Sensitive T*ts & Your Inner Circle 46:11

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I love that. Yeah. Wait, no. I didn't know that. Okay, yeah. No, it's good. Yes. Oh, yeah. When you tell a new shooting your shot, you have to take a shot. Yes. Okay. Yes. Also, it'd be so cute if our listeners video recorded them telling us a story about them shooting their shot, and then they took a shot of Pink Whitney in the video and sent it to us. Yes. That would be so cute. Or when you're at the bar and you're about to go up to someone, you have them in the background, take the shot, and then go. Yeah.

Or just, just cause maybe you just take a photo of your shot and just tag us. I want pictures of every guy, girl, anyone literally holding a pink Whitney and like letting us know how they shot their shot. Love it. Oh my God. I love that. That'd be cute. If somebody in six months to tag us and they're like, we're dating because I shot my shot.

Melt. This is the new dating app. Amigo times Pink Whitney romance. It's not Tinder. It's just Pink Whitney. It's like, forget Bumble. Just use this. What dating app are you on, Pink Whitney? Should we just listen to this podcast and ask people out? Okay, what's your shot? So I was thinking about...

What my shot would be because I'm not really like talking to guys right now. So I'm not really shooting, shooting my shot in the boy department. But over the weekend, I did shoot my shot by posting a little bit of a vulnerable, spicy picture to Instagram in a bikini. I absolutely. I don't want to talk about too much because I'm blush. I was a beaming parent. I was like, fuck.

You had the under boob. Oh, yeah. The angle. We're going to talk about it. We're going to talk about it. I don't want to talk about it. I absolutely loved it. It was a very hot photo. Thank you. It did so... It did really well on Twitter. You creepy ass guys. Actually, yes. Twitter has been nicer to me lately. So I was like, why not throw it up on there? Throw it up on everything. You looked fabulous. How did it feel doing that? So I...

I really battled with it all day. I took the picture in the morning and I literally went back and forth all day. Like, I probably...

got like drafted it five different times like I got ready to post it and then deleted it I sent to my best friend back home I was like are these good and she was like are you fucking kidding me like post the picture like it was a battle in my head all day okay and then I finally was like okay Jordan I thought about my intention like you taught me yes and I was like I'm not doing this for anyone specific I'm doing this for myself because Instagram is my place and I was like I don't

I don't care if someone doesn't think X, Y, and Z. I'm just gonna post it. And I did and I was happy. - You were happy? - I was very happy. - I love that. - Yeah. - The thing about, I feel like the photo was absolutely because of course we all know you're not in the dating scene right now. Totally fine. - Yeah. - You're doing Jordan.

So that photo wasn't, like, for the guy that's not texting you back. No. The photo was because you looked hot, you looked good, and you had the confidence to put it up. Yeah, it was nice that for the first time I was, like, not the first time, but one of the first times I was posting, like, a spicy picture with no man in my mind. I was just doing it for myself. Because usually it's, like...

x y and z like you said hasn't texted me back or i'm talking to this guy i want to see i want him to see this picture me but i was like i'm literally not talking to anyone right now no you did it for you i did for me because you felt good yeah so i shot my shot i was very vulnerable i was bold and did it pay off yeah it paid off i was vulnerable

Got some nice DMs back. Oh, I bet. And you didn't do it because you wanted compliments. No. You know what? That, I feel like, is the key to life. So that was playing offense, right? Defense is being like, I feel shitty about myself. No guys are talking to me. Like, you're down, down, down. So you post the photo wanting people to say something good to you. But then what you did was play offense, and you were like, I feel good. I'm posting the photo, and I don't care what anybody says. And that's when good things come. Yes. Ooh, I love it.

And there were so many wonderful women, too, who reached out and were empowering, which is very, very nice to see. Why don't we just make weird icons? But it was nice to have, like, people also, like, women being, like, they were also pumping me up, which is always nice to see because a lot of times that doesn't happen. So shout out to those girls. You know who you are.

So I didn't post nearly the steamy photo that you did. Oh, we're not going to talk about your shooting your shot? We will. I just have a little tidbit. I just want to ask you kind of something. Oh, I knew you were going to. Okay. Well, so, but I posted one. Yes. And I was sitting beside, because I went to Oklahoma for a little bit, and I was sitting beside my darling mother-in-law, who doesn't have Instagram, but does have one to follow me. And she started going through my story beside me, and she was like, look, I follow you on Instagram. And I was like, no.

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, because what's about to happen is you're going to see my swimsuit photo that I took in your son's bathroom upstairs. And I felt so...

One part of me was like, I was proud of that photo and like, I don't care. Yeah. But the other part of me was like, I feel so awkward sitting beside you knowing you're going to see it. Do you ever struggle with that? Oh my God. So the day I posted that picture, my parents were gone for the entire day. As soon as they got back, I was like avoiding talking to my parents the rest of the night. Cause I was like, if they say anything about this picture, I'm going to hide in my hole. But I was like, my mom follows me. She saw the picture. She liked the picture, but I was literally felt the same way. I was like, please don't say anything. Please don't say anything. Yeah.

