shows more insecurity.
Oh, no. Yeah. Like I like every guy I talk to, I want to know what your ex looks like, though. Right. Not to compare myself, but like I wouldn't like I just want to I want to know what your type is. Like I want to know like what you're working with. Like every guy I've talked to, like I'm not going to sit there and compare myself like Hunter's ex-girlfriend. Beautiful. I hate that. Beautiful. Beautiful. Beautiful.
Beautiful. And I would never sit there and talk trash about her. Never. No, never. There's I haven't either. Actually, I just said I have in the past when I was younger. Now, the guy I'm dating, he's hooked up with, let's just say well over 50 women. Okay. And he's told me about a few of them. And they're influencers and they're celebrities and they're really hot. And never once have I said, Nope, they're not hot. They're not hot. They're not hot. I'm hot.
Mm-hmm. Like, why? Like, it's okay for you to be hot and for her to be hot. Thank you. It's totally okay. Like, you shouldn't have to sit there and compare yourself because you have brown hair and she has blonde hair and she's 20 pounds lighter. Right. And you're like this and she's that and she's like skinnier in the arms and she has bigger boobs. It's just not worth it. You're going to go back and forth for the rest of your fucking life and never feel good. Yes. And it's just like you shouldn't have to like also validate what he says. Like, if he thinks that you're pretty, then you should know that. Mm-hmm.
But it's like you shouldn't rely on him to call you pretty to know you're pretty. That is such an amazing statement because a lot of girls rely on that. Yeah. I relied on that this summer. Like I would rely on like guys to basically be like, oh, like, oh, like you're so pretty. It's just like I don't even care anymore. Yeah. Like it's just like.
If we hang out, I'm in sweatpants and a snuggie. That's how it is. That's what you're going to get on the first date. It's not that I don't care. It's just that you're going to accept me at the worst, but you're going to accept me at the best at this point. It's just like, I don't even care. And it's not that I'm not confident. It's just that I just...
don't care I mean mic drop I mean what are you gonna do have a shit ton of makeup hair perfect fucking like angling your body for five months and then he's gonna see the real you and be like wait what the fuck is this yeah no that doesn't sound that fun to me um Baylin where can they find you
So I have a couple social media platforms. You can find me on TikTok at balin.duperie. You can find me on Instagram at balin underscore duperie. And you can find me on Snapchat at balinduperie. Okay. And you guys know where to find me. So we have an F, Franklin with a B-W-A-L-I-N-D.
With a what? With a what up? What's up? Soapy with an F. Fuck off. Soapy with an F. Franklin with a Y. Bailen, you are like, I can't put into words how beyond incredible and inspiring you are. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart, genuinely. Like, for real, for real. Thank you. All right, guys. Sleuths, I love you so much. New collection just dropped, and I will talk to you next week. Bye.