I was listening to Tank Sinatra on Ed Milad's podcast, and he was talking about when he first started, right? Because he's the meme. I mean, he's huge in social media. Yeah. And he was saying, he's like, you don't start out with zero followers on Instagram.

He's like, it's worse. You start out with like 160 and they're like, you know, your friends and your friends, husbands and things like that. And then you post your first whatever. Like for him, it was his first meme. For us, it's like we're being more bold on social media. And he's like, then you watch you lose followers because they're like, what are they trying to do? Be an influencer. And I feel like you and I, like we got to the point where we got to Barstool and now we're like kind of coming into ourselves, which is like there are some days we talk about vibrators.

Some days we're posting mirror pics. And it's like, it feels good. But every once in a while, part of me will go back home and I'm like, what did she, what's she thinking? What's the girl I went to high school with thinking? Literally before, because like before Barstool, I feel like Barstool is giving us leverage to make it okay. But pre-Barstool, when we started posting on social media, I remember like my friend's

sister unfollowed me, which is a little bit of a slap in the face because I'm so close with her. One of my brother's good friends was like, why is Jordan doing this? Like, this is weird. And I was just like, oh my God, these people that I thought I was close with aren't supporting this. And then, of course, when I went to Barstool, I'll end it because they were like, oh, you have a platform, you're at Barstool. Oh, she made it. Yeah, I'll follow her again. But I know exactly who stopped following me, who didn't support me back in the early days. I'll remember that forever. So I...

I had... I started making videos before I got here. Because you have to have, like, a digital portfolio. Yeah. Obviously. How else are you going to do it? So I would make... Let's say I had 5,000 followers. I would make these videos and I'd put them out there. And I was all over the place with them. And I would drop, like, to a 4.8. Yeah.

And I would get, I would be like, I'm not supposed to do this. Like, I can't keep going. And so one day Graham downloaded that app where you can see who unfollowed you. I've done that. And he sat me down one day because I literally lost 500 followers. And he sat me down and he's like, all right, I'm going to tell you the 10 worst ones. And it was like an old roommate, like girls I went to college with. And I was just sitting there and I was like crying. But I wrote down all of them and I put them in a thunderbox that sits below my TV. And I just have them in there and they just fuel me.

And you know what the best part is? All the guys that unfollowed me, they're back. Right? And I just laugh and I'm like, oh, dude, same. It's so funny. It's like, it's amazing the people who come out of the woodwork once you start to have a platform. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. I remember everything. Yeah, you weren't there when we were down. When we were trying something new, like, no wonder

it's so hard to post a freaking mirror photo because people are like what they send it to their friend they're like what's she trying to do it's like trying to look good yeah trying to look trying to just have a little bit of self-confidence forgive me literally but I'll what fuels me too is I'm like okay if especially if a girl tears me down for posting that I'm like it's because you're insecure not because you're mad at me it's because like you're mad at something in yourself like it's your own insecurity that you're projecting on me and

And that makes me feel better. The hate. I've been dying laughing lately because we had, we had an only hate comments at the beginning, but we're totally through the threshold and we've made it through the fire and the other side of it feels good. It actually feels better knowing you went through that. Yeah. Like it means more, but now I'll get the biggest kick out of somebody being like, your eyebrows are so dark. I'm like, do you think Tammy that I'm going to go shave them off now? Because you thought my eyebrows were too dark. Like,

Can you let me have this one? Dude, what's with eyebrows? I remember when I first started Barstool, everyone was coming for my eyebrows. Wait, what? Do you remember that? I have good eyebrows. I do now. Oh, they were worse before? What would they look like? No, they weren't worse before. But like when I first, I've changed them a bit.

it the comments helped Jordan I'm like fuck you guys but only because this was when I was like very new and I didn't understand that hate comments were like I've learned over time how to deal with them now if someone says it to me I'll be like fuck you but back in the day I mean I was brand new and like we didn't know what to do yeah totally valid it was like men so I was like oh my god the male eye doesn't think I have good eyebrows I have to change them but yeah people people

People came for my eyebrows left and right. It was incredible. People with eyebrows. People are coming for mine, like, currently. Why? They look the exact same as they did when I first met you. They're the same. They're just dark. I like dark, though. I like... I could never imagine you with light eyebrows. Same. Like, I'm a blonde, but I dye them. Yeah. And I'm going to keep dyeing them. Who do you? I will. Yeah. People are awesome. Now, if you hit me on a body comment, I won't have quite the same response, but eyebrows, I can stay on my own ground. Isn't it weird how, like, little comments like eyebrows are...

You're crying? Sorry, no, I just, the sty, it's just, it's watering. The damn sty, those never leave us. Those will haunt Mean Girl Pod. Do you want my shirt? Would you mind? It would really help. I'll just take it off. Another one? No, I'll just take it off. Okay. You can just have it. Thank you. Friendship. Friendship. Take the shirt off your back so she can clean her sty. You wiped the sweat off of me earlier. I did. Alex got back from boxing and she's like, can you wipe the sweat off my back? And I'm like, sure. Sure can. Why not? Um...

Speaking of that, can we talk about your shot? What you shot? What you shoot? Your shoot your shot moment? Yeah, your shoot your shot moment. Okay, so we know that I've been boxing. But yesterday was the first day I sparred, which is like where you get in the ring and fight somebody. But it was my coach. And...

And I knew that moment was going to suck, but it was like way worse than I thought. Yeah. And so I left yesterday and I like kind of started crying on the way home. And I was like, we're good. Like, it's a healthy kind of cry. Like, I was like, I feel uncomfortable. So I'm crying. Yeah. Today I was in the ring with a girl that I didn't know.

And like the stool scenes, Fasoli was there. And at one point after the first round, I walked over to my coach and I was like, I got to cry. And I was just sitting there like bawling kind of. And I was like, I was like, I'm okay, but I'm scared. And I feel uncomfortable. And like, this is so good for me because here's the thing. The punches don't hurt. Like I stopped and I asked myself, I said, what are you so afraid of right now, Alex? She hit me square in the face and it wasn't that bad. That wasn't what I was scared of.

So I wasn't scared of anything except myself. Like I was my own worst enemy. And that's what was making me cry was I was like, get the fuck out there and hit her. And that was so hard for me. And so that's my shoot your shot is the sparring, which now I know I'm going to have to spar. He's like, we have to spar every day for the next four weeks because you have to make yourself be not scared. Yeah. And I was like, it made me feel so uncomfortable just to like be in the ring, like having to hit somebody.

So that it was, I can't explain it besides it was very good for me, like really good for me, but I was very, I was very scared of it. And it reminds me of, okay, so you know how on this podcast, I thought you raised your hand, sorry.

She's crazy. You know how it could be going here and we were like somebody besides ourselves and like we were trying to be something else like it wouldn't work. It's like the same when you're in the ring. Like if I'm afraid to hit, if I'm like afraid of what she's going to do to me, I won't hit her. So it's like again with the offense and defense thing is like I have to go in there and it just has to be offense. Like I just have to be myself. The post the mirror pick like all of those things and it just like parallels to me life all the time.

So the other thing I've been thinking about with it, okay, so my boxing coach, he's made me think of something because he makes me feel so uncomfortable. Like I'm so out of my comfort zone to the point that I'm crying, which I can do emotionally, but I've never done physically. And so it makes me think of something that I've been reading in Ed Milet's book about proximity and your friend group. And he talks about how you'll never outperform your inner circle. That's a quote from John Wooden. And it's like,

If we think about

he says the sweet spot could be between three to five friends for me I think it's like five if we think about the five people we truly surround ourselves with do they push you to be a better person so like you for example for me taught me this is what it's like to be uncomfortable but you pushed me to be consistent you pushed me to do all of these things that you don't even know but for you were a good match for me as a friend of somewhere I wanted to be I looked up to things like that and my boxing coach was the same and

And I was like, he makes me feel so uncomfortable. And if I think about my five groups of the five people and my friends, it's like if I'm on one page, I don't even necessarily want them to be on the same page. I want them to be a page ahead of me or two pages ahead of me, like where I'm weak, you're strong, vice versa. Yeah. So I've been thinking about my core group of friends.

Have you ever experienced that, thinking about really who you surround yourself with and how big of an impact it can have on you and your growth? Yes. First, can you repeat that quote again? You'll never outperform your inner group of friends or inner circle. Yeah, so when you said that to me, I was like,

It like made me want to just like sit and think. And when I first heard it, I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait. What do you mean you're never going to outperform? That seems odd. But I think what you meant was you should be always surrounding yourself with people who you want to.

Like that fuels your fire. So you want strong people around you all the time. It's not like a diss. Cause like when I first heard that, I was like, that's kind of like a backhanded comp like comment. Like what do you mean? You're never going to outperform. Like my friend's always gonna be better than me. Like, what does that mean? Right. But it's like, no, you want friends who are so great that you're always on the same level of like pushing yourself to be more successful. Yeah.

Yeah. Right. Right. Yeah. Think about it. To think about it for the starting five, I guess you're like, I want Shaq on my team. Yes. Yes. That's who you really. And we talk about competition sometimes. But it's like help. This isn't even about competition. This is like she's great. I want to be just as great. Yes. Because there's going to be people in your life like you guys. I'll never see this competition. I want the best for you guys no matter what. But there's other girls that have been in my life where I'm like, I'm going to compete with you to the day I die. And I'm going to never get sleep because of it.

Right. And you're like, it's terrible. It literally sucks my soul. That's the worst feeling in the world. And those are not people who can be in your inner circle. But if you really, like, I've never thought about it. Living in Oklahoma, living in LA, living here now. Yeah. I was like, oh my God, who I'm around impacts me.

So much. Because like if somebody can pull you out of your comfort zone, you're like, I'm friends with a badass. Yeah. Like you become more badass. Like, yeah. You know how we talked about not being codependent and having fulfillment in your life is kind of like the secret sauce to happiness. Yes. I feel like that also goes with friends. Finding fulfillment in each one of your friends is the secret sauce to a healthy friendship and a friendship that will fulfill you in life. I love that.

Because like you fulfill me in a different way than Alana fills me. And my X, Y, and Z friend fulfills me in a different way than my other X, Y, Z friend. You know what I mean? Yeah. I don't have one friend where I'm like they fulfill me the exact same way. You can't have it. And to have like such a healthy – like have like a healthy pack –

He also talked about how... So, Oprah, for example. Like, that's one powerhouse, but she's nothing without Gayle, and she talks about that all the time. Like, a lot of time, the creative starts with one person, and they have the idea, but they always talk about the co-pilot that made it happen. Like, I think a lot of the times...

And I don't know if this is true. I'm making this up literally on the spot. But you know how there's girls have a lot of groups of friends and they don't always work out. Like I feel like girls are always like can't really do more than two. Can't do more than three. Because I feel like girls are finding people who they don't fulfill. Like us three. If there was one other person who was just like you, me or Lana it wouldn't work.

No, we would be catty. We would be catty. Us three work so well together because we are all so different and fulfill each other in different ways. And I think about that with my other groups of friends. Like, we all fulfill each other in different ways, and there's not one person who mimics the other. Right. We're strong-worthy others. We're like a puzzle. You don't want to find somebody that wants to do all the same workout classes as you because it's stagnant. You want to be the one who's like, oh, my God, I don't know why she's so obsessed with the calendar, but she is. Yeah. And it's just like –

You're yin and you're yang. Yeah. Same thing in a relationship too, honestly. Yeah. It's kind of what you look for. Like, yeah, I want a friend who loves to work out like me, but I want a friend who's like, no, no, no, no, no. We're going to try Pilates today because all you do is cycle. You know what I mean? Right. Right. Because if I had a friend who's like, let's cycle big. Well, now it's going to be like a competition. And like, now is it going to like, we're going to see who like does the best. Like, I don't really like this anymore. Right. You know what I mean? Yeah. That'll be the same with you with dating though. It'll be, it'll be that like finding the person who, cause you always said you want somebody that drinks wine and coffee and it's like,

I love that because I think you will probably find like that would be interesting for you. But what if you end up with somebody like I'm obsessed with cycling, but like they light your fire, you know, like you never know. I know. Pick it. I've been thinking about like my ideal person a lot lately. And I think it's just because I haven't been dating. And I truly think I'm back to like I need to date a creative like someone because you got like, for example, like you're more creative than me.

I lack that area. Like, yes, I'm creative, but not in that sense where I feel like someone creative would really fulfill me and light my fire. Yeah. And that, that would be the prime example of pushing you out of your comfort zone. Cause your comfort zone is calendar number. Like that's where you numbers you thrive there, but like you love being around creatives, things like that. That to me is the coffee tasting in the wine. I mean, that's kind of a creative. Yeah. You're actually kind of structured in that area.

In creative? No, in even like, you're like, this is the best Aperol Spritz. It's here. And you're like, okay, okay, got it. Yeah, great. And Alana's like, I made my own. And I'm like, why would you make your own? You can just go there. And Alana's like, and what's orange juice in it? And Jordan's like, and there's no orange juice in Aperol Spritzes. For a second, like alone. Alana's like, no wonder mine's so good. Can't find one in the city that's like it. Wait, that's so true. Yeah. I think it might be, it might be.

Like, you even pushed me to try a vibrator. I'm like, why would I do that? But I'm going to do that. Yeah. Speaking of that. Speaking of. Need to talk about it. So curious what's going on. Have you gotten one, Alex? Because we have a lot of people wondering. Okay. So I got one. I'm so excited. I got a vibrator. It was the rundown. And I tried it last night. Alone or with Graham? With Graham. Graham was the one using it. Because that was the instructions, right? Correct. So he uses it. Where? Where?

In, right? Yeah. Yeah, I was just wondering. Oh, I was like, what do you mean? No, no, no. He also tried it on my boob, but we'll get there. So he... You touch my boobs over. Wait, really? Oh, yeah. You like boob touch? Yes, that's why I'm nervous if I ever... I want a boob job, but I don't know if I could ever get one because I need to know if I will lose the sensitivity. Really? I need somebody to promise me that I won't or I can't do it. Wait, wait.

I like boob play too, but I wish I was more sensitive. Yeah, I'm not sensitive at all there. If Graham touches my boob, like I have to go to the bedroom. I'm like, are you serious? I'm the most, it turns me on more than anything in the entire world. Yes. Like mentally or physically? Physically. Like I'm just like, oh my God. And like, he knows that. So I'm like, if I get a boob job, do I lose even 5% of that? Cause that's like my spot.

Have you? I mean, and I don't know people like I've asked my friends that have had on like, did you lose sensitive? And you're like, kind of. But they're like, you guys, it's not they don't really care. Yeah. Yeah. So I think about that a lot. Yeah. That's something you definitely want to look into. Yeah, I know. I didn't breastfeed either.

Yeah. I know. I'm like weird. These are my these are my they're not very big, but hey, that's like God's gift. Like God's gift to you is literally that you have so much sensitivity there. Like that's rare. Do you guys have a spot where if you were touched, it's over? Yeah. What is it? Okay. So this is mine is so weird, but it's literally like on the back of my neck.

Oh, like if he touches you? Like if anyone like ever grabs, like if a guy like went like this to me, like a nice way, that was just like maybe like leaned over my shoulder and put his hand like on my neck, I would literally be like, oh my God. It's over? It's over. Really? Yes. Or if they like kiss the back of my neck or, oh, just any type of touch on the back, not the front. I don't like people, like if guys kiss my neck, I'm like, cool, whatever. I could watch a movie right now. But the back, game, over. What's yours? Maybe it's like my inner thighs. Oh.

That's what. Like a hand on the inner thigh is like, you just feel so protected. Oh my God. When you're eating dinner with someone, like you're on a date for like, you've only been dating for a while. And they like, you're talking like, they're like, do you want to get out of here? You're like,

You're like, I'm already out of here mentally. One time I went on a date with this guy, and this was like our third date, and we were sitting in a booth so we could sit next to each other, and he like rested his hand on my thigh and I was like, oh my god, I'm going to die. I love you. Oh, I just remembered it. This is so weird. Okay, what is that? I feel like I could guess it, maybe. It's very random. Like the top of my back. But kisses and licks. The top of your back? Yeah. Yeah, like the neck, the top of the back, the neck.

the neck. Like my wings. Yes! Wait. The top area from like here to here. Like maybe it's just because it's rarely touched by anything but my hair. And we're not talking like a hand on it. No, I'm talking like from behind, like if they lick or kiss the top of my back. How do you even get there? Are you on your stomach? No, if I, yeah, from behind. Yeah. Like if they're behind me.

I'm like literally kissed the top of my back. Okay. One time. Another story. I know it gives me the chills. I was dating this guy and we were watching a movie. And I was. Well, this is how it happened. This is how it happened. Okay. I don't know which one of me to look at. So we were watching a movie and we were laying on his bed. This was a while back. And, um.

I hid my shirt off, I think. And I was laying down and he just started, like, massaging my back. And then he started, like, kissing my upper back and neck. And that's how I learned it was, like, such a turn on. But that's, like, how it can happen. Like, you're laying down and they give you a massage. Like...

Yes, the upper back, the neck. It's insane. And no guy ever touches that area. So when the guy does, I flip out. Yeah. That's it. I think it's a very sensitive area because no one's touching it. Yeah. But it has to be a light touch, like lips. Yes. Remember the tight squeeze cool breeze? Now you got the shiveries. Do you remember that tight squeeze cool breeze? Did it always turn you guys on? Maybe. I'm going to be like,

You remember that, though? Yeah. Tight squeeze, cool breeze. Now you got the shiveries. I'd be like, oh. I never even thought about it. That's funny. That's where it started for me. Okay, so this kind of goes back to that episode where we talked about not telling people things or, like, telling or not telling them. For me, it took, like, six months, and I finally told Grandma. I was like, P.S., if you touch my boobs, I...

like a whole new person. But it's like, it took him like a year to tell me when you kiss my neck, I'm bored out of my mind actually turned off. And I'm like, that's how I am. But it's like guys at the bar, I'll whisper to them now, like touch your neck. But like, they don't know. It's so funny. Cause like, don't you wish you had a sign above your head that was like to turn me on, please touch my neck. Yes. Kiss my back. Like you would know it's as simple as like telling someone like how you'd like to be fingered. You know, it's, it's,

the back of the neck but it's so still so hard to communicate it's so weird too to be like where well I'm still confused by yours I'm imagining like the like I don't know I guess my like my wings it'd be like yes yes yes and I'm just a kisser the most like non-sexual area ever no like kisses no I don't like it kiss and lick ah Jordan's like she's turning on no I'm not

But, like, this, like, would do nothing for me. Oh, my God. I can't even, like, touch my own. Wait, I would wish that did that for me. I didn't like the vibrator on. That was not. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Back to the vibrator. How did it work? Sorry, going on a tangent. No, it was good. I think I started the tangent because I didn't want to talk about it. Okay. I think I might have an unpopular opinion on the vibrator. No. No, no, no. It was awesome. Okay. It was, like, it felt like something I've never felt before. Mm-hmm.

It was, I felt like I was sitting in the climax of sex. Oh. Like, right before the orgasm. Because, like, I'll have the orgasm spot, but I'll have, like, the...

15, 20 seconds before it where I'm like, oh my God, I love this. I would love to stay here forever. It felt a little bit less than that. So it felt really good. Okay. But it started immediately making me crave. Like I was like, Graham, I want you to touch me. Like that's what it made. I was like, I need your hands. Like I need you. And the same thing. He's like, let me try it on your boob. Like you love when I touch your boobs. And I was like, I just need your hands on. Okay. This changed my opinion a little. Okay.

I think the doing it with your partner thing, it's less about the vibrator itself and more about like,

Maybe. What do you mean? Lack thereof? Yeah, like submitting control. Okay. Like letting someone else like do something very foreign to your body. Yes. I think that might be the hot part. Less than the actual vibrator. Because I kind of agree. I don't love the feeling. I mean, it's cool. It's not a bad thing. It felt good. Yeah, but I think the hotter part, like the more like sexy part, is like letting someone else like do something to you. Yeah.

Yeah. Like just have to lay there. I think I like that. I think I would like a vibrator more with just myself than with a person. I think that's what it is. But maybe you'll like other things in that vein of like control. Well, I love the whip. Yeah, exactly. That's a control thing. Do you do anything external with it or is it only internal? Both. Okay. And I was like, this feels so good. Like I was saying a lot of my, this feels so good. I love this. Oh my God. Oh my God.

But then I was like, can your fingers do this? Yeah. Yeah, that makes sense. Especially because you're used to Graham. Maybe use a bigger one. I saw the box. It looked like a small version. You need the one that's the size of this remote. That arrives Thursday. Okay. Graham was like, you need the... Yes, he's like, you need the bigger one. And I was like, okay, let's try that. Don't get me wrong. I loved the way it felt. It didn't feel bad. Yeah. Honestly, you kind of mentioned, I'm like, I'll sit there and watch a movie with that. But I was like, with his hand on it...

I was like, I need your hand. Like, I'm obsessed with you. Wait, can I ask you a question? Yeah. Would you ever... Can we crop all the time? It is a habit. I'm in my seat. Can I ask you a question? Yeah, go on. Sure can. What is it? Would you ever try it alone? I thought about that. Like, if Graham was gone for a week or so? Okay, so I have...

I wouldn't want him to do that, to, like, jack off when I wasn't there. Does he not? Not really, no. Like, I think, though... No, he doesn't. He does not. Like, he used to, I think. But then, remember, the marriage counselor made the comment and was like, today's the day. And I've never bothered, like, asking him. This is...

I don't know how I possibly could like unless he's traveling for a long period of time. But I was thinking about that and I'm like for some reason I would feel bad doing it when he wasn't there. That's okay. I don't think he would care. Yeah. But I was like I don't really want to like I just like doing that stuff with him. Yeah and that's okay. It's like my sacred spot. You don't need to like no one says like you need to masturbate. If you're having healthy sex and a lot of it like good for you. Yeah and I like love that about it. I'm like no you're just kind of the person I want to touch me. Yeah. But I do want to try the bigger one. I think that was the problem.

Yeah. It needs to be like a device. Like a pant, like a potty pad. That would be fun. This was not. No, I know. I know. I hate those things. They're kind of weird. Like the bullets. Ew. I used to have one that's like, they fit in your purse. Yeah. And I was like, eh, that one broke. Oh, so I like really have the wrong one. Yeah. Yeah. That's kind of like for something different, I guess. I didn't want to like, you know, change your opinion when I saw you buy it. I was like, I'll just let her figure it out. It's different when someone's like...

Fencing. Well, it like barely fit in his hand, you know, like. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, you didn't. Past his hand, there wasn't much space. Thank you for not vibrator shaming me. Of course. Never. I've had teeny tinies and I've had big dogs too. What's your fave? The big dog? Middle ground. Middle. You're a middler. I'm still actually looking for my favorite vibrator right now. I have the rabbit, but I don't love.

Of how it has the thing that sticks out Because I like to use it for external use So that thing gets in the way and hits me in the stomach And I'm like ouch that hurts because I like to lay down Not the mental image I needed

But I have one. I'm painting one in my head of you doing that. So that's good. I don't know what the thing is. Like a bar? It's kind of like this. Imagine a big one with a little one coming out of it. Yeah, like that. Yeah, okay. What's that for? Clit and then internal. But I don't like to use them internal, so it just gets in the way. Okay. Also, quick thing. I just have to quick bring this up.

So, I started watching Bridgerton, and I told you guys how obsessed I am with season two because the sexual tension is just off the charts. Sandra...

Oh, she wrote Bridget? Shonda Rhimes. Shonda Rhimes. Yeah, she's... It's a book, but she made it into a show. She's incredible. She... The sexual tension that they created in that show is literally insane. I don't know how they did it, but I want sexual tension with somebody so bad. Oh! Like, did you guys...

I need that. Okay. Like you want, like, I want to have a crush on somebody that likes me back, but like, we're not being honest about it. And every time I see them, I just want to like jump them, but nothing happens for a while. And then all of a sudden, after like three work, three weeks of liking each other, we finally like get into a room and we just like jump each other's bones. Okay. So you want something that you like see out, um,

Regularly. Regularly. And you flirt, but you haven't done anything yet. Yeah. And maybe like you start out like making out at the outside. No, not even. No, no. Just friends. You want it to build up. Yeah. For three to four weeks. Yeah. And then poof. Yeah. Okay. All.

Also, I would like to say I'm happy to hear a good review of the Bridgerton because there was a lot of bad ones. What? Season two. What? I tried. I didn't like it. So I'm going to try it, though, because of you. I'm going to retry. I'm going to go back. You have not watched at least three episodes of Bridgerton. You can shut up because the first three episodes suck. And then after that, it gets so good. Literally, I you guys, the sexual tension is intense.

Insane That's all I can say Can I suggest a show For you to watch after And you report back to me Physical or whatever Have you watched it No but I want to now But it's on Apple TV And that's only in my living room And I don't like Watching TV in my living room I like being in my bed Just swap the devices I don't have a TV in my room I have a laptop

Oh, wait. If I can log into Apple TV in my TV, I can do my laptop. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's everywhere, actually. It could be here, technically. I'm a fucking idiot. Oh, my God. Yes. I need you to report back to me on her self-talk. It's physical, right? Yes. And there's an eating disorder disclaimer at the beginning, which scared me. But I want to know what you think of the way she talks to herself. Is it good or bad? It's phenomenal. It's triggering, though.

But in it, it doesn't bother me. Okay. So, in season two, you'll get some sexual chemistry. Oh, there's multiple seasons? Yes, there's two, I think. Hell yeah. So I'll do Bridget and you do that. Deal. Also, I'd like to recommend everyone read Ed Milet's book. You got so much. Which I'm highlighting to send to you. Both of you are going to get a copy. Okay. What's it called?

The power of one more. Okay. Would you guys like if we did Rex weekly? Because I was thinking about that. Just like what we're currently loving in life. And get ready because it's going to be so freaking different every week. We're kind of heavy on the contradictions of obsessions. You and I are a little bit all or nothing. Yes, that is something I'm learning. I mean, you knew. I knew. I knew.

I knew the moment I met you. I knew. But you knew that about you too, right? Yeah. It's something I've avoided to admit my whole life. And so I started going to therapy. I was like, I hate to admit it, but I'm blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And she's like, yeah, I knew this whole time. Even therapy. We're like, if we're in therapy, we are in therapy. And I'm like, here's my therapist that if we're out of, we're like, it's not even that good. Oh my God. Yeah. It's literally, I'm all or nothing. I have no, don't balance in my life. That's why like, I'm either obsessed or I hate. There's no in between. Hate.

hate but have you felt indifferent you know have you been thinking about this lately you know I feel like you just got like half feet high I'm sorry I shouldn't do this after boxing no wait what were you saying well because they you know they say you love somebody you hate somebody opposite of love but feeling indifferent is the worst because you feel nothing yeah we don't need to name a list of people wait have I felt that before yeah I mean you know what I mean yeah every guy that I stopped having a crush on

You do feel indifferent. Yeah, I'm like, who? Forgot. One time I think I did mention one of them to you and you were like, what? I was like, remember from the bar? Yeah. You were like, oh yeah, him. Yeah. If I ever like a guy for longer than like four months, then we know it's real.

Noted. Yeah. Duly noted. I am spraying a lot. Yeah. Oh, should I read the question? Oh, yeah. We have one quick question before we X. It's the pod. Okay. We're going to start doing listener questions, like writing questions.

Yay. Because we get a lot and they're good, so might as well read them. We do get a lot. That's true. We won't... This is why we love Alana. Yeah. Because we didn't know that. We didn't know we got good ones. Yeah. Also, this is so cute. Well, there's diamonds in the rough. I'll just say that. And I won't read people's names, so I'll just read the question. Love. I thought this was kind of funny and it could become a conversation. So this guy says...

How do I tell my girlfriend that she has a camel toe when she wears a certain type of pants? I love her to death and it's so ugly and I feel embarrassed for her because I don't think she notices. Oh, wait. So, like, I thought guys thought camel toes were hot. I don't think they do. And I actually, because Mike has told me before, like, you have a camel toe and I'm, like, confused. Like, because, like, wouldn't you think that they would think it's hot? It's like your vagina. But I think large, more largely, like...

How would you want your boyfriend or someone to tell you that, like, whatever you're doing, like, looks like shit? Yeah, how would you want Graham to tell you that? Yeah. I love this guy. Because that's really sweet. Like, it probably doesn't look good. And we do think that they think it's hot. I don't, though. Like, I get self-conscious of that. Oh, same. No, no, I don't think it's hot. I'm confused why they think it's ugly. Because, like, on the vein of, like, women's bodies, like, wouldn't you think...

Maybe she thinks that she's doing it for him, though. No, I think girls don't realize it. I don't think she knows, yeah. It's why her pants are too tight. Really sweet. This is so sweet of him to ask. Okay, this is what I would want. Oh, man, it's tough because there's no easy way. But you have to say, I think you start, you layer it in, right? These pants are so hot on you. Like, I love your body. You have such a good body. Everything you want, you know, give her the compliments. And then be like, I just wanted to point out because maybe you don't know anything.

I wouldn't say they give you a camel toe, but I'd be like, they, they like cave in around like your vagina. And I don't think that you would want that and be like, I didn't know how to tell you, but I just wanted to tell you because I think you're so beautiful and like your body's so hot and that's not the most flattering way. Yeah. It's like a sandwich. Like you compliment, tell her what's wrong. Compliment. Compliment for Tika.

Compliment she won't even hear The yeah won't even hear it what about Like makeup hair Like what if like I don't know you're doing Eyeliner in a weird way They don't get to tell you yeah I see Friends like isn't it awkward when like your Friends are doing something that Like looks bad so you know Friends in the past this is more so when I was growing Up I used to do my eyeliner like more like Circularly and one of my friends like you gotta Stop doing that looks like shit and I'm So appreciative because I started the wing because of her

I mean, she said it a lot nicer, but she was like, I don't like that on you. Like, I think with your eye shape, it would look better if you tried something else. So she was like very good about how she said it. And I was so appreciative. Now I'd kind of tell someone to F off because I'm 27. I think I know what looks good on me, but I would still like to hear what you had to say, I guess, because we see each other differently. I don't know. I think that they have to,

I think that they have to ask you what you think. Yeah. Like, oh, I think volunteering it. If I was like, okay, Alana would be so much cuter with different hair. Like Alana loves her hair probably. And like, if you were like, Hey, what should I do with my hair? That's a good thing. I think then I think you've welcomed the conversation, but if you volunteer it, they could be like, I love my hair and I've tried other ways. Yeah. That's a good point. Maybe only if they ask, what if she loves her pants?

Maybe get new underwear? Campbell told us sometimes it's because of the underwear situation. I think if you're dating and it's something like that, it's okay to tell her. Yeah, especially when it's like something that...

Like makeup is so different because I hate to say this but like we all wear makeup but like camel toes it's not like normal to have a camel toe. Like I don't mean to be rude but you know what I mean? It's like the pants. Yeah it's not like something that we all strive to have on a daily basis or we all have regularly. Like usually if I knew I had a camel toe I'd be so grateful that someone told me that so I could prevent that from

happening I had a boss one time tell me she so I guess I used to have like a mustache and she did it in the best way ever she ordered these little like shavers to the office and then was like okay girls we all get one and she's like look it's so great I was like that's for fucking me I know yeah but I was so like cute she kind of like did it around yeah thank you and I was like mortified yeah I guess it is good to volunteer because some people like just don't care about certain things I

But I think that's the difference. Like, that's more in line with, like, the camel toe. Yeah. As opposed to, like, the makeup or the hair because you're picking that. Yeah. That's true. This is, like, something you can't see. And this isn't a choice. Like, we don't choose a girl facial hair or to have a camel toe always. Like, no girl wants that. No. But, like, we choose the makeup we put on our face. Yeah.

Yeah. Or like if you want shorter, long hair, it's like you decided that. Yeah. I guess like for example, let's say I wanted to cut my hair and I was like, I'm cutting my hair. And you're like, no. But if I was like, Alex, what do you think if I cut my hair? Right. Kind of like when you asked me about extensions, you were like, I'm getting them. And I was like, nah, don't get them. I was like,

so excited for you but I also want you to know you're like you're unbelievably gorgeous with short hair too yeah you're good at that yeah yeah that's yeah yeah right instead of being like what do you think I should I dye my hair or not yeah that would be asking you yeah as opposed like hey I'm gonna go like no right like oh I wish you wouldn't yeah but then again it's like if you were gonna dye your hair black I feel like being a good friend would be like don't do it please don't do it yeah that's true it's hard it is hard

You have to read the room, I guess. Yeah. And I guess it depends on your relationship, too. Like, I wouldn't feel comfortable telling someone down, like, someone else in the office, not down your hair, but you guys. I would be like, I love you guys. And I love you guys. We would know it came from a good spot. Yeah. Because you'd be like, I want you guys to look. Yeah. Yeah. Look your best self. Right. Right. That's a hard one. That was a really good question. Like, I like that you. I screenshot that a while ago. Do the donut, though. Because I asked. What? Do the donut.

the donut approach, the compliment critique compliment. Or the sandwich approach. Sandwich. Oh, I was like, donuts? Yeah, layer it in. The sandwich approach. Did you bring donuts? No, I screenshot that from a while ago because I was like, oh, that's a good question because I don't know how I would want to be told. And then I asked Mike, I was like, is there anything I wear or do that you think is like ugly and you never told me? He was like, not really, except...

Maybe when you put too much makeup on, but like, I don't really do that that often. Right. This is going to, this may be the takeaway for the listener. Like I'm going to ask Graham this afterwards. Yeah. Like, is there something I wear that's like not good? Like not good.

Yeah, the whole makeup thing can be a conversation for another time. There's nothing that grinds my gear more than when guys go, I like you better without makeup. I'm like, I don't fucking care. I like myself more with makeup on. So you're going to deal with it, okay? Sometimes I even think that about my friends, though. Like, oh, you went a little too far. You're so cute without it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But to each their own. And guys, I always laugh at grims. Like, I love when you don't wear makeup, and I'm like...

By no makeup, you mean tinted bronzer. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Or tinted moisturizer. Like, that's called the, you know. You mean no mascara, okay? No makeup is, trust me. No eyeliner. Literally, to guys, no makeup is like the no eye makeup. Yeah. Like, no, no, no. So you like when I wear everything but eyeliner. Okay, cool. Yeah, I have 17 shades of foundation on, but awesome. Got it. Yay for our first sponsored episode. This was great. I know. Alex, do what you do best. Like, comment, subscribe.

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